AF Army 21st October 2008

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AF Army 21st October 2008

Guitarista;447440 wrote: Starter's, as i'm sure you well know, and Gee's i do.... men and women are different species....The old line...'mate, when you understand 'em, let me know'...lol..

True, but it doesnt make life very easy does it?
Had some probs with my hubby over the site too. But thankfully they are resolved now.(fingers crossed :-))

[hippie37]

AF Army 21st October 2008

Hey Dork!

It's not that I was trying to come down hard on my ex or even Cym's g/f. I totally appreciated where she was coming from to be honest. I could see it from her point of view. But for me it was a godsend finding a forum like this. I needed that 'connection' with fellow 'alkies' so I didn't feel so alone in my struggles. She still couldn't see that though and that's what pissed me off. Admittedly if I WAS spending too much time online then I would 'pull back' and make time for her. The thing was though at that time I was doubting whether we still had a relationship in the first place. I kind of preffered being on the forum rather than spending time with her. I used the forum probably to 'get away' from the truth and the decision I knew I had to make. Well as you know after another month being sober I finally made the desicion to call it a day.

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx

[cymru]

AF Army 21st October 2008

thank you starts. You make perfect sense. She has gone through alot of stuff herself that I will pm u about, but its very diff for her sometimes and I do understand that. Its just that its constant at the mo and it seems nothing will change her view on it.
Thanks for all your views peeps. Off to town now. Speak soon.

[cymru]

AF Army 21st October 2008

morning glad. Hope your good.

[cymru]

AF Army 21st October 2008

Vlad!

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AF Army 21st October 2008

hippie37;447444 wrote: Hey Dork!

It's not that I was trying to come down hard on my ex or even Cym's g/f. I totally appreciated where she was coming from to be honest. I could see it from her point of view. But for me it was a godsend finding a forum like this. I needed that 'connection' with fellow 'alkies' so I didn't feel so alone in my struggles. She still couldn't see that though and that's what pissed me off. Admittedly if I WAS spending too much time online then I would 'pull back' and make time for her. The thing was though at that time I was doubting whether we still had a relationship in the first place. I kind of preffered being on the forum rather than spending time with her. I used the forum probably to 'get away' from the truth and the decision I knew I had to make. Well as you know after another month being sober I finally made the desicion to call it a day.

Love and Happiness
Hippie
xx

Its a godsend for this "dork" too ;-) I always felt very alone with my drinking. Rich drinks and used to do all the things i did but he never got addicted. He never tried to blot things out. So finding people here I can relate to is pretty overwhelming. I dont feel such a bad person any more. I try not to come on quite as much as I did and I also as you know do some of my posting and reading in the middle of the night! But overall, he is very understanding and asks after you all on a regular basis.
But when he was going through his bad patch I felt like shit and felt I had to choose....

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KP she might settle down. Being with someone with a problem is a tough thing to do. Anyway, you have to stay here because it really helps YOU and right now, thats what you need. You wont be any good to her if you are drinking.

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Anyway, thought you were going to town?
Get going and get sorted!!!! Thats your arse kicking for today me lad!

[Guitarista]

AF Army 21st October 2008

Hippie. yep.. beware the spirit's, of the alcoholic kind. them's fightin' fuel for some, and can't be returned to. vino/beer my poison, am not aggro on the grog, but gee's, have noticed a couple of neat whisky's can fire me up! I wish you well on your journey. G

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AF Army 21st October 2008

On my last bender I think I drank half a bottle of gin and a bottle and a bit of wine. I thought I was going to die

[Guitarista]

AF Army 21st October 2008

Starter's. at risk of sounding like a big dork....What a great place this is!....no?

[Guitarista]

AF Army 21st October 2008

Starter's....is that all you drank you wimp?!...(just joking!)

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This is the best Mr G!!!
Yep, thats all I drank THAT evening :-) and bearing in mind I am a woman and dont weigh that much was a lot for me :-)))))

[Guitarista]

AF Army 21st October 2008

So how's your battle going Starter's if you don't mind me asking?

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I dont mind you asking at all Mr G.
I stopped drinking on 9th July. I was suffering from severe depression, personal probs and all the crap that comes with that.
I read the book, got some supplements, went on Prozac and had counselling. I cannot quite believe how much better I feel now.
So in a nutshell I think its going well, cravings are much easier and I am now learning to live a life without alcohol or drugs.