The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

[Angelcakes]

Morning all Day, umm...not sure!! I'll have to check the drinktracker...I think 10??
Feeling pretty amazing.
Mr Cakes flew off to Sydney this morning for an interview...he'll be back tomorrow. I've been allowing myself to think about going back there...all the places we used to go for walks & to eat, going to friends for a barbie...not to mention the free babysitting (my parents) - they won't mind us taking advantage of that service at all!!!
How are you guys doing?? haven't seen Tawny on this thread lately - I saw a photo of your wood pile on another thread Tawny, Im sure that was a very satisfying job...I can imagine every time you walk past it thinking 'yep, the wood sheds full'!!!
Have a great day all.

xo

[Angelcakes]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

yep, day 10. Ezz you still with me??

[Guitarista]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Morning Angel, and all to come.
Great job on 10 day's Angel! Is this your longest af stint for a while, or ever?! Congratulations!
Have a free, (with no feckin' chains of addiction) and magical day everyone.................G.

[crystal]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Morning everyone,

Great job on 10 days Af Angel. It's day 5 for me. I woke with a headache thismorning, not sure what caused it, at least I know it wasn't alcohol. I have kept myself busy the last few days and will do the same today.
Have a lovely day guys.

[ezzmae]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

I'm back on day 2 again. I am so annoyed with myself. I know that I should be upbeat and focusing on being positive for the future, but that is what I did last week and I still had a drink on Monday. My husband has to really start supporting me, instead of hoping that I will have a drink with him. I am a bit of a control freak so I don't understand why I can't control my drinking. It really is the complete love/hate relationship with AL.

Today is my daughter's 6th birthday. We are having a small party of friends. I spent all day yesterday baking and today I got up early to get food prepared. I still want to go to the gym, but I may run out of time.

Congrats on getting to day 10 angel.

[Angelcakes]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Hi Crystal - go you! I find the day3-6 the worst, headaches, super grumpy, just wanting a drink...it's still hard but I think it's actually getting a bit easier, frankly I'm astounded!! I'll be sticking close again towards the end of the week though.
Ezz, that's a shame...I know how hard it is when Mr Cakes is having a glass of wine. I'm quite positive I would've caved last Friday night if I didn't have to meet my friend at the gym.
But anyway, more AF days/less drunk days = improvement for me.
Oh, and happy birthday to little Ezz.

xo

[Angelcakes]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Oh and G, it's my longest stint...probably since I was in Egypt 14yrs ago...there was no booze in the little town I stayed in, which is why I didn't drink!! 3 months...
Even when I was preggers I allowed myself 2 drinks per week (doctors recommended 7/week)

[boozehag]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Afternoon all
I know yiz are trying to do 30 days AF an all but going back to zero if you have a drink does not make a lot of sense to me and could be very demotivating. IMHO having a drink on one day does not cancel out previous AF days - you just dont count that one. If you drank one day in a month then that would 29/30 AF days which sounds so much better than going back to zero each time. Also RJ never did manage 30 days AF but she still got a handle on her drinking. I drank after 7 months but that did not cancel out the previous 7 months - as long as you get straight back into your plan and learn from the circumstances in which you drank so that you can plan against it happening again then valuable lesson is learned. It may not seem like it sometimes but bit by bit day by day we are all changing our habits and our relationship with AL.
BH

[ronnie]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Hi boozehag, what a wonderful post I really like your idea and it makes sense I am going to change my way of thinking from now on, thankyou

[Guitarista]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Evening all! BH, yep, day by day we are changing our habits and relationship with al, and this is a handy thing to keep in mind. We don't 'fail' because we caved in after day 2 or 3 or 451, i think it is a process, a real learning process, and while we are still in the game, the fight, the struggle, the arena, we are winning, we are progressing, and learning about our OWN unique relationship with alcohol, and what techniques, and strategies work best for US. Unfortunately, it is usually trial and error, to find where we are at, and what path we need to take. I think we must be careful, and pull out of that 'nose dive' before we mightn't want to turn back, for in my experience, this is a progressive disease/habit, that get's harder to pull out of each time.
Great going Crystal and Angel! Back up on ya horse Ezz! And welcome Ronnie!

[ezzmae]

The Next day thread Wed 22nd April

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys. At the moment I feel stuck in a cycle but I am determined to break it and my husband must help me. I need him to remind me how much I want to be AF and not to cave in at the first hurdle. I don't mind him drinking in front of me so long as it is not beer, my drink of choice. My goal is to be AF for the immediate future. Modding is not something that I think I could do.

After a busy party with lots of running around on my behalf, I hit the gym this evening to get rid of some of the cobwebs. Exercise also helps release the negative thoughts in my head.