I have read people with addictions talk about their change of life moment, car accident, arrest, divorce etc... Well my moment came Dec 29 2008 and I have not touch alcohol since that date.
My husband was feeling ill, so I was drinking alone, next morning I had a bad hangover, my husband really started getting ill and ended up in hospital, he almost died, he was bleeding internally, the crazy thing is they said the bleeding was cause from esophageal varices caused by cirrhosis of the liver, my husband has Diabetes?s 2 and a diseases called hemochromtosis (iron overload) which can hurt your liver.
the hospital DRs told me my husband was an alcoholic and that is what caused the liver cirrhosis, ( they look down on alcohlics with cirrhosis) I told them he was not an alcoholic he only drinks 1-2 beers a few nights a week, it really hurt me for them to think he had the drinking problem and not caused by his other health problems.
The guilt knowing I should be the one with the liver problems not him.
So he can not touch alcohol the rest of his life (he might not have a very long life if he does not get a liver transplant) so I decided this was the time for me to stop drinking too, it really has not been hard, a few times the stress of his illness I thought ?a nice glass of wine would be relaxing?, but he can't have any so I don't.
You might think this sobriety won?t last because you are doing it for your husband not for yourself, but that is wrong, I want to be the responsible person I have always been, drinking was making me irresponsible and I hated that about myself, any emergency can happen to anyone, I need to be the best I can be for my husband whenever he needs me. I like who I am now, I can hold my head high again and sleep with a good conscience. One day at a time.:l
Thanks for letting me get this guilt off my chest
Plumeria
My husband was feeling ill, so I was drinking alone, next morning I had a bad hangover, my husband really started getting ill and ended up in hospital, he almost died, he was bleeding internally, the crazy thing is they said the bleeding was cause from esophageal varices caused by cirrhosis of the liver, my husband has Diabetes?s 2 and a diseases called hemochromtosis (iron overload) which can hurt your liver.
the hospital DRs told me my husband was an alcoholic and that is what caused the liver cirrhosis, ( they look down on alcohlics with cirrhosis) I told them he was not an alcoholic he only drinks 1-2 beers a few nights a week, it really hurt me for them to think he had the drinking problem and not caused by his other health problems.
The guilt knowing I should be the one with the liver problems not him.
So he can not touch alcohol the rest of his life (he might not have a very long life if he does not get a liver transplant) so I decided this was the time for me to stop drinking too, it really has not been hard, a few times the stress of his illness I thought ?a nice glass of wine would be relaxing?, but he can't have any so I don't.
You might think this sobriety won?t last because you are doing it for your husband not for yourself, but that is wrong, I want to be the responsible person I have always been, drinking was making me irresponsible and I hated that about myself, any emergency can happen to anyone, I need to be the best I can be for my husband whenever he needs me. I like who I am now, I can hold my head high again and sleep with a good conscience. One day at a time.:l
Thanks for letting me get this guilt off my chest
Plumeria
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