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[lushy]

Please, don't anyone even bother responding to this and asking me to stay because that is not at all what I m after. I just want my two cents heard. I have looked forward to logging onto this website every day since I found it because it is so reassuring to know I have not been along in this struggle. However, I have decided I am sick of the "sorority sister bullies", namely Lou Lou and Bambs, who are ruining this whole site for me. Call me a witch but many of us have asked to just move your private conversations to the chat room or even your personal e-mails and instead we are met with foul mouthed snotty responses. The whole vibe going on now can only be described as sort of "icky." I used to get such a positive vibe from here but no longer. And yes, I do not have to read those threads, but when those threads push other much more important topics to the bottom of the list so many of us probably do not even see them it ticks me off. THAT is the reason for moving your personal conversations to somewhere else. I am happy you have made friends on here but the threads should be something that benefit ALL of us. Am I really off base here? Anyhow, thanks to all of you for allowing me to see I am not alone in this struggle. I wish all of us the best.

[lushy]

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And by the way I just want to clarify that the ONLY reason I even said anything is because I want this board to be a success and I just wanted to give some feedback to what turned me off so much so perhaps things can be different here. Thanks!

[Boo]

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Don't leave! Things are getting better! Really! I have seen so today. New and refreshing! Hang in here! Boo

[YoungAtHeart]

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I'm not asking you to stay, Lush, although I certainly don't want you to leave. I did want to post my acknowledgement that you have been heard.

[Annifofanni]

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Dear "Lush",
I don't find you to be off-base at all...thanks for your best wishes to us...I too want this board to be a success for all...I won't ask you to stay, per your request...but.........I hope you will....
I have deep respect for your honesty in facing your personal problem with alcohol....I'm proud to be working with people with integrity on a positive approach to my (our) problem...
Best wishes, Anni

[RoseKat]

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No one needs to leave

I wish everyone would just calm down. I know I?m a newbie here, but I?ve been following "the thread" with some interest and I think I can see what happened.

The ?sisters,? Lou Lou and Bambs, quite innocently came on this site looking for each other and proceeded to have a private conversation in a public forum. When they were questioned about the appropriateness of that choice and asked to take it elsewhere, they felt attacked and reacted with claws and fangs. Frankly, they fed off each other?s emotion and things escalated out of control.

Sound familiar? Can we please remember what brought us all to this place of healing? The demon alcohol seduces our minds, numbs our brains, and infuses brain cells until we no longer reason as normal adult human beings. If we have been able to reduce or abstain for a few days or more, I don?t think we can quite be credited with 100% of our intellect. Aren?t we all constantly making excuses for our daily screwups? I know I am.

Let?s think like a family and let the sisters be forgiven. After all, we are all entitled to make a few mistakes in life, and believe me, ALL of us have made a lot worse. Maybe there?s fodder for a new thread.

Smiles, everyone! Live and let live.

Kat
:h :h :h

[angela]

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Hello Lush,

I am a new member and I respect and admire your honesty. I am asking you not to leave as you stated in your thread this site is to benefit us all. Will continue to reap the benefits on this site so please do not allow a mis understanding or a few choice words to interfere with something beneificial to your overall success with this site. Please continue to visit the site and share your feelings and how you are doing.

Angela

[Allie]

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Lush,
I can speak for one who has been here for six months. I am so sorry for what you experienced -- this was a BAD week here! Some people got out of hand, and I can ASSURE YOU, there are no sorority clubs. I personally want to welcome you! It saddens me that certain people discouraged you and caused you to feel that we are clicky. We LOVE new people and I so hope to see you come back.

Also, I want to thank you for your honesty about how you felt as a newcomber with the posts, etc. this week. Your input helps tremendously! Can you come on chat sometime? It can be slow a lot, but evenings can be a good time to get to know people here! Please stick around and thanks for your honesty!

Allie

[lucky 2.0]

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MWO Highjacked

:upset:

I understand Lush's disappointment completely.

