always reminded

[Yosemite Sam]

Hey, All

Its been a while since i have posted here... I am doing fine,
every thing is under control in my life but some how i am
always reminded of what my choices were.
I have a friend of the family who has had a problem with AL
for a long time... I was open with him about my problems but
he would not hear it... it did not take.
Currently he is on the social services roll in holland [ where he lives ]
He lost his job 4 years ago by missing time and or arriving to work
drunk [ i had done this too, in the past ] he is not eating and is determined
to drink himself to death.
This is so hard to deal with... He calls me daily, but will not seek help.
any money he gets he drinks it away. He is sending me warnings that he is
looking to end his life. I was in touch with his family in holland and they are
very disappointed with him and are resigned to his demise.
I am coming to the point where i think death would be a relief. It is tough
to see a smart 54 year old who is so captured by this that he would always
choose AL of any thing else. It reminds me of where i was and it is so hard
that he will not listen.
I am guessing that i will be short on old friend soon, and even though i see
myself in his choices, i will miss him and am pissed off that he can not
seem to make an effort... Just one correct choice, just for today. He is
being soooo selfish it just reminds me of myself and makes me want
to shake him until he stops.

There by the grace of God go i... Good by old friend.

Sam

[Angelcakes]

always reminded

Hey Sam I can feel your frustration...you just wanna shake some f***ing sense into him right?? But you can't do that and although it looks pretty hopeless right now I'm really saying a little prayer for your strength & your friends life.

xo

[peacenik]

always reminded

sam, that sucks.
my daughter's grandma is the same way, only she tells us all to get over it and deal with "her" alcoholism, and that she's raised her kids (drunk the whole time) and now she can drink all day everyday if she wants to.
she wouldn't even consider rehab or detox (she would need medical detox), and is resigned to the fact that al will be the death of her.

annoying really, all her kids act like she has cancer to mentally prepare for her death.

makes me realize exactly what i do not want to let myself become again.

[Yosemite Sam]

always reminded

Thanks, guys,
I just can not get over how selfish this action is and how despite all the
pain one inflicts on ones self that one will not just one step in the direction
of help.
Han needs to be detoxed too, as he gets the DT's fairly soon after stopping
Al intake. Yes My frustration has gotten to the point of resignation and disappointment,
And a perspective into how I once was... perhaps i see too much of myself here.

Sam

[polaryzed]

always reminded

Hi Sam

Wow, Sam, Angel, P., it sounds like we need some prayers for a few people. I thought the problem was isolated to a small number of people, (that's me with my head in the sand again). I was thinking just a couple of days ago, abt. a relative of mine who is in the same condition. I have not seen him for a couple of years. When he calls, I can barely understand what he is saying, and his voice wreaks of AL. My heart feels so heavy knowing he is becoming just like his dad. My beloved uncle who died at 54 of cirrosis.

He is coming back east for his nieces wedding in June. I am going to try and get the courage to tell him about MWO and the wonderful people here. I just pray he'll listen.

I wish I could understand why some people feel so Lost!