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**Seacailin** · January 13, 2009, 07:09 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Hi AP and Happy Birthday to Aidan!! I am a binge drinker, but I didn't always wait for the weekend. Whenever I picked up one drink, it would turn into a binge. I would not stop until I had to for one reason or another. Let me know if I can be of help.

**magpie** · January 13, 2009, 07:42 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Me too

Hi, This is the first time I have found this site and I feel elated. I am a binge drinker. I can go one night without alcohol and then I feel justified in drinking the next one. I cannot have one or two, What's the point? I drink to get as drunk as I can. I have a 3 and a 5 year old and am ashamed of my weakness.I am a mum, I shouldn't do this. My husband is a drinker as are all his family. He doesn't think I have a problem we just like a drink, everybody drinks. I know I have a problem but don't know how to stop. I need a healthy addiction. I have not found my replacement to fill the void when I don't drink. I have not drunk tonight (which is why I am awake at four in the morning) but tomorrow will be the test. I think there are many types of binge drinker. I have never told anyone all this and I am thankful for the opportunity.

**aidanspappa** · January 13, 2009, 07:50 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Magpie...we can do this!!! Thank you so much for finding this site. With eveyone else's help here I know we can "find a replacement to fill the void". What day are you on? I am on day 10, with only one weekend under my belt. I feel like not just counting days AF, but also counting weekends in a row AF. For me, that is the biggest challenge and the best outcome for my family. We can do this!!! We have to.

SeaC...I am/was like you stated, once it touched my lips the party is ON!!! Even if I am alone, regardless of the day. If I was golfing on a Thursday, threw a couple of beers down the hatch in the heat, caught a buzz...had a stiff drink at the clubhouse...went home, skipped dinner, put my son to bed and topped the evening off with whatever was around. What a trashcan I am/was. Notice, I am still working on this. Thanks for the help, and I want you to know I am here for you as well.

YES...this can work!!!!

**cymru** · January 13, 2009, 07:56 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Hi pappa. I am most definatley a binge drinker. Like others, i can go days, weeks or months without booze, but once i start i cant stop. I really feel i had(ve) got to the pinicle of my binge drinking. In the last 6-8 months my binges could last anything between 2-4 days, consuming 3 bottles of wine plus a day. I lose count of the ammount i drink, and have lost whole days to the bottle. I drink till my body cannot take anymore, and i physically cant drink anymore. I then have 3-4 days of huge depression, self lothing and the inability to eat. I can then go for lengthy periods with nothing.
I think its a matter of learning about your cravings and knowing when they are going to come and having a plan to put into action. They can be so strong for us bingers, and its so important to not work with the devil so to say, and realise whats happening, and no matter how much you know you want to drink, that its your choice, and that if you dont want to, you dont have too.
Bit of a ramble, but hope we can get through this affliction together.

**aidanspappa** · January 13, 2009, 08:06 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Cymru,

Oh...do I relate to your post. Thank you. This year I vowed differently; to curtail and understand why I was no longer in control; as stopping in the past was never permanent. Even when I would stop for days (not often though) I was always thinking of a 'reward' and the pattern would develop even worse.

Before finding this site I felt alone, uninspired, helpless and worthless. Alcohol robbed me of my God given sense of being; and it was my fault.

Peace

**gyco** · January 13, 2009, 09:59 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

hi AP,i can relate,i was a heavy drinker every day,but i could stop,it does sound like you've found the way,slow and easy,one step forward,don't look back,and positive thinking,sounds easy but the truth its like work,i know recently as you get older it will creep up on you and the effects are devastating to you,or me in that case.I've just recently stopped again,i havent hit my 1st weekend ,but i know there the hardest,as ive hurd many here say keep busy,i do wish you well gyco

**irish eyes** · January 13, 2009, 11:35 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Hi Aidenspapa
I too am a week end binge drinker and I dreaded last week end and am scared of this wend. It is a kind of a reward for a weeks work like I deserve it or something like that. Yep we need to be close together at the weekend. Day 13 AF here.

**gettingthere** · January 13, 2009, 11:44 AM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

HI AP and welcome!

10 days AF is a great accomplishment! Now you know you can get through those weekends without being drunk! Its a great feeling!

I too, am a binger. For the most part my drinking was on weekends like you. But every now and then, a Thursday, or a Tuesday, or even a MONDAY would end up in the bottom of a bottle. I could go for days with out even thinking about drinking (especially after a really bad drunken episode) But then I would conveniently forget how ugly that episode was and do it again! I am so tired of making an ass of myself! I am currently on Antabuse and plan to stay on it for the month of January, and hopefully February. So I am now 13 days AF and feel really good. I have some issues at home though and it makes it really tough when you want an escape. But I have to keep going for my kids. I know you can relate....

Keep going AP!! It will get easier I PROMISE!!!

**magpie** · January 13, 2009, 01:07 PM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Day2

Hi AP, I meant to say Happy Birthday to your little boy.I hope he had a lovely day. Our children are so special, I am hoping I can stay AF for them. I can't do it for myself, I don't care what happens to me, but I do care about them and their future. I am only day 2 and am already thinking about tonights temptation. If we stay focussed and have a goal I am sure we can do it. My goal is 2 weeks spanning 2 weekends. If I can do that I will feel ten feet tall. Good luck!

**bestlifeldms** · January 13, 2009, 01:20 PM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Welcome, Aidenspappa! Happpy Birthday to your little sweetheart! God love em! They grow up way too fast. Enjoy these days... I too was a binge drinker, although like others here, I didn't reserve it until just the week end. I could go, days, weeks, months without. But once I had one, look out - drank until I blacked out. I always had the best of intentions. I'll just have one, or a couple. Yea, right! Never happened. Binging on the week ends, through the week. Drinking regularly to excess. Blacking out. Doesn't matter. Problem drinking is problem drinking. It ended up being very black and white for me. I can't drink. I spent of time reading and analysing my drinking trying to understand why, or how. The fact is, it was a problem. My only answer was sobriety. If I don't drink, I eliminate the problem. Period. Good Luck!

**fundrunk** · January 13, 2009, 01:28 PM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Hey. I'm right there with you too. I'm a weekend binge drinker. It messes up the whole week. It's a visious circle which is hard to brake. Me, I feel I need to brake it completely, I can't seem to find the strength any other way.

**aidanspappa** · January 13, 2009, 02:39 PM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Thank you all for the birthday wishes for my son, forgive my absence as we have been celebrating (no AL) all day!!

I wonder if we can form a thread on the weekend to post help for folks like me who will be faced with relatives, friends, organized chaos, etc? I will start something then and see where it goes. Last weekend was great reading everyone's comments.

My grattitude is unending

**ylfa** · January 13, 2009, 03:34 PM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

I am binge drinker. Just read my old posts and you see that hell . I drink until I do not know or remember what I have been doing. It is really hell in earth.
Take care,
Ylfa

**cymru** · January 13, 2009, 03:39 PM

Binge Drinkers...I need you

Hey ylfa. i have been there so many times. Ive played hockey in Scandinavia. Where are you from?

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