This board now has 204 posts from one person I cannot understand a word from and 185 from the accomplice which I cannot understand either. No other posted is even in triple digits! This board does have a lot of good information and inspritation- BUT I CANNOT FIND IT AMONG ALL THE GARBAGE!!!!

And this is a board for ALCOHOL- not whatever other mind-warping drugs are being taken!!!!

I am mad something so special for so many is being ruined by personal, idiotic chit-chat in public space.

Someone please ezbox me when the boards are useful again and not infuriating. I don't plan to stick around and sing Kum Ba Ya with those who are.

[Lou]

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Lush, Im so sorry that i have made you feel this way, it was never my intention...i was jus chatting to my buddy. please dont leave the siite,,,maybe you an i should chat a bit so you get a feel of who i am...the last thing i would ever want is to push people away...ya know, im in a hell hole at the moment( nearlly died 2 wks ago cause of my drinking), an all i wanna do is help..not allienate people...please reply to me as im sure youve got me all wrong

x x x x

[Lou]

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Rosecat

Thank you for unerstanding where myself and bambs came from...we were so lucky to find eachother, but we would rather keep our posts public as we want others to feel free to join us and participate in our convos...we really are nice girls!!! so jus jump in on our convos...we'll treat you exactly the same as anyone else.......we dont wanna make enemies...just friends. so i do appologise if i have offended anyone previously...come chat to us we really are nice girls..honestly x x

[cv1]

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The ignore list in User CP

Lush,

I just wanted to let you know that you can go into User CP, scroll to the bottom and click the link to buddy/ignore list.

Put any members names in the ignore list, save your changes and any posts from them are hidden.

You can update or change them any time.

[GratefulEm]

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Glad you spoke up

I found this site and My Way Out 2 months ago and was so excited - still am about the program. But frankly, like you, was wondering if I still wanted to visit the boards. When I first looked at the boards I got so much inspiration and hope and then it seemed to all go down hill very quickly. Let's get back to what it was. We all need each other's support and help - it's a huge part of getting better.
My Way Out discussion fills a tremendous need for women who want to share but may not want to attend AA. I got so much encouragement and hope from reading about all the many women from different walks of life and from all age groups who were experiencing the same phenomenon of drinking to excess but still maintaining a life. I miss the richness of my earlier visits here. Let's look at this latest "problem" as a learning experience and a little blip. We need to respect certain protocals on these boards and a reminder once in awhile is not a bad thing. So please, please stay. I'm always grateful to everyone. Em

[Guest]

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Occasionally, the boards get hairy, like this past wk. I remember almost leaving back in ohhh May (??) or so because I felt attacked. Come to find out that people were just expressing opinions, and are certainly permitted to do so. I understand this situation is a bit different, and people WERE outrightly attacked, quite blatantly and in public. That sucks. But it's calming down, and we will get back to the wonderfully suppportive and loving group that we truly ARE!
Don't let 1 or 2 ruin it for all, Lush.
Lou, my heartfelt compassion goes out to you. I think you got the raw end of the deal here! SO glad you are here, and not.... well.... it sure is a wake up call, to say the very very least. Keep plugging, keep working on your sobriety. We ARE here!

I just hate when people feel icky about the boards. They are the best thing for my health that has ever happened to me. No joke.

Love,

[Bambino]

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I don't want to alienate ANYONE here AT All... I'm having a really Icky Time myself... And sometimes I just feel alienated, and so I kick out.
I AM SO SORRY IF I have upset new people here, because quite frankly, as I have said on numerous posts prior to this... It has been an Absolute Lifeline. And Lush... I have sent You a msg on the Abs Forum which read - 'do not leave on account of me...' I have been in a lonely and angry place lately, and quite rightly, I do not have a right to kick out at people who are being,,, well quite frankly... friendly... So if you all will accept my olive branch, then I will keep a huge lid on the Anger... It is all part and parcel of this journey.
I am still smarting because I tumbled off that wagon a number of weeks back and have not been able to get back on, and yet other people seem to be able to...
WHY ??? Why Am I So Weak?
Anyway - Enough from me I hear you cry !!!!