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[Lila]

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My life is now a happy challenge, not a mess!

[rudemama]

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I am glad you got the paperwork it is sad and that is part of the process i guess though i just want to sink in a tub all day change is painful i guess lets keep eachother strong as we move forward towards a new horison

[time2change]

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The update is that the papers were found and signed on Monday...... so on Wednesday I came home and my final judgement was in the mail. Shocked me a bit since I had no idea the papers were even found until Tuesday.
So the kids still had not been told and it was my biggest fear. Told the younger son today and he said "I always figured you two would get divorced". I guess that is why he has always asked me everyday if I need any help and has told me everyday that he loves me. Not many 14 year olds do that.
So after the refinance is done (Mon or Tues) I guess it will be over quickly. I sure do feel for those who can not come to amicable agreements. Must be complete hell.

[Lila]

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It is complete hell. I tell myself it is some kind of spiritual lesson for me!

[irish eyes]

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timeto change
Today is the first day of the rest of your life. The worst part is over, a grieving process now and new growth for you and your family. Be gentle with yourself, eat well and exercise. This too shall pass. :l
Luv x

[rudemama]

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wow time2change what a wonderful boy you have sensitive and caring hug and and tell him how much you love him each day it often seems redundant but i think they need it it has been one month today that we told the kids and x moved out its been a ride but we are hanging on with loving hearts it is the beginning of a new journey for us thinking of you and sending you hugs down the northeast corridor love rudemama :l :l

[time2change]

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News

I have finally finished the mortgage papers and received the funds to pay him. The house has technically be mine since the 2nd of Feb. My son has actually told his Dad that since this is not his house he should not tell him what chores to do. I tried last night to pay him all the money he was owed and it turned into an ugly fight. I took back his check and told him I was rethinking it all and was going to go by the book which would mean he owed me much more money. So today when I walked throught the door he wanted to know where the check from last night was. I gave it back to him and he says he will be moving out on Saturday. Happy Valentines to me!!!! 20+ years and he moves out on Valentines Day. I still feel good about the decision and I think his behavior this week makes it easier to walk away. Thank you all for your posts and PM's. I am taking this one day at a time!!!!

[inhiding]

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I'm so sorry Time, I'm with ya girl:l:upset::l:upset::l
BU

[time2change]

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Not sure how to deal with him leaving on Valentines Day, but I am going to to try to stay positive. My emotional tie to him has been over for a long time.

[rudemama]

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step by step....my sister told me last night valentine's day is a made up holiday anyways....thinking of you and the whole damn process....:h
rudemama

[greeneyes]

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Time, be your own valentine! Love yourself and your new life. It won't be a mess, it will be what you wish it to be. My hub wants back, but I cannot do it even though I have feelings for him, I simply can't go back there. It's not good for me and I have to look out for me.

The "Let It Go" reminded me of a Jerry Osteen show I watched. It gave me great food for thought.

[upnorthgirl]

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Love yourself..

Times will be hard, but remember to love yourself first, give yourself a big hug, and know we are sending love and strength to you :h

[greeneyes]

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Today I needed to resurrect this thread. I don't have anything to say really. Just looking at it. Wondering how everybody is doing.

[keeta]

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what moved you to resurrect this thread greenie? are you doing ok? (if you want to talk about it, of course)
I think of you often, and hope you are doing not just ok, but WELL!
The very best revenge is living WELL!!

K

[greeneyes]

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Yeah, I'm OK. I just looked at it because everyone is in different circumstances and even so, we can all support each other. I'm not looking for support really, just wondering who else is in the boat and how are we doing? Does anyone need a paddle, a life jacket, a hug?