Can Never Think You're Cured....

[Eve11]

Can Never Think You're Cured....

AA,
I can relate. I had quit drinking for 7 years. My old boyfriend had encouraged me to drop A.A. as he had a sister who traded her drinking addiction to an A.A. addiction and he feared the same. Without the support I started having that kind of thinking that you can relate to. I was in my 7th year of being A.F. was married for only a year and the wine that the relatives had with dinner started looking pretty tempting.

"I can just have one with a nice dinner" I started to tell myself. Then I'd go to parties where people were wild and crazy and I'd say "I never was that bad...maybe I don't have a problem!" Before you know it I was back to drinking after 7 long years of AF.

I've been drinking again for 16 years and am with MWO now. I'm modding and doing well since Sept 2, 08 only because I've been coming here daily! I subscribed to encourage me to keep my commitment
(plus to help keep this a free site for the folks who need it when they are ready to find this place). It's wonderful isn't it?

So glad you were able to resist the temptation. My 16 years of drinking without moderating have had some real downs believe me. If I could have just stayed AF and not gone back I would have. We'll see how the modding goes. One day at a time.

[gyco]

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nc share AA i admire you, your wisdom and your strenght you are a inspiratioto this site and your rt tht temtation never goes some beleive or say it does ,no matter where we go AA meetings, online AA,MY WAY OUT or what ever others there are its always there to bite us in the ass,keep it up never let your guard down gyco

[IAD]

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It's funny AA you should post that thread. I was talking to a friend about Alcoholics A. and going to it. He then asked how long will it take before your cured. Ha! A lot of people really don't understand, we have to make them aware. IAD.

[momof3]

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Great and thought provoking post. I've been there and done that. A more popular one for me was..."I'm so stressed out, I deserve to relax and settle down with a glass of wine." That one got me everytime.

Now, I'm finally growing up...I just have to handle the stress and make something positive out of it...very empowering. I never could have done it without 5 months of sobriety behind me. Our sobriety is a long journey with each day bringing a new learning for sure.

Mo3

[Heavenly]

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Glad you posted because at 17 months I have been torn between moderating and staying af...ha...no choice for me I think !

Well, you have re-affirmed and I must stand strong ...or sit in my case !!! Can't be bothered to stand up ... LOL

Thanks AA

[needachange]

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Oh how I hope to be able to say that one day. Way to go. And me buy AL and not partake. Not a chance. Today is day 3 and I am trying to tell myself all the stores are closed. Be soooo very proud of yourself.

[YoungAtHeart]

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You're a remarkable man, AA. Thanks for sharing your experience. We all need to remember your wise words.

[Carmac]

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Thanks AA for the post. Certainly reminds me (and all of us) thst we don't have to be "down" to have gravings....and that they can pop up at anytime.

[southernbelle47]

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Thank AA
It was a real help yesterday as hubby had beer after beer...
I thought of what you said and did and came in the house and started dinner and ate some homemade yeast rolls.
Ha!
I may get fat but they were better tasting than a drink!
:lNancy

[momof3]

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Carmac, It's true that even when we are at hour happiest moments, that beast can rear its ugly head.

SB, Yum, I want some of those yeast rolls with hot butter.

[Determinator]

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nicely done AAthlete! a great warning to all of us.

[Starlight Impress Forever]

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Well AA, personally, I don`t think I`ll ever be what I could term "cured" of my alcoholism. Having now been AF for a considerable period, I truly do believe that the alcoholic in me simply lies dormant for now and hopefully forever.

I think the best we can hope for as far as the "cure" is concerned, is the knowledge that we have taken back control and are able to make the informed choice of not to drink when the "wouldn`t it be nice" psychology floods our brains. Sure, having a chilled glass of wine may well be nice at the time, but, we know if we succumb, we will be unceremoniously dumped back at "GO", and, I consider it far easier to stay out than it was to find my way out.

We will always encounter tempting situations and circumstances.......the choice is ours alone, though.

I commend you for yet again making the right and only choice for your health and happiness.

Darling x

[irishlady]

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Well done AA for not giving in to that craving. As we go further down the road of soberiety we may think that the cravings will gradually get weaker and weaker and hopefully go away for ever, in my experience that just isn't so. Although they aren't as frequent as during the early days of being sober they can, when they rear their ugly head be very powerful indeed, even managing to persuade us that now we have reached this stage perhaps we can at last control our drinking. Don't be fooled, remember what happened the last time you thought that. I have now realised that I will never be able to control my drinking, so, I don't drink anymore.

[1967]

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wow... u did me a big favor by posting this... it's an excellent heads up not to become over confident.
i've worked hard to stay AF ... day 90 is this friday... i don't want to screw it up! thanks mucho!

[Starlight Impress Forever]

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1967.........huge congrats to you for your 90 day AF mark on Friday.

Darling x