Divorce thread

[dexterhead]

Seems a lot of us have gone through or are going through this miserable experience. I thought maybe a thread on the subject would be in order ... a place to vent, scream, and also for those who've come out on the other side to give advice on how to cope. Me, 3 years divorced and still have bad dreams all the time about him giving me the boot!

[greeneyes]

Divorce thread

I'm in the middle of one. Today estranged one said he still loved me and if things didn't work out with him & GF and I still wanted him, well........... I stared at him in disbelief :H He has bigger balls than I remember :H:H:H

[time2change]

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They say that divorce is one of the most devastating things you could go through. I can finally understand. I am in the final stages of a completely mutual divorce. I asked for it, he agreed to all my terms, and although he has been stalling the papers he has been co-operative. For those who have gone through a confrontational divorce I can only image the heartbreak and sadness you must feel. I do not know how anyone who has been married for over 20 years can not feel totally destroyed by a divorce. Fianancially, emotionally, and in so many ways my life is changning. My only hope is that I can spare my children from the fear, and heartbreak I am feeling. This relationship has been over for years but it still does not change the fact that we have spent those years together,

[Lila]

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I find divorce very very stressful, but very very liberating. It is a chance to create a new life.

[Ripple]

Divorce thread

greeneyes;502146 wrote: I'm in the middle of one. Today estranged one said he still loved me and if things didn't work out with him & GF and I still wanted him, well........... I stared at him in disbelief :H He has bigger balls than I remember :H:H:H

oh green, he has 'infected' balls. .. anything we throw away is leftovers.. and you know wot that means --- the flavor gets stronger and stronger and stronger.. then there is MOLD and then, in the dumpster.

Good thread DEX .. i'll be back. :H

i can go downstairs now and laugh like hell for no reason.. :H

[Ripple]

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i could be wrong some lose their taste after awhile.. i would tell him keep his ornaments, you have new ones now on your tree that are full rounded and crusted in gold!!! :l

[Marshy]

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Sorry to butt in on a thread I know nothing about (divorce), but...

greeneyes;502146 wrote: Today estranged one said he still loved me and if things didn't work out with him & GF and I still wanted him, well...........

That is OUTRAGEOUS!!!! :H

[Eve11]

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Divorce is a terrible experience no matter what the circumstances. I'm one for trying to work it out with good communication and giving counselors a try with their good objective opinions but I understand that some relationships aren't worth salvaging as I well know when my first husband's girlfriend told me he was cheating on her too!!
I am now happily remarried (18 years)to a successful wonderful guy and living the life of "living well is the best revenge." The ex died of alcohol intoxication in the late 80s.
Like this quote that I found on the internet for some of you that it will apply to.
We should do everything
Within Reason
To save a good relationship
But if we are constantly
Trying to save it
It's probably not a good relationship.
Javan from his book "Meet Me Halfway"

Hugs to all especially to those hurting.
Eve11

[Eve11]

Divorce thread

Divorce is a terrible experience no matter what the circumstances. I'm one for trying to work it out with good communication and giving counselors a with their good objective opinions but I understand that some relationships aren't worth salvaging as I well know when my first husband's girlfriend told me he was cheating on her too!!
I am now happily remarried (18 years)to a successful wonderful guy and living the life of "living well is the best revenge." The ex died of alcohol intoxication in the late 80s.
Like this quote that I found on the internet for some of you that it will apply to.
We should do everything
Within Reason
To save a good relationship
But if we are constantly
Trying to save it
It's probably not a good relationship.
Javan from his book "Meet Me Halfway"

Hugs to all especially to those hurting.
Eve11

[Lila]

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Those are wise words, Eve. I really do believe that. Greeneyes, that IS really outrageous. Maybe someone is having a midlife crisis. Be strong. This WILL pass! Dexter, that is too bad. I am sorry to hear that.

[kitkatsue]

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Greeneyes,
I'm sorry to here about what you are going through.
I am going through a similar problem with my estranged husband. He has a 20 year old girlfriend who is a porn star, I know this because he felt it necessary to come over to my house, even though I have asked him not to, and tell me. And he has hinted at us getting back together, I told him there was no chance of that. Anyway not to rant on but I am trying to straighten my life out, but his uninvited phone calls and visits have me paranoid.
I had to resort to calling the police who said they will have a chat with him. I hope it works.

Anyway, your not alone!
Take care!

kat

[hart]

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hey kitkat, just wanted to tell u I understand been thru a very similar experience, heads up babe, it really does get better:l

[kitkatsue]

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Oh hart,
It has to! Cause I'm getting to old for this s#@$! ( STUFF

This is the last year of my thirties. I would like it to be a good one.

kitkat

[cowgal]

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not there yet

But it is scarey that everyone is telling me that is what I probably need to do............divorce, I am just so SCARED of the idea, that I look at EVERY reason to work at the relationship, :h:lBUT I am the only one working on it!!! :upset:So thanks for sharing that insight.:thanks:

Maybe it is time to put it to rest?? A fearful thought for the holidays, but maybe an enlightening one for the new year!?

MA

[Lila]

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I sure know that feeling, Cowgal. I am scared right now, maybe any change is scary? I am trying not to act out of fear, I don't always, really, but I am in fear right now. It is scary....