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[southernbelle47]

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Hey Allie,

Block him from your e-mail. It will p--- him off but you won't have to read it if you don't want to.

"Hedges of protection " around you and yours.

Nancy:l

[cjback]

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Geeze, so much to vent!

Ok, been trying to think only "positive" thoughts but maybe it would be nice to just let it out!
Struggled all my life, raising 2 kids alone. Divorced #1 age 23, hysterectomy and many other surgeries soon after. Remarried age 29, 4 yrs of HELL. Family split due to abuse, the ex and son. Husband walked out on me, lost job and had a nervous breakdown. Moved far away, with nothing and started over. #3 marriage a few yrs later, loved him, he used me, left me high and dry after 4 yrs. Daughter ran away. Was on Paxil, nearly killed myself. Struggled on...alone. Got involved with a severe alcoholic, but he financially saved me during my battle with disability. Endured more surgeries. Oh, My mother died soon after meeting #3 love. Wasn't there for her, having moved so far away, that still eats at me.
Moved from a nice home to a small condo in Fl to be closer to my drinking pal. Got too severe and moved again further away to the mtns. After a yr moved back to my home state to get family support. Turned out to be a joke! It was for my son who is unable to get his act together at age 30! He wanted me closer to help me! nope. So, now I sit in a condo that I HATE, it feels like a prison! neighbors are reclusive and my connecting neighbor is a nut case! I have NO friends here, no job,having lost my career due to my medical issues, back is a mess, and on disability with very limited income, no husband, no family close by (2 hrs away) and my dog is depressed, having lost his nice yard in the mtns! Tried therapy, and that has been a joke, she just listens and has no advise!@ wow I want that job! In the midst of all this I find I am addicted to benzo's and alcohol so go into severe w/d for 5 months now. So, all "coping" escapes are gone and facing the reality it SU.KS!!! Now I know why I drank!! To summ it up : I don't trust Doctors, Men, family and the system. Other than that its a nice day out today!! Ok, now to start making lists of positive things... Thanks for the good ol venting!!!:upset:

[gabby]

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Dang-ola....I'm really kinda thinkin we needed this thread more than I thought. I really think its cool how the advice is being kept to a minimum. And really not that much cheerin up. Just pure ventin. This is good. Kinda like writin the letter that ya dont send.
RJ....maybe could you change the title of this thread in to vent week? (lol) I couldnt see how to edit it. gabby

[happycamper68]

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Ok so yesterday I bought another thing on my daughter's list for school, a hardcover notebook (you know, the black marbley covered one). My husband comes home from work and I show it to him later with a sad face and he says "Oh um cool what's that for?" So I was shocked because we had looked at the list together the night before and I said "It was on the F-ing LIST!!" Now why would I go out and buy a Mead notebook for no reason?

Then this morning I was really tired and her therapist comes at 8:30 (I am nooooo morning person). I asked my husband to let her in and get the baby ready for the first time since I took my leave of absence started on July 13, and he has a very flexible work schedule (oh my the way he's a WINE salesman- I should just leave him now right?). Anyway he took care of it and after the woman left and I was awake I thanked him and he said "Don't ever let it happen again". Now this is not in keeping with his personality and I am not accustomed to being spoken to that way so we had a fight and now we are not talking. A-hole. I totally did not impact his day at all and I thanked him for helping me out and he was a major jerkoff.

Sujul I totally agree with everything you said about NYC. Allie don't change your e-mail you need the documentation. Sorry to whomever told you to do that. Enough with the advice I know this about ranting.

[gateway]

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i love this thread

[Allie]

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WOW!
I JUST got home and it is after 10:30 p.m. I didnt mention that I had three other appts and a surprise birthday party to go to tonight. I was so excited to read this thread though.... YOU GO GABBY!

