So Sad My Heart Hurts

[bestlifeldms]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Be, Can't add much to what has already been given. Good stuff here. The National Suicide Prevention Life Line is a great idea. I am sure they are used to talking with individuals who have loved ones in remote locations, who are showing signs of being at risk and concern. I would think they can put you in touch with agencies that can take action and offer immediate help / intervention. You are strong, loving and giving. Your loved ones are so fortunate to have you. Ways exist to balance the need to take care of others and also take care of ourselves. Protect your sobriety and your health. Without that, you have nothing to give. Sending prayers and support. Hugs, Best

[witchywoman]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

I'm so sorry tht you are going thru this, good luck & look after yourself

[BecomingMeAtLast]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Hi,

Thanks so much for all of your posts. I had to get off this morning after posting. I was so tired from not sleeping well last night so I took a nap. I feel much better now. I can't tell you how much your posts mean to me.

cat, thanks for the link. I have it saved.

wip, you're right. I know you are. I know.

What made me realize how bad things are was an email from my ex-sister-in-law, she's more like a sister to me. She saw him recently, just last week, and couldn't believe how awful he looked. My sister was there and acted as if nothing was wrong. She sent me a photo of him and it all came back with my younger brother.

My HB supports me 100%. He's also an ex-detective. He said my brother doesn't fit the profile to shoot himself. But I know there are other ways and his health is so bad he could just do a bad bender to do it. He loves his son, though.

My nephew, my brother's son David, is calling him today. He is going to talk with him and get his insurance specifics. Talk with him about his job searching and let me know what is going on.

I think I'll invite my brother up here. This way I'll be in my element and my kids love him so much. I know I can't make him come up but my mom will foot the air fare. Mom may not want to see him but that's her choice. If I get my daughter on the phone she may be able to talk him into it. She's so friggin' cute she can talk anyone into anything! LOL

Your posts are helping me to devise a more practical plan and I will stay strong. I'm the strongest person in my family and always have been.

I love you guys so much. :h
Be

[JAMMS]

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Good...very good plan...yes..yes... get him to YOUR house ...I like it! I like it alot!:goodjob:

Your husband is an ex-detective?.... how sexy!! woo hoo. Very "Law and Order'.

You sound better....we love you too.....:h



p.s.Could you have your daughter call and talk me into not driniking tonight?

[UKSean]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Like I said "YOU PEOPLE ARE AWESOME.."

Be, the only thing I can do at this time will be to keep you and your family in my prayers.

Sean....

[BecomingMeAtLast]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Jamms,

My daughter would guilt you so bad you'd end up in the shower just to get away from her, LOL!

Can you tell I've done that?

Thanks, Sean.
Be

[Beaches]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Be that is an excellent idea to have your brother come to you. That way you can stay with your family and everyone can be around.

Thinking of you and sorry you are in such a stressful time right now.

[A Work in Progress]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Sounds like a wonderful plan, Be.

[universal]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Be......I am sorry you are going through such an awful time right now. I am so glad you had a nap and are feeling better and are trying to come up with practical ideas to help. You are right, you cannot force anyone to do anything but you are so caring - you are doing your best to help. I am glad you have a supportive family and even if your mom doesn't want to see him the fact that she will foot the airfare bill to get him to you is a good thing. She may just be dealing with her own fears etc. right now.

I hope that David can help as well. You are a very strong woman indeed. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you a cyber hug........

Love you, please take care and keep us posted.
Uni

[Charliegirl]

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Be,

Sorry for your sad situation. Just wondering do they have something like Lifeline (24hr telephone counselling) in the US. They will have the names of the contacts you need.

Look after yourself and your family

As hard as it sounds "The only life you can live is your own"

Hope it all works out eventually, though it may take some time as depression is a terrible thing.

[BecomingMeAtLast]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Charlie,

Yeah, I have depression, too, but I take care of it with Lexapro, a sun light and supplements. I've just started exercising (ok, I did the treadmill one day but it's a start!) and make myself get out of the house at least once a day.

My brother has never treated his. He's too stubborn. I am going to check into US services, thanks, and my younger brother may actually be able to help me with this as he now counsels prisoners who are addicts. I'm so proud of him, he's turned his life around 360.

My family, and I, do have to come first. My son is applying for college and is nervous. My daughter is in the awkward 12-year-old girl-to-woman stage and just started her period. I have to remember this.

I was hoping you'd mention my plan, wippy! The plan woman! Yes!

Thanks for the hug, uni. It means the world to me.

Be

[IAD]

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Becoming.......Lot's of us have depression........I'm on Zoloft. My father was at Walter Reed Army Hospital for 5 months with Manic Depression. I can be the most despondent SOB when I get like that. Ask my wife ! Ha! My oldest can be a depressing SOB sometimes....it runs in the family. Treat it....and go on. When my oldest was excepted to Towson Unv. He acted like it was nothing.....that's depression, he did'nt care. He should of been danceing in the street ! Handle this problem.........their are others here that do. IAD.

[LVT25]

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So sorry you're going through this. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, ok? :l:h

[BecomingMeAtLast]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

IAD, yeah, depression runs in the family, that's for sure. I'm on Lexapro.

Thanks, LVT :h

Well, my nephew never called so I don't know if he called his dad or not. I've called my mom and she's pretty sure he won't come up. He sits at his computer all day and does monster.com but does't get out. No networking at all. I've got his email address finally and will email him first then begin calling him. Wish me luck, this is one stubborn, depressed alcoholic we're dealing with here!

[aidanspappa]

So Sad My Heart Hurts

Be; I am so sorry. Many have said the same, so I will keep it short. I just want to add my name to the list of those here who are thinking of you and praying it works out for the best. Sounds like you have a plan; all I can contribute is "Any intent without a plan is only a wish". Take comfort in knowing you at least care enough to come up with a plan. Those you love are in your life becuase of you, not in spite of you, just know they are aware (on the inside) of how lucky they are.

We are just as lucky to know someone of your caliber. I used to think I was a good sibling; next to you I suck.

Cheers and God Speed on your journey my friend.