Men do Hurt and get down

[Sheepish]

Men do Hurt and get down

Captn
Depression is a true imbalance of chemicals in the brain that impacts daily life. It is an ILLNESS, not a weakness. I know- as I have been dealing with it my whole life. The first thing is understanding that it is NOT you and the only way to understand that is to not drink-which you have done. You are on your way.
Best wishes to you
-Sheep

[panadol]

Men do Hurt and get down

Hi Cap
You've been given some great advice!
I think its a really good thing that you've
opened up about your depression now
you can get the help that you need.
I've been there too and still battle
from time to time but talking to a
good therapist really helps. You're
a gorgeous man you need to believe
it too! :l Pan

[cymru]

Men do Hurt and get down

I suffer with depression capt. I feel alot of it has to do with the drugs and alc that I have abused myself with over the years. They numb the feelings and emotions we keep inside. When we stop lots come out and our body can't deal with real life. I take Prozac and try to deal with things day by day.
There is nothing wrong with it capt. It's part of life. Were here to help each other deal with it.

[Guest]

Men do Hurt and get down

Ah Capt..if she was going to leave you shed have left by now...sounds like shes telling you to get some help. If you keep ignoring her she might leave in the future , if you act on it and she sees you tying , which you obviously are with the drink , she will support you. Go to the docs , get the help you need and be happy my friend....life is wonderfull!

[cmhguy3]

Men do Hurt and get down

Lots of great words here. I too have had this battle, but "dealing" with these issues is part of the process I think, at least it has been for me. And remember that alcohol is also a depressant and we had been self medicating for many years. Its takes time to refragement the brain. Hang tight, you are on your way.

Guy

[Seacailin]

Men do Hurt and get down

Oh Capt
I love you so much and can't bear to see you in such pain. Even though I am a woman, I was raised to be tough, self-reliant, and no crying was allowed. If I need a "reason" to cry, one would surely be provided. They know not what they did. Please get the help that you need Capt. You are truly one of God's gifts. I take Lexapro and see a therapist. I swore that I would not go back on AD's after going off of them 5 years ago, but the Lexapro seems to be helping me. Stay close by my dear friend. You are far from weak. Your ability to share shows strength.:l

[maddiva]

Men do Hurt and get down

I am a mum of two teenage mini men and I know that men get depressed. I think it is hard to be a man. But handsome is a man who cries!!!!! Yep - go to the doctor. Another good thing, I read a book by a nutritionist called Patrick Holford (note man!!) he has one called 'optimum nutrition for the mind'and explores depression and what you can do - plus the effects of alcohol and how to redress the balance and a load of other waffle. It may help you, but it is worth a try. It really is a good - informative read. Hope all works out. Depression is the black cloud that hangs over you!!! Hope the sun breaks through:thumbs:

[Dolly Sunshine]

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Cap,
You will not always hate yourself. I thought that way also and it was probably way easier for be because of my gender. You seem too be a wonderful man. Do whatever it takes to love yourself. Lot's of people here love you and alcoholics tend to be very bright people.

[betty boop]

Men do Hurt and get down

Cap, you are stronger than you think!!!

After going through counselling for depression myself, My advice to you is to step back from this and look at it from another perspective, What if this was a friend of yours asking for advise? What would you say to them??? and follow your own advice ......

Love & Hugs, BB xx

[rubywillow]

Men do Hurt and get down

I'm battling with my man right now over his depression. He won't believe me when I say he is depressed, but I KNOW he is. His daughter, a medical professional knows he is. He asked his doctor and they skipped over it, so he feels vindicated. She doesn't live with him. He also has anger issues. Most people are afraid of him. Not me, but he's not often warm and fuzzy. It's taking a toll on his relationships, even with me. I'm tired of having to live around his life and moods. Don't worry, I'm in for the long haul (already been over 38 years, duh!!) but I understand him better than he does! His negativity about EVERYTHING is so, well, depressing!

[AAthlete]

Men do Hurt and get down

Cap, I always told myself that I was a man and shouldn't show emotions or weakness and look where it got me.

We have to be willing to admit that we can't do this all ourselves that we can't do it all ourselves. One of the things that we learn to do in my group is simply express how we feel, no matter how big or small. When you get it out and share it with another person you take away its power. Otherwise, the little things in our brains have a way or twisting and turning themselves into something bigger than it should be.

So, just be willing to do WHATEVER it takes to get yourself healthy. Talk to a therapist, start opening up to your partner, and you'll be amazed at how much better you feel. But go into it with an open mind, because no amount of therapy or talking will do any good if you feel like you have been forced into it.

[momof3]

Men do Hurt and get down

Our minister, during her sermon today talked about the depression that many of us feel, particularly over the winter months and through the holiday season. She said that depression is not a character flaw; it is not something to be ashamed of. Rather, it is a bio-chemical imbalance that often requires medical or therapuetic support.

[LVT25]

Men do Hurt and get down

Dear Captn--

I really feel for you men that deal with these issues. I also think society and upbringing plays a huge role in how feelings are dealt with. My husband has very strong feelings about how men should act. You know the macho-no chance of acting gay kinda thing. He's a very kind and loving man, but would never admit to needing help in that way. Therefore he is passing that on to our sons.
Good for you for being open about it. Get some help, make your relationship the best it can be!:l

[tlrgs]

Men do Hurt and get down

cap its ok to cry feel the real you ..let him come out and speak .. that is still one of my problem too but its getting so much better now ..love you buddy stay strong and think positive .. you will get over this hump in the road ..

[Rags]

Men do Hurt and get down

Dear CAp,
My heart goes out to you. I also suffer from depression, so like many others who have responded to your post, we understand what you must be going through, and feel for you.
Please do whatever it takes to help get yourself out of the chasm. Your partner is sticking by you........allow her help you. Talking about your fears and problems rather than keeping them bottled up will help.
Yeah, we all think we have to be tough and stoic and not talk about it.........and that usually gets us nowhere except deeper.
I hope that you will be able to overcome this nasty part of your pathway.
Please be kind and gentle to yourself.