Thanks for advice both ways about the email. You know what I did? I blocked it first, but my old version of microsoft outlook will block them to ME, but the sender has no clue they are being blocked. So I am thinking.... "ho hum.... this is so nice, he is not sending any emails. I am safe." NOT. My husband unblocked my email for me and low and behold, a HOST of "stuff" just came right in. All from him. I was so grateful though for the block, because I probably would have reacted to it and it was better that I didnt know at the time. But now I have them all printed out, and Patty, the police said the same thing. Not to block his emails, because since he lives in another state, I will not know if I am being threatened. He uses email as his means of threat. Since my husband travels so much, I have decided to keep it "unblocked" for my safety. The police gave me a code where I can now just forward his emails to their office. COOL. That helps me tremendously to not react.

But I too, as well as my husband, my Mom, my sister, etc, all wanted to block it. That is really a good thing to do as long as you are not being threatened to this extent.

On the bright side, I had a GREAT conversation with his Dad, who he lives with. His Dad is the TOTAL opposite of him, and our kids favorite grandfather. He has done everything to be the father his son was not. I called him to ask him if he was aware of the emails, and that an officer might be coming out to his house, and he had NO idea. He was so grateful. He thanked me profusely, and then (this man is precious) started crying. He told me that I would always be family and that if I ever needed anything, he was a phone call away. He said that Tom (my ex-husband) was allowed to move in with him under two conditions. One, that he would take his medication regularly. Two, that he would see his therapist regularly. His Dad said that he had been off his medication since May, and that he had only seen his therapist in four times in the two years he has lived with him. He told me to "do what i needed to do" to protect myself, and that Tom would have to move out soon, and if he wound up in jail, that he would have to live there. He said he was getting too old to help him anymore.

I really am not too worried, but am taking all precautions. My son comes home tomorrow after a year of being away in North Carolina (where we moved from), so I have much to look forward to and lots to do!

Did we need this thread or WHAT? Can we have a vent WEEK? I think there are others who need to join in!

Lots of love,
Allie

[Going Strong]

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Venting is good for the soul!

:blush: where do I start!
Husband that come home from work with 2 bottles of wine and constantly ask you if you would like one glass!
Husband that will ignore you all night if you sit and watch television with them but complain they are neglected if you get on this website!
Husband who complain about the cost of the supps but will buy you a $20 bottle of wine (or 2 ) every night!

[gabby]

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I am so glad you all are enjoying this so much. So am I. And ya...Lets keep it goin. Someone else had a better name cant remember right now. I have a good vent just havent had time to post it. Gabbs

[YoungAtHeart]

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Lucky suggested Rants and Rave as they have in Craig's list, and I suggested the MWO Weekly Rant.

[gabby]

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Either one of those are good. RJ....what do you think?

[Roberta Jewell]

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Hi. Boy, this is a tough call. I can see this thread is really helpful for many people in unloading their frustrations and pain. And in keeping with MWO, it provides a lot of support from other members. I also took a peek at Craig's list--the "best of" anyway--but it seemed different in flavor than what's here.

I guess one of my concerns is that I've heard from some members that they're having a more difficult time navigating the new board because we have so many forums. I've even considered consolidating some of them.

One thing I could do is move this thread to a new one which would allow me to re-name it. If there's continued interest, it will pretty much remain at the top of the General Discussion area. We could call it "MWO Members Rant" so it's not associated with any time limit.

How's that sound?

RJ

[gabby]

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It sounds good to me....whats everyone else think? gabby

[Lou]

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Sounds good to me too RJ!

[YoungAtHeart]

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It sounds good to me. I think we will have enough Ranting to keep it pretty much at the top of the General Discussions list!!! Craig's List is pretty funny, but, I agree, it doesn't have the same "feel" as our "Rant" does!

RJ, you'll probably want to challenge me to mud wrestle for this one, but would it be possible to add yet another thread or topic as a tutorial for newbies that would help with learning to navigate the board??? I know it is hard for newbies--I'm a technophobe myself-- and there can be a steep learning curve at first. I really love this board JUST THE WAY IT IS! The other board was simpler, but not nearly as comprehensive. Of course, I don't know what your thoughts are on how to consolidate things, and it might be that they might work just great too. Just my thoughts.....

[gabby]

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ok ya, but I also think that the way it is easy enough to catch on eventually. To keep changin is equally confusing for lesser computer freaks. Hope that came out alright and didnt sound insensitive. gabby