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[Evie.Lou]

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Thanks WIP. Buttons are being pushed already.
Got a SICK feeling that that the worse is yet to come.
I am not answering the phone.They will figure it out.

[Evie.Lou]

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I know he knows what is going on. I can clearly smell his Cherry Pipe Tobacco

[hart]

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(((Evie))))

When my mom died I fell apart. I am an only child so her last few days on earth I watched her die in the hospital. I couldn't even pack her stuff, I just took a very few keepsakes. Her brothers and Sisters put up a marker, she wanted and had paid to be cremated. I have never been there. My mother is not there, she is in my and other people who loves her memories. To hell with anyone else, I say rememberance in your own way and place is your right. I am very sorry hon and my family all acted like idiots when both my grandmother and grandfather died. These things can really be an ugly time. So take care of yourself, hon. Don't let yourself end up in the hospital like I did.:l:l

[Evie.Lou]

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I am thinking of ME.Is that WRONG???

[A Work in Progress]

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Of course it isn't wrong. If you're in a burning house, you run outside. That's "thinking of you."

[cyclefan]

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Evie.Lou;482857 wrote: Do you know how tough a American Indian can Be???

What tribe Evie Lou? I have two Navajos who work for me, so I know a little.

[beatle]

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Evie, you are so wise and full of self-knowledge. Do what you think is best-- for you. Nothing less will do.
Grieving is one of the most personal things you ever have to do. Do it the best way for you. We are all here to support you in your decision.

[LookingToGrow]

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Nicely put, Beatle.

[Mackeral]

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Evie, my grandma didnt go to my grandads funeral last year...Not because she didnt love him or out of disrespect..But because it was best for her..My grandad wouldnt of minded..He'd of said do what makes you feel comfortable..And nobody batted an eyelid at the funeral..they all understood..
Sometimes we build things up in our minds and make them bigger than they need to be..
Whats that saying..Those who matter wont mind..And those that mind dont matter..I proberly ballsed that up..

[universal]

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Evie,

You need to stay healthy for you......so yes, it is about you - your health, your mental well being.

I really like the "grieving in my own way" idea. If people can't understand that - too bad.

you have my support hon.

[Chelle12]

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Sorry to hear of your loss, Evie. Everyone grieves in their own different way, you take as much time and space away as you need.
My love and prayers are with you.
XxX

[Evie.Lou]

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He was born on the Seneca Reservation with Heron tribal ancestry.
I am sober now and don't think I could stay that way if i went into the hornets nest that is gathering down there.It's a 6 or7 hr. drive so i couldn't go and just turn around and come home.
I am NOT GONNA GO ....please help me stick with my decision. It is self preservation.
My brother said he would ever speak to me again if i don't go??? I guess that's his way to grieve, not mine.

[Chelle12]

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Evie.Lou;483089 wrote:
My brother said he would ever speak to me again if i don't go??? I guess that's his way to grieve, not mine.

people sometimes lash out when they grieve, because they're hurting inside themselves. Stick with your decision Evie, you know what's going to be best for YOU and your step-dad would have wanted that for you too.

[DeeBee]

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Oh Evie, I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. You have had so much on your plate lately -- please make sure you take care of No 1 EVIE!!!
You know what's best for you, so stick to your guns.
Lots a love
Dee

[Evie.Lou]

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I am more determined than ever NOT TO GO. Thanks Guys you are so good to have on my side.