Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

[vlad]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I was both, I would drink openly but sneak extra drinks in the kitchen when no one was looking to be more drunk.

[momof3]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I used to be a little bit of both (out in the open and closet). When out in public, I usually drank moderately but I would have quite a few drinks before I went out and quite a few after I returned.

Toward the end, I did not hide the amount I drank from my husband. I was so addicted and so desperate, I did not even care. Or, perhaps I was asking for help? He wouldn't say anything to me about the amount I drank, but he would line the empty bottles up on the kitchen counter for me to see in the morning.

Needless to say, I am happy that those days are over. For one, it is nice to not feel so ashamed of myself and so out of control.

[momof3]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I used to be a little bit of both. When out in public, I would usually drink moderately but I usually had quite a few drinks before I went out and quite a few after I returned.

Toward the end, I did not hide the amount I drank from my husband. I was so addicted and so desperate, I did not even care. Or, perhaps I was asking for help? He wouldn't say anything to me about the amount I drank, but he would line the empty bottles up on the kitchen counter for me to see in the morning.

Needless to say, I am happy that those days are over. For one, it is nice to not feel so ashamed of myself and so out of control.

[momof3]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

Sorry folks. I was trying to delete my repeated post.

[upnorthgirl]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I think I am a bit of both. I would drink openly at parties or functions, but hide how much I was drinking--slipping in a few more ounces of Vodka when no one was looking. On occasion I even had a water bottle filled with vodka in my purse so I could top off my drink in secret.

At home, I either did it in secret or just lied about how much. Would have two bottles--one that I openly drank from and one hidden away. My husband--a nondrinker--wondered why I was so smashed when only a little bit was gone from the bottle.

I have confessed and told him everything--he was shocked.

[sdlovespackers]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I am sooooo much "in the closet drinker". Don't get me wrong...I know my family knows...they have no idea how much but they know. In the "real world"...job stuff....NO WAY!!!! Even at X-mas parties..I will have a few b4 I go...have two drinks...be "tipsy" to others...and I will make the comment..."I'm such a light-weight".....What a freakin joke...no I only drink at home...I live in a small town...and with the job I do....nobody could ever find out!!!!!

[universal]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I am a closet drinker - I mean people know, and like the others I mod when out - but yes, have hidden bottles, have run to the beer store to "stock up" cause BF knew how much was there 2 days ago so have to make sure the same amount is there when he comes back etc.........

pathetic.......

[boozehag]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I never drank secretly. Always out socially and only at home if I had the company of other boozehags like myself which were in plenty full supply as most people knew the could rely on me for the few drinks. I used to be able to drink more than most and be still standing in the wee hours but in the last few years it was black out every time and half the time I would wake up and have no idea what I did or said or how I got home etc so things were deterioating very rapidly so it was either get a grip on myself or die.
BH

[peacenik]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

ready2change;526613 wrote: Thanks for all the replies, but I still have to ask (cause I wonder for myself), if you drink "in the open", meaning your spouse/significant other either drinks as well or doesn't care, do you think you would drink less if you had to hide it?

Conversely, if you "hide it" from them, do you think you would drink more or less if you drank openly in front of them?

Heavenly, I mostly meant in the home, because that is where I am hearing most of the stories of hiding stashes.

Peacenik...interesting that your husband didn't know? Even though my hubby drinks alot, and gets drunk, he doesn't have much of a personality change, but I can smell it a mile away...perhaps I have a sensitive nose?

I would imagine that perhaps there is a bit more guilt when hiding our drinking, as the deception is just one more aspect of our drinking. Although we do decieve ourselves anyways quite possibly when we think we don't have a problem, if in fact we really do.

Hmm..this is interesting.

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[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I'm open about my drinking but not publicly open with others about my own personal opinion/feeling that I drink too much. Only those closest to me know that I struggle to control it and they are so wonderful and nonjudgemental about it.

[peacenik]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

i drank more as a closet drinker because i had to "slam" it before anyone found out, and who knew when my next chance to slip out onto the porch would be? i could drink a bottle of wine in about 2 minutes if i "had" to.

i'm so glad that i have "fessed up" and i don't have to hide from the people who love and care about me the most...or myself.

[Roxanne]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I was an open and secret drinker. If I opened a bottle of wine during the day, intending to only have a glass, and ended up having most of the bottle, I would either hide it (or drink it to hide the evidence.) Hiding it most certainly made me drink more.

[dexterhead]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

I was a big-time sneaker. My drinking didn't become a problem until I was in my late 30s. In a twisted way, I was proud of myself for how well I could fake being sober. I was a reporter and would go to board meetings half-schnockered. I hid stuff from my spouse, although eventually he caught on. Now I live alone, and home is where I do my problem drinking. The only person in my "offline" life who knows about it is one friend.
Funny ... I wrote in my journal as a teenager that I probably wouldn't drink after I turned the legal drinking age, 18 then. I thought it wouldn't be fun if it weren't illicit.

[ready2change]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

i could drink a bottle of wine in about 2 minutes if i "had" to.

Wow Peacenik...now that's a talent :-) Just kidding...I have done similar when I didn't want to "share" with hubby....totally takes any "fun" that we ever thought we were getting from drinking, doesn't it?

Thanks everyone for the replies, very interesting indeed.

R2C

[Lucy Van Pelt]

Are you a secret drinker or out in the open?

MAJOR in the closet drinker...as in...I would actually drink IN MY CLOSET! I did it all. Hid bottles, had the open visable one and the open "hidden" one, so it looked like I wasn't drinking much. Drank before and after parties. I even on occasion, if out to dinner, would go "to the bathroom", stopping on the way at the bar to get a quick glass of wine (I would pay for it and bring it in the bathroom with me). Ugh!!

In answer to the question, would I have drank more or less if not hiding...that is a hard one to answer. I would have to drink less, because the amount was so obviously not normal. But, I also may have drank more when hidden because I would often have to "down it"...as in, take a few big gulps when i had the chance to get to it.

I will say that being "hidden" certainly added to the feeling of shame...big time. Ugh, how I hated to think about what I was doing....

Well, I am over 40 days AF now, and SOOOO glad that I DONT HAVE TO DO THAT ANYMORE!!!! What a huge relief!! It is like being freed from bondage!!!!


Beth