My mom is copper

[Rachelita]

Hey y'all, just thought it would be helpful to let people know my mom joined and her i.d. name is copper. She is posting in the family member's forum, although she has not yet created her own thread. She doesn't have much faith in this place because of lack of response. I told her to post her own thread, but I doubt anything will happen unless she gets feedback. Maybe some pms from people familiar with me?

I slipped on day 7 and had a glass of wine and she called me on it. Right before an AA meeting too. I suck.

Tomorrow is a new day right?

[Croft]

My mom is copper

tomorrow is so a new day!!!

Hey, you went 6 days and those days count. Dont think they don't. Don't let anyone tell you those days don't count.

Just get back on track and start counting again.

[Rachelita]

My mom is copper

I wish I didn't have to start over!

[bloggy]

My mom is copper

Rachelita- you don't have to start over, it is all how you want to interpret it yourself- I don't think you are lying to yourself to say you have had 8 sober days, but did have a glass of wine on day 7. OK- it wasn't AF but it was sober.

Just think about what led to you drinking that glass- what were you feeling before you drank it? Angry, worried, bored- whatever- and next time you are feeling that way be extra vigilant.

I think you are doing great- hang on in there.

[tlrgs]

My mom is copper

the thing is realize what you want and how you want to get there ..keep going ..stay strong and think positive

[river0123]

My mom is copper

I am counting sober days, which right now are 92. In that whole time I've had less than one full glass of AL. And I'm still counting, because every day since day one has been a better day. I call it 90 days into the journey...this is a journey, not an instant cure...
Don't feel bad about yourself, you're doing so well. You don't suck. God does not make junk.:h

[Sunbeam]

My mom is copper

Hi Rachelita,
I did respond to your mom's post a couple of days ago in the moderation section. New people on the boards sometimes don't remember where they have posted. You can go there and read what was posted. I'm glad you are already here and posting yourself - that was a good part of the response. It takes a long time for trust to be established. In our abusive drinking we all lied to our most important family members/supporters. I think in our culture most people believe the AA philosophy, which is much more rigid than here. So all your aAF days do count! And if you only had one glass of wine, that is an improvement. I think it is important that you continue working toward your AF goal, but be sure to count all kinds of progress. Otherwise, you could get discouraged and relapse big time.

[1967]

My mom is copper

sunbeam is right about not remembering where one posts.
i couldn't figure it out for a long time.
i still have to search my id to find my replys.
honestly, i like it when people reply to my posts but sometimes i just feel better to put my thoughts in print.
when i help someone else w/my thoughts it's even better.

[Seacailin]

My mom is copper

Thank you for bringing your Mom to our attention. Sometimes I miss people's posts if they are buried in another thread. I hate when that happens. You do not suck Woman. Every sober day counts. I know what AA says. I have been in and out of AA since 1989. You can take what you need from AA and leave the rest. You are doing your best and that is what matters.

[river0123]

My mom is copper

I started a thread for her in family forum - hope that's okay

[Popeye]

My mom is copper

Rachelita,
I have an over-critical parent, but I learned to accept that's just the way he is.
It doesn't make him right.

a glass of wine in seven days is really very good.
I wish I could say that.
You don't suck!
That's awesome

[LVT25]

My mom is copper

FYI--

Something I learned awhile back is you can click on "Quick Links" and then click on "Todays Posts" and its easier to see all of them instead of going to them forum at a time. Sometimes I have to go back a couple of pages, but I can usually find the current ones. (Since I'm here so much!)
Hope this helps! (And BTW--Rachilita, you do not suck--you are doing quite well. Just don't quit trying, ok girl?)

[Evie.Lou]

My mom is copper

You do not suck.you are in the process of recovery.It is a ON OFF trial and error thing.as long as you do not STOP TRYING it will lead to SUCESS...If I can do it,I KNOW YOU CAN.I will watch for your MOM and respond to her posts with encouragement and hope...She will see you getting better and better and I pray that she will come to understand the recovery process.I will help in a gentle loving way..We can Beat the Beast,together...stay POSITIVE and STRONG...Blessings to you..

[bestlifeldms]

My mom is copper

Rach! I posted a welcome to your mom in Family! Glad she is with us! You're doing great!

[Rachelita]

My mom is copper

Thank you all so much. Unfortunately my mother is not into posting on here. I don't think she has much faith in this site. She wants me to go to intensive outpatient therapy. I can't afford that so I go to AA. I'd like to try women for sobriety, but haven't found any meetings near me so far... At least they don't make you say you're an alcoholic every single time you have something to say...
She's really freaked that I had a glass of wine last night after one week AF. BUT, I wasn't kicked out...