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[lukalee]

I know there is a trigger in my life that I need to just get rid of, but it is so hard. I can go weeks without drinking, but those weeks are when "he" is not around, but then he seems to "suck me in", and I become very vulnerable. I love him so, but I know he is what is fucking up my life and mind,
I don't expect any responses. I just need a place where I need to remind myself to finally let it all go. It jsut hurts really, really bad. I would go into more detail, but I'm not ready.

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

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Stay strong lukalee

[tlrgs]

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vent let it all out ..
it helps the soul.
stay strong and think positive

[Captnjack]

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Dear luks I hate seeing you hurt'in..... he's gotta give you the oceans right!!!!!!!! I never took you for one to be sucked in!!!! .......I'm the last person to give advice on these things....but I hope you are ok thats all and things work out
Love always cap

[bloggy]

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Lukalee

Have you read any of Katie Byron's books?

Her 'work' (as she calls it) has helped me loads in my relationship. You can also see videos etc. on her website http://www.thework.com/ - it won't be everyone's cup of tea, but it has helped me- she focuses on relationships mainly.

I have just seen she has a new site Life coaching - Personal Development seems interesting and not expensive. I think I will join- could do with it right now.

[KateH1]

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Hi Luka,
Sorry you are hurting and having a rough time of it. You have been really doing so well. You will figure this out. Keep going and stay strong.

xxx Kate

[A Work in Progress]

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Luk, this really is like a difficult break-up isn't it, especially in the sense that the beloved seducer resides within our own brains/minds, whispering all kinds of lying bullshit but in oh so sweet a way.... Be strong. You might check out:

Pema Chodron: When Things Fall Apart. Very helpful.

And, my two cents on Katie Byron is that much of her writing is sound... but beware that she and her followers/advisers have created something of a huge money-making machine, including group "trainings" that are very cult-like, a bit alarming. I have looked into her work (and her "work") quite a bit...

wip

[bloggy]

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Yes I also read about the cult thing, and I am sure she has made a lot of money from what she does, but if you go to here site and just watch a few videos or whatever, I certainly don't feel anyone is trying to do me!

Quite the opposite, I find it helpful

[A Work in Progress]

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That's great, Marbella, and I agree with you, that much of what she has written is good, and on-target for lots of people. The concepts are drawn from Buddhist psychology, in large part (her husband is big in the Buddhist world), and from contemporary cognitive-behavioral psychology.

The large group "trainings" are apparently where things get really strange...

wip

[bloggy]

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I couldnt afford the group trainings anyway, or get the time away, but sometimes I think being in a cult induced coma might be preferable to this.

At least I probably would not dry heave with mad panic attacks wondering how I will get to the shop to buy a can of beer to calm me down

[A Work in Progress]

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Ha! I hadn't thought about that aspect.... lol !!

Hoping things are MUCH better for you, and for Luk... soon...

wip

[dexterhead]

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Luk: :l:l:l

[Captnjack]

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hey for the dex I miss you so much

[Sheepish]

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Hi Lukalee
I am sorry.
Heartbreak sucks.
Heartbreak + hangover sucks MORE.
sending you a big fat hug.
-Sheep

[keeta]

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Luka...I hope you are feeling better...I am sorry you are hurting.
We are all here for you!