Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

[Guest]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

I do believe if the daughter is that sick ,coughing up blood that the focus should be SOLEY on her now, Cindis soul searching should be secondary to her daughters crisis.

[cowgal]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

wondering!?

I just got a chance to read and was wondering what I was missing Cap's posts!!!??? Guess I missed alot of excitement!

Cindi, I truly love you and hope and pray you find help and peace for yourself, and that your daughter gets it..................you know I am struggling too, know it is not a majic bullet, but still heading out to Lenair in about 1 month, Barry and I have corresponded about it, I am starting to get excited, heck, just getting away from Mike "Mr. willpower", will be a blessing in itself (an expensive one, but welcome just the same!)

love you girlie, call me anytime and I will do the same, welcome back!!!!

MA:l:h:h

[Chief]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

Cindi.....you know we are all with you and we are right about your daughter.....CaptJ is just confused...

You just stay positive, stay AF, and you will be helping her through her struggle. Stick with us, girl....

Don

[cowgal]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

yeah

:hCindi, like everyone says, just stay strong, you know you are loved here..................:l:l:h

Stay close and take care of yourself so you CAN be there for your daughter.:heart::happyheart:

love,

MA

[Doggygirl]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

I don't want to hijack this thread, and I'm posting this while having PAGES of posts to catch up on. But Gabby I think your words are so true! That battlefield really is in the mind. Best wishes to you as you fight to get it back.

DG

gabby;376907 wrote: Cindi, I too was really pulling for you as I hoped for anther possible magic fix. However it only convinces me more of what i am already thinking.

When I was af for so long on the topa and I swore that that was it! the topa. solely and completely. In fact i couldnt understand anyone who was takin it and drinkin. What the heck was wrong with them?

But i now realize how much it was only a tool and my real success was my mindset.

I had it and had it strong.

As some of you know I hit about 18 -19 months af and then started drinkin again.

I simply lost my mindset. Or more like i gave myself permission to give it up. Thought I had tackled the whole thing and that it would be ok to drink again. Even on topa. So then i quit topa and really started drinkin. And then the old addiction grabbed on again. Before you knew it i was drinkin my old 12 pk a day. So i get worried and started topa again and guess what????My old godsend that i swore by before doesnt work now. why?????? no mind set!!!


for any of this we can get help and other little tools but if we dont click into a mind set and set our mind to succeed.....it aint gonna happen.

[Doggygirl]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

OK - just got done catching up.

Cindi, I hope your visit with your daughter goes well. I will do my best to send good positive vibes to both of you, in hopes that sort of thing really helps!!!! Be strong.

:l
DG

[wonderworld]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

cindi;377194 wrote: However, what WW was saying is "you can do what you want but you must be what you want them to be."

yes my beautiful and ABSOLUTELY "okay" friend :l. And it's not a preachy or "be like me" kind of thing AT ALL, but rather that when the energy shifts on that deep level - in a relationship as intense as that - stuff starts to break loose all on its own. It's god-damned amazing. There is SO MUCH good stuff that can happen in your guys's future!

Good luck with the visit-


and Big hugs :l

WW xox

[Cinders]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

Okay, everyone. Something is still happening with me. I cannot explain it.

I hesitate to say I am "healed" but there is still something going on with me inside.

I am evolving somehow.

I had a wonderful visit with my girl and she is doing much better.

I think she wants to go back to rehab. We shall see.

Love,
Cindi

[dexterhead]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

Hi Cindi: wishing the best for you and your daughter. You are truly an inspiration to me with your wisdom and tenacity .:l:h

[Michaela]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

Cindi,

I go from tears, to happy to amazed at your recent posts. Please keep sharing and from one Mother who would DIE for her children to another, you and your baby are in my thoughts and prayers. It makes me want to hug my daughter right now who wants ME to stop drinking.

Keep posting us with updates.

:h
Mich

[KateH1]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

This is a very emotionally charged thread for sure. Reading over some of the posts has made me think. I know for certain, that, if it came to it, I would sacrifice my life to save any one of my children. We write that we would "take a bullet" or "die" for our children....but some, will not quit drinking for their children. Why is this? A drunk partent, is harming their children, period! When a child is asking and begging a parent to stop drinking, that child is in emotional distres. Why is it that many say they would die for thier children but won't quit drinking for them?

This is not written to anyone in particular, it asks for no one to anwser in the first person....it is just food for thought.

Kate

[okydoky]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

Hmmm....
K1....I wonder if you are a parent?
Wonder if you ever drank when you had children?
Hmmm?

[KateH1]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

I will answer that, but, again if you read my post you would understand, this is not a judgement, but a point to ponder. I have three grown children. All terrific and none of them drink...thank god! I also have 2 granddaughter that I am very involved with. I did not drink until my youngest son was 14. My drinking escalated after they were all on their own.

OK...so, I answered your question and no, I do not think I am better than anyone for not drinking when my children were young. I am grateful that I didn't. I know that my drinking has been harmful non the less. I am no less a former drunk than anyone else. A drunk is a drunk, is a drunk, period!

So hmmmmmmmmm

[shelbysmiles]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

Kate-I have asked myself that question many times. I do not know the answer. I do not understand completely this addiction that I have. I do know that if not for my children I would never even try.

[KateH1]

Lenair was not the Silver Bullet

I know Shelby....and that was my point exactly. It is the irony of alcohol. It is also a point to ponder. I can also tell you this, even though my children were grown when they discovered my drinking, it was still painful for them. One of the motivators to finally stop for me, was an emotional conversation with my daughter.