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[akgirl]

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Thanks for your advice everyone. I will definately get the book.

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Ak

[akgirl]

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Okay, I have a new parenting question.

My son said he was sick this morning. I always go through the same thought process. Is he really sick or just not wanting to go to school. Do I make him go to school? What if he really is sick. I want to believe him, but I know how he can be when he doesn't want to do something. If he really is sick do I take him to the doctor? Grrrrr, makes me crazy. I want to be a good parent but don't want him to think he doesn't have to go to school over minor symptoms. I mean we all have to suck it up sometimes right?

Curious how other parents decide?

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Ak

[brittzak]

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If they aren't vomiting or running fever...they go to school. If they have an infection they will run fever, if they have strep throat...again fever, most illnesses that require you to stay home, you will run a fever or be vomiting. I make them go and if they can't make it through the whole day, I will come get them. 99% of the time...they make it just fine. You can't stay home for a cold...we have to many allergies here. We get little colds alot. Suck it up, this is life. Get ready, it gets even more fun the older you get.

[LookingToGrow]

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With my kids, it was if you are too sick for school, then you are too sick for the phone and electronics. My youngest son had many certs for 100% attendance...LOL!!

[tawnywitch]

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Hi, I have a 28 year old son and 25 and 32 year olds girl's also a 14 year old son, they all talk to me about most thing's, I think keeping the communication open is soo important,even if sometimes the information is toooo much!! I have had my 25 year old daughter sitting on my lap, sucking her thumb and crying over a boy friend while wearing a leopard print bra and thong set!!I do worry about my 14 year old, but it sound's as tho they are just having fun together, make her welcome and I am sure you will notice when thing's start to take a more physical turn, my daughter started to have a sexual relationship when she was 15 and I was mortified, she talked to me, she went on the pill and then it was over, hope this help's.I t is scary but for the most part they wan tto be sensible too,lot's of love you are doing great, Tawny.

[akgirl]

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Thanks everyone.

Parenting can be such a challenge and I'm always second guessing myself. I should learn to trust my instinct and realize....life aint perfect and we all just have to do the best we can.

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Ak

[akgirl]

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tawnywitch;720321 wrote: Hi, I have a 28 year old son and 25 and 32 year olds girl's also a 14 year old son, they all talk to me about most thing's, I think keeping the communication open is soo important,even if sometimes the information is toooo much!! I have had my 25 year old daughter sitting on my lap, sucking her thumb and crying over a boy friend while wearing a leopard print bra and thong set!!I do worry about my 14 year old, but it sound's as tho they are just having fun together, make her welcome and I am sure you will notice when thing's start to take a more physical turn, my daughter started to have a sexual relationship when she was 15 and I was mortified, she talked to me, she went on the pill and then it was over, hope this help's.I t is scary but for the most part they wan tto be sensible too,lot's of love you are doing great, Tawny.

Thanks Tawny but luckily no girlfriend anymore. Hopefully he'll wait a bit, 13 really is too young in my opinion.

[LookingToGrow]

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AK, agree that 13 is too young for BF/GF. Before husbo and were married, he let one of my stepdaughters date at 14. She gave birth a month after turning 16. I admit it. I dished out alot of "I told you so"s. :h

[akgirl]

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I know that at this age the term GF doesn't mean a whole lot, and I've talked with him about it all so hopefully we can keep communication open. Its just that because of his Aspergers he is a little socially delayed and doesn't completely understand kids his age.

One day at a time right? ODAT works for so many things in my life these days LOL

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Ak

[LookingToGrow]

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Yes, ODAT for many things...LOL!! A friend of ours also has a child with Aspergers so have an idea of what you are talking about socially. And yes, often at that age GF just means a friend that happens to a girl Gosh, I am glad mine are grown now...LOL!!

[brittzak]

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AK..a GF/BF at the age of 13 usually means nothing more than talking on the phone and MYSPACE and eating lunch together at school...IF they have the same lunch period. My daughter had the same BF for 3 years ...12-15. I didn't mind because it was innocent. It was mainly to say they had one. At 15 she did go to the movies twice. BUT, I dropped her off and picked her up right before and after the movie. I had a friend in school and her parents forbid her to see her BF...she was 14 and he was 17. Guess what? They found ways.....she got pregnant at 14. So, you can either participate and grow with your child in a healthy manner and lead them in the right direction or you can put on blinders, dictate and raise your grandchild. You know all we can do is our best. They are individuals. They are young adults. Pray alot and lead the way.....

[akgirl]

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Thanks for the advice Brit.

I have learned and grown alot since I posted the original thread. I have read some wonderful books that have helped alot. One said that my role as a parent has changed and I am more of a coach and cheerleader now. I thought that was neat.

I hope I haven't come across as an overbearing mom in the respect of him dating. I have to admit over the years because of his diagnosis and because he is and only child I probably go overboard sometimes, as do all parents. But I remember what it was like and I want for him to enjoy this time and not feel he has to hide what he is feeling and be secretive.

Its a weird balance to keep up, protecting but not over protecting

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Ak