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    #16
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    Evie, that just sounds impossible to me, I cant even imagine going about trying that. I know I just dont get it but at the moment I just want to service the fecker so I know that the important part of the relationship to him is been looked after.Lol, im sorry for been such a shallow thick but that is exactly where my heads at about it all.
    What you have posted would be the equivelent of climbing Mt. Everest for me!

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      #17
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      i think men need physical love and women need emotional love (of varying degrees of course and some are totally the opposite!). men show love with sex and women find it hard to receive that love if their emotional needs aren't being met by him. i think men feel rejected spiritually and emotionally when their partner doesn't want to be intimate physically with them. women feel used and taken for granted when men want sex, but don't give enough in other ways...it's a circle, eh?

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        #18
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        TRY MASTURBATION SWEETHEART...I MEAN IT...TRY...OK ??? Use the power of your imagination..and a vibrator ...It's a start to awakening the energy that is lying dormant.
        sigpicEyes on the PRIZE, a SOBER Future !!!

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          #19
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          Peacenick,
          You just said what I was trying to think about saying but couldn't describe it as well. It is EXACTLY how I am at present with my husband and it is a terrible cycle
          xx
          There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.

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            #20
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            Limers and friends, I am soooo glad you posted this. Someone posted something like this awhile back and a few people answered sober sex is great. I just stepped back and decided there must be something wrong with me. I have discussed this issue with my therapist and psychiatrist a few times. I suppose its a new learning phrase with this sober thing. When I use to drink we use to have Jungle love. I am 42 an married 8 years now. It is a second marriage and I remember the early phase also and was hoping it would last forever. My first husband and I were together 11 years and sex tapered off as well.

            I know for me alcohol takes away inhibitions and self consciousness. Only problem is many times I did'nt remember having it. Right now I am trying not to obsess on it to much as I know it just makes it worse. I am told a majority of sex drive for females is in our head. So, I try to get in the mind set early in the day and a few times that has helped. Problem is alot of times I'm in the mood in the middle of the day. My husband retires in 3 years and I told the girls at work I may be going home for lunch alot, ha ha. Another issue is anti depressants. They mess with our sex drive as well. I do believe that some sort of intimacy is important for a healthy marriage. My doctor says just talk to my husband about it. Alot of things I decide in my head as to how he feels about it.

            I am hoping to get that middle age peak in sex drive but that has not happen yet. I am seeing a physican now that works with hormones and fatigue. I am going to ask him about a testosterone cream next time I see him. Don't know but I heard in small doses it helps female sex drive. I'll let you know if its sucessful.

            Limers, Lets all have sex Sat. night, Maybe just thinking about sex all over the world and imaging everyone else is having more than use will help.

            Think Sexy all

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              #21
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              God no booze, no junk food (diet) and sober sex all on a Saturday night, I know I'm up for a challenge but bloody hell!
              xx
              There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.

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                #22
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                "...so he is nice to me about 3 times a year. ...: ROFL Oney!
                And yeah, I'm probably still in honeymoon land... but I fully intend on keeping it this way.

                I had a 7 year relationship (kinda) which for the last 3 or 4 years was just like Shelby said... room mates.. good friends (and never was much of a sexual thing to begin with). I broke it off because I wanted more than that. It took 2 years to find the right guy and I'm not going to let the sexual part of this relationship fade into oblivion.

                And I think Evie is right on the money. You DO attract what you portray. Me thinks.

                Limers... it's all nice and good you want to make him happy (yeah yeah, if a man is happy in bed, his world is right) but... YOU need some satisfaction too, hun!
                Okay, WHO put a stop payment on my reality check?

                Winning since October 24th, 2013

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                  #23
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                  Kat, log on sunday and hopefully we will both have had sex.

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                    #24
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                    Bandit;520631 wrote: Peacenick,
                    You just said what I was trying to think about saying but couldn't describe it as well. It is EXACTLY how I am at present with my husband and it is a terrible cycle
                    xx
                    that understanding helped me alot in terms of understanding my husband's desire for sex when it was the farthest thing from my mind.

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                      #25
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                      Bandit;520634 wrote: God no booze, no junk food (diet) and sober sex all on a Saturday night, I know I'm up for a challenge but bloody hell!
                      xx
                      Bandy , I only diet 5 days a week and take fri and sat off, eat shite on sat night, thats an order! You will get depressed if you have NOTHING to look foreord...we all know im going to win our weightloss/gain challenge anyways...:H

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                        #26
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                        sunshine_gg;520635 wrote: "...so he is nice to me about 3 times a year. ...: ROFL Oney!
                        And yeah, I'm probably still in honeymoon land... but I fully intend on keeping it this way.

                        I had a 7 year relationship (kinda) which for the last 3 or 4 years was just like Shelby said... room mates.. good friends (and never was much of a sexual thing to begin with). I broke it off because I wanted more than that. It took 2 years to find the right guy and I'm not going to let the sexual part of this relationship fade into oblivion.

                        And I think Evie is right on the money. You DO attract what you portray. Me thinks.

                        Limers... it's all nice and good you want to make him happy (yeah yeah, if a man is happy in bed, his world is right) but... YOU need some satisfaction too, hun!
                        and it is true, you HAVE to work at not losing that, or you surly will lose it. not always easy, but necessary!

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                          #27
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                          [QUOTE=peacenik;520629]i think men need physical love and women need emotional love (of varying degrees of course and some are totally the opposite!). men show love with sex and women find it hard to receive that love if their emotional needs aren't being met by him. i think men feel rejected spiritually and emotionally when their partner doesn't want to be intimate physically with them. women feel used and taken for granted when men want sex, but don't give enough in other ways...it's a circle, eh?[/QUOT ,

                          Couldnt agree more!

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                            #28
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                            Masturbation ?!?!?!? If I don't have time for sex, when do I have time for that ? Better yet when am I alone for that. LOL

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                              #29
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                              "taking the piss"...what does that mean???

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                                #30
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                                Maybe I need a Barry White CD. I bet he got more in his life time and he was definetly not a sexy dude. In my next life I'm coming back as a hoochy mamma.

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