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[lucky 2.0]

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Ok, just tried to attend a mandatory make up conference call on Fri afternoon @ 4:00 with about 100 people and 1 person ruined it for all. This one person put us on hold and we heard the corp hold music and corp announcements the entire time. There was no way anyone could speak over it and hold the attention of the group as we went through the Power Point presentation. Yes, I work with idiots. Yes, it took up my time and that of about 100 others. And yes, we have to reschedule the friggin call because of this 1 idiot. And no, there is no way to trace the disruption back to them.

The world is full of idiots. And yes, it does affect the quality of my life.

[Bookish]

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My Son's Soccer Coach is a big As*.

Last Friday night, I notice my son was sitting on his ball during soccer practice. I didn't rush in cause he is getting older I didn't want to embarrass him if he was in trouble or something like that. 10 minutes later he is still sitting on his ball in the middle of the field. I'm getting worried now, but he gets up and plays. A little later he comes off the field in tears, telling me the coach's son keeps kicking his ball out of the field and now he and some of the other kids are calling him names. We talk and he finishes practice, we just leave at the end. I had already seen the coach ignoring some other problems with his son, so I figure we should talk about this later.

We missed the earlier practice this week because I was ill and didn't feel I could safely leave my kid at the field.

Comes today and we have practice this afternoon. I get a call from the coach, saying we are not having practice tonight, so I take the opportunity to talk to him about this stuff and do you know what he said. Something like, your kid needs to get with the program, he is off time with the drills and the other kids don't like it. He doesn't pay enough attention, so what if the team wants to use your kid's ball during the practice drills, he should be ok with that. The team needs to know they can count on your son to be there for them and not sit down during practice if he is a little upset.

Oh by the way did I mention, these are 8 year olds!!!!!!! This is not competitive soccer, this is not a traveling team. This is Park and Rec!

I know I am not a coach and I know I should be happy that someone wants to take time out of their schedule to help coach soccer, but this guy can take a flying fu**.

[YoungAtHeart]

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Urrrgggh!

Okay, I e-mailed my ex about some legal papers and the process that is going to take place about 10 days ago. No response. Not that I am surprised.....

I called him Friday night about the death of a mutual friend. At that time, he did mention that he had gotten the e-mail and that he would respond to it yesterday. Of course, it is now TODAY....still no response. I'm still not really surprised, but this is so TYPICAL of him. I will have to push to get this done, and he will be angry at me, and of course, he will not recognize his own part in my having to get pushy.

Of course, this is why we are no longer married!! I am looking forward to the day when I no longer have to deal with him at all, even though I don't have to deal with him much anymore, now that my daughter is 16.

End of rant for now, although I'm sure there will be another chapter down the road.

[Saint Jude]

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Well Gabby, I gotta admit... I think you're truly WHACKED!....and in a very WONDERFUL WAY!:l ! I love the way you think!

And Camper, I can't even imagine what you're going thru, but I know your a strong lady:h

OK,... as for what pisses me off.... Hummm, People that walk out w/out paying for their wine, after drinking it, when the waitress is very busy, & told then so to start with, but was nice enough to rush a few glasses over to them, first. GRRRRR!

People that ask for more water when their glass is 1/2 full (and you're very busy w/your arms full of plates! People that say "OH, I ordered chowder too!" When you've just delivered 5 plates of food in one trip to the table! I'm always tempted to tell em I've got it somewhere special for em to keep it warm! Usually I just smile & say "It's in my pocket"

People with no sense of humor! God I hope I'm not turning into one!!

[Ellen]

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Hi:
Back from work travel. Moderate success in maintaining at 7-11 drinks per week after a month's abstinence on Campral. I try to drink only on the weekend after five, after dinner or with dinner. It seems to help. Does Kudzu work for anyone? I haven't been impressed. I've completed the supps.
A few words of encouragement for those who have high maintenance children--mine are now 20 and 17 and have turned out okay. Really. But I certainly remember the years of special and expensive schools, therapists of various varieties, pediatricians who thought it was my fault, the huge daily commute to two schools, to job, back to schools, to after school appointments etc. There were years when I did not think ahead--you know, those questions like, "what is going to happen to this child?" "Can we scrape enough money together for a trust fund (no)?" Etc. My boy had a bizarre mix of learning disabilities and attention deficit and my daughter had (just) language learning disabilities. My boy is starting his sophmore year in college majoring in business (always was a wheeler-dealer), and my daughter gets A's in English, French and writing (her weaknesses--which all that tutoring helped her compensate for).

