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    I'm @ my wits end...

    (I posted this in subs,... but was hoping for a response)...

    I just love seeing the first signs of spring around here too!
    Last week while on the river paddling, I saw Osprey, lots of wildflowers just strting to bloom, even saw a few butterflies already.
    The highlight was playing peek-a-boo along the river bank with a mink, between the rocks. They're so cute & curious!

    Had a friend of mine stop by again today, (the same one that was here yesterday w/ a big bottle of wine...who took a nap on our couch)
    She's having problems @ home,...has been calling in sick to work all week, her Hubby's mad...
    She showed up here @ 9:30 this AM w/another big bottle She left me a mssg on my phone last night @ work & wanted me to buy her a box of wine & leave it under her car, on my way home...(I pretended not to have herd the mssg, before I left town...I'm not going there...)
    Her Hubby is a power tripper,... and has had recent surgery, so she's feeling overwhelmed w/him in the house all the time, and having him watching her all the time.
    I've been trying to encourage her to check out MWO, I've loaned her RJ's book months ago...
    I don't know what else I can do.
    I don't want to try & lecture her, she's already getting grief @ home. But she's not being honest with herself.


    I'd appreciate any input, I've also been on the recieving end of the "microscopic life", but "you can't "Bullshit a bullshitter,..."
    I can feel her pain, but, I can't contribute, to the damage. I'm a modder. I feel like I'm being a hypocrite, on a certain level,...but then again, I'm honest with myself and I've found a way to live and maintain my lifestyle, in a healthy, happy way that doesn't impose on my loved ones, or my livlihood.


    I'm just so frustrated. I try to get her to take a hike or walk along the river,..she says she's too tired. (That was right after she told me she was so tired of doing nothing...)
    The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

    #2
    I'm @ my wits end...

    Seems to me you need this like a hole in the head St. Jude.

    She seems hell bent on going on a mad one for a while but you need to let her know your not going to be the one who is going to facilitate it!

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      #3
      I'm @ my wits end...

      Dear SJ,

      Had the same problem for the last few weeks. A person I met in rehab kept showing up at my door drunk...just out the hospital with bottle in hand. I wanted to save her and in the end I couldn't. I have to let her go to save me.

      She had all the right excuses ... her mom died (so did mine).. bad marriage.. (been there)... I just need few days to recover (it's been months)... My husband left me (I would have left her too)...

      Save you, and tell her to go home deal with her issues and move on or you never will....
      Those who cannot remember the past, are condemned to repeat it!


      :beach:

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        #4
        I'm @ my wits end...

        Thanks Limers,
        I'm afaid your right.
        I don't want to turn my back on her in her time of need. But I don't want her to make a habit of making herself @ home here... if she's not willing to be honest with herself.
        I have enough on my plate, w/out taking on her problems, or pissing off her Hubby.(or mine,... this isn't exactly a "flop house")
        She called me again tonight @ work & wanted me to pick something up for her...
        My phone's in my truck again, for the night.
        If my parents need to reach me they know my Hubby's Cell #... But that in itself is bullshit. Christ
        , the amount I'm paying for Cell service,...now I'm leaving the damn thing in my truck, so I don't have to deal with her!
        cMaybe I'm more like my Mom than I thought!
        The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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          #5
          I'm @ my wits end...

          I agree with Prov and Limey.
          Save yourself. She is the only one that can save herself...
          Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
          Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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            #6
            I'm @ my wits end...

            The trouble is, the more you do the more she will expect.
            Phone in truck is good idea at this point I think...
            Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
            Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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              #7
              I'm @ my wits end...

              Strangely enough,
              Her showing up w/the wine (especially @ 9:30 in the AM!!) is not a problem with me. I get wicked migraines if I drink wine, so I have no temptation there whatsoever...
              If anything, seeing her, lying to my face, and being F%&%%D up... is a huge turn off to me drinking even in moderation right now!

              I'm just worried about her.
              I've been there too...
              The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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                #8
                I'm @ my wits end...

                I say this with all the pain....

                Last week I took my "problem drinker" to the state line (in the US) put her out at a 7-11 (gas station/store) of her home state, dialed the number to alcohol intervention and drove away. She had been in the detox of the hospital 5 times in 15 days. Yep, and everytime the cab dropped her off at my house....

                So I took her to there dropped her off dialed the phone and drove away. She walked the store bummed a 1.00 and drank rubbing alcohol and they took her away.

                Part of me feel angry, guilty, sad... I cried so hard when I found out that my hubby was scare for me the I came here and ask for advice and they all said.... Let it be... and I did...

                Don't own what you didn't poop out (I was being nice there) and don't "should" all over yourself.

                You are strong, wonderful, amazing and worth all of it. Don't let someone's pain be yours, you have enough of your own.
                Those who cannot remember the past, are condemned to repeat it!


                :beach:

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                  #9
                  I'm @ my wits end...

                  Providence,
                  I'm so sorry,... there are no words. You've been thru so much ... OMG girl.

                  Sorry for my slow responce here... Hubby just got called out on an emergency call, (I hate when that happens!) Sittin' listenin' to the scanner.... Highly over-rated)

                  I love that he's a caring and kind man. I hate the worrying,... doesn't sound like a fire though. Just a vehicle roll over,... Apparantly, nobody's around,... must have caught a ride home...(hopefully)
                  We live in a remote area, so where the truck rolled, (according to the scanner) is just downstream, a few miles.
                  It's a really windy road. Rainy night, slippery... lots of deer around after fresh rain...
                  Reminds me I should go slower, I'm always in a hurry, on my 10 mi commute to town.
                  It's so pretty, I should go slower.
                  Maybe soon I'll just paddle to work!:H
                  The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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                    #10
                    I'm @ my wits end...

                    OMG!!
                    How ridiculous is this! I just went out & got my phone out of my truck,... because Hubby's still out on this emergency call!
                    I've been listening to the scanner,... but what if he'd try to call me?

                    Scott is the asst fire chief for our dist. He drove the fire truck down to that roll over accident.

                    And look @ who I'm stressing over,...till a while ago.

                    God does have his ways of putting things into perspective,..doesn't he...
                    The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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                      #11
                      I'm @ my wits end...

                      :thanks: Gia,
                      I'm completly wired now from adrenaline, Hubby got home safe,....finally!
                      But I'm wide awake!
                      Now he's being all pissy @ me for typing too loud on the puter! LOL
                      Who do you think woke his happy A$$ up for his friggin fire call? Dip-friggn sh*t!
                      Assistant fire chief my A$$!

                      Don't mind me... just venting a bit...SOB, Can't hear his friggin paiger, but I'm typing too frigging loud!


                      Hugs All,
                      :l
                      Hubby's suck! (especially when you're married to em!)
                      The rest of you guys.... love ya bunches!
                      The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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                        #12
                        I'm @ my wits end...

                        hubbies, omg. :H:H

                        cindi
                        AF April 9, 2016

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                          #13
                          I'm @ my wits end...

                          Gia, that doesn't happen very often around here!!:upset:

                          I've never been so damn "saintly" since I got friggin maried!

                          There should be a written document,... before you sign anything!

                          The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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                            #14
                            I'm @ my wits end...

                            @ least I'm married to Mr Radio Shack,... I get a good deal on batteries!
                            Book club @ my place in la Manana' :H
                            The only thing worth stealing is a kiss...:flower: zwink:

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                              #15
                              I'm @ my wits end...

                              hi jude, I like that,saint is not your title, you can be a friend but you ll never save her,she has to either shit or get off the pot,dont jeopardise what you've worked so hard for, i do wish you well gyco

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