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[KAT20]

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Ditto here, We did talk about it though. I have this discussion with my therapist as well. She says there is no normal, just whats right for you. We are both on antidepressants which I am told decrease your sex drive. I need to get over the shyness of this self thing.

[KAT20]

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Evie Lou, You have inspired me. Send sexy vibs my way.

[Evie.Lou]

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KAT20;524209 wrote: Ditto here, We did talk about it though. I have this discussion with my therapist as well. She says there is no normal, just whats right for you. We are both on antidepressants which I am told decrease your sex drive. I need to get over the shyness of this self thing.

It really is about getting to know and accept yourself and learning to be comfortable in your own body...Then to realize that GOD gave you all those FEEL GOOD receptors to be enjoyed as a natural part of being a human.
I went thru a time of feeling worthless, when I was drinking and that lead me to not thinking I was worth the good feelings that sharing intimacy with someone I LOVE and WHO LOVED ME BACK. I am finding such a joyful part of my recovery process to have those healthy SEXUAL FEELINGS...AGAIN !!!

[last call]

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I can't remember the last time I was intimate without being drunk. That's going to be a rough one for me. First I have to find someone to test me on it. Lots of luck with that. The :elk:

[Evie.Lou]

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Mary ann...use an imaginary lover...they never let you down !!! he will say what you want to hear, do what you want him to look..look and smell just as you like. I used BRUT cologne on my pillowcase to get me in the mood..Guess what kind of cologne HUBBY wears ???
I did, and then one day, the real thing walked in my life...But first i created it thru my thought and actions.

[last call]

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Imaginary lover

OK, let me go get some Old Spice. Should I put on a movie? Wear my negligee? I'll name him Brad ( I'm getting horny already). Be back in a couple of hours. :wow::happy:

[Guest]

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dont forget his mask Mary ann!!

[Guest]

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Jeeze, shes taking along time , int she...?

[startingover]

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these things take time limey.....

[Lila]

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Evie Lou
If I do that, will I get myself a husband??! And a decent one this time? I can't wait to hear back about the Old Spice!
Lila

[Evie.Lou]

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Dear Lila...you must program GOOD HUSBAND into your thoughts of your imaginary lover...I DID..and that's what I got..
Make sense ???

[Lila]

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Can you be a bit more detailed on what to do? I really mean it. My last husband wasn't that great for me...

[Lila]

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I have lots of imagination....

[Evie.Lou]

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What does a GOOD HUSBAND mean to you ??? You must program your own.
To me, i visualized a life partner that enjoyed the same things that I do. Someone that wasn't so wrapped up in themselves that there would be nothing left for me.
I wanted a man that was loyal and trustworthy. I saw the two of us growing old together....still holding hands and looking into each others eyes, with deep LOVE.He would love the foods that i cooked..be open minded..the list goes on and on. You must make your own list. Get it down to every little detail and then feel the emotion, as though he was already there. Use all of your senses. Emotion is the power of the universe so makes sure you do what ever it takes to get yourself to really feel it..really believe it.
The stronger the emotion the quicker it manifests. Make sense ?
RJ tapes work on similiar principles...you see yourself as you want to be...the first step in becoming who you want to be.

[Lila]

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Yes, I will print this out. I kind of know this, but need to be reminded. This is great, because I am already imagining HIM, the man of my dreams....don't know if I am ready, but will be soon...thanks for your story, too!