I found forming a monthly dinner group (unfortunately, we drank a little wine) with similarly afflicted mothers extremely helpful. For the long run, it turned out to be three of us, but all of the kids are doing well. The others had more doubtful diagnoses--pervasive developmental disorder (what is that?), autism spectrum, obsessive compusive disorder, depression and Tourette's. The "autistic" child will never be fluent in emotions, but he dates (!), and won the eighth grade "Best Boy" award some years back. Extremely intelligent kid who is obsessed with sports writing and is pursuing that in college. The other kid is also much less frightening (to his mother and everyone else). Some oddnesses if you look close, but a gregarious funny kid who is doing pretty well in school.

Fortunately, the brain matures, and what looks really, really bad when they are young tends to get at least somewhat better, sometimes. Good luck, and take care of yourselves, (not necessarily with wine). A good book on limit setting (used it on my kids and they are still asking if the kitchen is "closed" after dinner) is "Love and Logic: Teaching Kids Responsibility." Foster Cline, M.D. There is a teenage version as well. Basically, it is about teaching children that actions have consequences and it works well (if you follow through) in one or two episodes.
Ellen

[Bookish]

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Footnote about the soccer coach from Hell.

The team got disbanded due to lack of player participation and team members not getting along. That translates into no one wanted to play cause the coach was a jerk and coach's son was a big bully.

My son will start with a new team on Tuesday.

[Guest]

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Great newss frmca! You don't need that negative impact influencing your on at THIS young of age. This is why my hubby coaches 3 soccer team plus is a commisioner for a division none of my boys plays in. EVERYONE requests him cuz he is not the stereotypical bully you hear about. He is so gentle and caring...plays EVERYONE at all games. And actually, they end up doing pretty well in the standings..which is cool because everyone felt they contributed. That is all that should matter at this age.

[Roberta Jewell]

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Sorry for the delay...here's the new (date free) thread for ranting. I'll move the original posts over now.

Okay, have at it!

RJ

[C]

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Thank you for this forum

Thank you RJ & Gabby YOU esp for starting this. I am p--ed that I do not have energy at moment to vent..but cannot wait until I do. I t has been a really really difficult summer!! Have worked some sh--t out with husband. So some major anger gone. Major work deadline next week (the least of my stress)- then some vacation.

.Sorry I have not kept up. Just lurked. You all make me cry --cause I don't feel crazy or alone.

Oh Happy --hang in there sweet witchie...take a breath...think!! you can think through anything!!----create a plan that i s best for You & Sophie...& it will work out.!!.(maybe you want to change something)husbands follow along ..they just don't know what to do & feel bad for themselves because of it--(always about themselves --you know) He wants what's best for you & Sophie, but he is after all a simple creature (male)..but he will go along with whatever you decide..sounds like a good enough guy...sorry got carried away there & probably over self projected...

LOVE, Chrysa

[Going Strong]

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OK This is my Rant

My daughter and partner have decided to get married! Big Deal! Whats the problem? Well she wants me and my husband plus her father and his wife to fund it! Still no problem (within limits) but her partner is a pigheaded pea brain who has picked a date which makes it too hard for her father & I to accomodate! So we had lunch, not a big deal but just as we thought a reasonable discussion about dates! But now he wants to stick with a date that is about 8 weeks away! No one unless they are about to give birth would give give us such short notice! We did try to reason with him but he is so stubborn! This was a boy that was kicked out of home when he was 13! (he loves his mum coz when she used to see him on the street, she gave him 20 bucks). Already I have had him charged with Grievous Bodily Harm! He attacked my son in my house and it was the most scariest thing I have ever been through! Many years ago but I needed to set my boundries as he has no idea about family life.So I did! He does wrong! I ring the police! He has settled down now though.
Now you need to know I have a soft spot for this boy as his mother isn't worth a piece of S**t as far as I am concerned. She cut off from him along time ago (he got in the way of boyfriends). So now I am left picking up the pieces and also trying to keep damage control of all the problems he creates in my family!
They want to get married! Thats great but it's just getting through to them that it won't happen tomorrow. Such a stress!:no:
If they can leave it till Febuary it will all be fine but they wont agree! So that means half our family can't be there which means a whole lot to me (specially if I am funded it)!
Thanks for letting me vent!

