AF ARMY- 10 September 2008
I didn't really cope- I just upped my booze levels
It would take me days to write it here- but I don't have any bad feelings toward my parents as my mum was 17 when she had me and my dad 21. They already had an 18 month old daughter- I was very much not wanted.
My sister was a difficult child- I was one of those babies that needed to be woken up to be fed- I have since been told that is a sign of neglect. I think the neglect that obviously occurred manifested itself later- I became troublesome, moody and all the rest of it around 13, and was already drinking regularly by 14. I do not blame my parents- (dad died at 62) but I can now see how everything occurred.
These days I consider my mum as a friend- I have helped her financially for years (she doesn't know) and will support her as long as I can in any way. She in turn gives her all for animals in need- that is good enough for me- I guess really she should never have had kids, but getting pregnant at 15 I suppose she didn't know
I also think our difficult upbringings were meant to be for whatever reason.
startingover;406233 wrote: Wow Marbella, how the hell did you cope? I really struggle with my mum. I have spent the last couple of years either feeling like a surrogate mother or feeling guilty. Its bloody horrible. Do you get on with your folks?
It would take me days to write it here- but I don't have any bad feelings toward my parents as my mum was 17 when she had me and my dad 21. They already had an 18 month old daughter- I was very much not wanted.
My sister was a difficult child- I was one of those babies that needed to be woken up to be fed- I have since been told that is a sign of neglect. I think the neglect that obviously occurred manifested itself later- I became troublesome, moody and all the rest of it around 13, and was already drinking regularly by 14. I do not blame my parents- (dad died at 62) but I can now see how everything occurred.
These days I consider my mum as a friend- I have helped her financially for years (she doesn't know) and will support her as long as I can in any way. She in turn gives her all for animals in need- that is good enough for me- I guess really she should never have had kids, but getting pregnant at 15 I suppose she didn't know
I also think our difficult upbringings were meant to be for whatever reason.
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