[cv1]

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Shas, please keep a chin up. My son was just married last weekend and I wasn't going to be invited to the Rehearsal dinner due to money issues, but they were trying to do it all by themselves. Both his Dad and I ended up paying for the rehearsal dinner, which etiquette said that we should anyway, but there were some hard feelings.

I tried to explain that we needed a better communication tool between us since we were becoming family, and that means honesty, caring and working together. Also, using compromises if you can. These two had been dating through college and didn't get engaged until my son landed an excellent job, so that they had 5 years behind them by the time they got married, but still, it was difficult not being asked to be involved and having to try to clear the air so they could feel comfortable asking for some support to make everyone happy!

Deep breaths!!! PM me if you need more support.:l

[Lou]

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I would like to let of some steam re the unregistered peeps who have decided that it is thier misssion in life to disrupt our conversations as they are not serious enough or all about alcohol....hello!! aint that what we have different boards for?!!
I mean how many of us guys..susan, kathy, gabby, wayne (the mack!), matt, sharon, nancy an many many more come on this site everyday just to check in an say hi..let eachother know what were up to in order to build a rappor with eachother so that when we do hit that dark place and we have drunk or we are getting really strong cravings to drink we are secure in the fact that we have friends here who know our personality and who can help and support us. so we wouldnt think twice about posting "oh s**t i really wanna drink..help" cause we know we have friends who will help and support us.
These annoymous people can rest assured that i am very very serious about this programe having nearly died in hospital just 2 wks ago and nearly destrroyed my whole family and wasted my young life. This programe along with its network of people is helping me immensely. When you become a serious drinker i think you lose touch with a lot of your close friends cause alcohol becomes your best friend...so to be able to come on here an chat normaly to people, just about what im gonna be doing to day....or if im in a crisis an need support has helped me immensely.
So im very sorry and im very rarely nasty....but whoever those unregistered people where who posted on my thread....YOU HAVENT GOT A CLUE.....and you hurt and offended some very nice people including me. I actualy feel sorry for you as your obviously not ready to share and participate in our little family...but your more than happy to criticise the way we do things.

ok rant over....sooooorrrry but i had to get that out..where do these people get off!!!

[Going Strong]

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Update of my Rant

This is a sad rant!!!!!!!! My daughter has set the date for her wedding on 9th December this year. Already I have had other daughter on the phone upset because she can't afford to travel and come up for the wedding because its too close to Christmas. I am not sure I will have the money to help pay for this either by then! If feel like they are doing what they want to do regardless of anybody elses feelings. I am not sure how many of our family can come anyway given the short notice that they have given.
This should be an exciting time for them and us as parents. Everybody wants to see their children happy and a wedding should be a happy event!
I feel cheated for myself, my family and mostly my daughter who is getting married! In am sure she is only bowing to pressure from her partner. And I am worried that somewhere down the track she will realise that its not what she wanted.
There is no reason for all this rush! And she is not pregnant. My heart feels so heavy and I just feel so sad about all of this.

[RoseKat]

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I know it's not the wedding you would like, but look at the positive side of the story: Your daughter is not pregnant. It isn't the wedding that is important to her, but the marriage. Make it a small, intimate ceremony and maybe you can create a nice reception a little later when more family can attend.

My own daughter eloped, robbing me of any celebration at all. Now she lives nearly 3000 miles away. I'm lucky if I get to see her every other year for Christmas. You see? Things could always be worse. Count your blessings and make the most of what you've got.

Blessings to you and yours!

[GratefulEm]

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snakes

Hey Southernbelle - what snakes do you have? I've got shivers going down me right now. I HATE snakes.
You have snakes? You see them on a daily basis? really? Are they poisonous? (And by the way - thanks for writing me and supporting me - it meant alot. You're a gem.) Grateful Em I live in the north and we only have harmless garter snakes which I don't even want to see.