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    #16
    How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

    Sheri;687184 wrote:
    I can't really say that there was just one "AHA" moment that made me quit this time around, but if I had to choose, I think I had just finally reached the point where the fear of what the alcohol was doing to me physically, emotionally, and spiritually outweighed the fear of how I would ever be able to live without it.
    Sheri, the long term part of what you say here is resonating for me too, although I did have a "trigger" event, my DUI (my first, last, and only of my life, striking when I was nearly 40 - ugh) hitting when I was actually starting to moderate my drinking and was already connected with MWO and doing some parts of the program.

    So although I had a 'turning point' event, the rest of what you say is the long term reason I will never be anything other than a non-drinker.

    Hockeymom, as for how I personally did it, I cannot recommend the full My Way Out program enough, doing 30 days of AF, giving yourself all the tools of the hypnotherapy CD's, the herbal supplements, and in my case also Topamax to stop the physical cravings in their tracks. All of that and of course finding support on here. For my first 30 days I was glued to this site, several times a day, and I was on a 30-day group who was all doing their first 30 day AF stint together, that helped me a lot when I wanted to crumble and give in during those first few weeks.

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      #17
      How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

      Thanks for the insight, Sheri. I definitely need to change my thoughts about what drinking will do for me. I still romanticize sitting on the deck in the summer with a glass of wine - how relaxing!!! But, now it is never just one glass. And I always feel guilt the next day after over-doing it.

      It is such a mind game, I agree! I haven't made the commitment to "never drink again" yet. I was kind of hoping I could moderate, but it's becoming clear that I can't.

      I know for me, the spiritual side of my life is key too. If I;m close to God and praying, going to church, etc., I'm less likely to slip.

      My thoughts are with everyone on this tough journey!
      HockeyMom

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        #18
        How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

        Sheri, thanks so much for sharing your story. I could relate to so many parts of it.
        I knew as soon as you said AL was poison and devastation that you had read Allen Carr's book. I did too. He made some good points. I'm going to reread it one of these days to have it sink in even further.

        I too was thinking of the summer glass of wine, and yes it was never a glass. Does at times seem like depriving myself, but I am trying to get past that, since it really doesn't make anything better and just makes things worse all the way around.

        Winefree

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          #19
          How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

          Sheri...wow. I am in awe.
          Pipsqueak

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            #20
            How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

            What great posts here.
            Thank you all so much for the wisdom and inspiration.

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              #21
              How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

              Thanks for this thread Over it! Great reading, and strength, courage, and a plan, to all.
              Sheri, you're a legend.....Keep it up friends!

              'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

              Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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                #22
                How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                Wow, such words of wisdom!!

                I can only say that the change for me this time after many attempts is that this time I really did it for me. I have tried many times before but they were due to external forces as opposed to internal. It was for my marriage (am now divorced) or for my son (whole 'nother story) but never for me.

                My health is the only thing that is going to keep me going for the second part of my life and if I don't have that - then I really have nothing

                fay2play

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                  #23
                  How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                  zeta... what u said in ur post is EXACTLY what i do to myself.
                  it is almost word for word.
                  i am in the middle of day four today. i was mostly AF july & 1/2 of august only to have the opportunity to start again.
                  i have to say no.
                  there is too much at stake.
                  i will just have to keep reading posts here to keep alive the damage alcohol presents and for me it all lies in the first sip; from there it is all down hill.

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                    #24
                    How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                    Keep reading this site, every day. Being reminded of places I've been and have absolutely no desire to return to, and most importantly, WHAT led me there. Remembering experiencing the pain you see every day here.
                    ​​Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind ~ Bob Marley ~ Redemption Song

                    AUGUST 9, 2009

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                      #25
                      How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                      memories and lots of bad ones,


                      :congratulatory: Clean & Sober since 13/01/2009 :congratulatory:

                      Until one is committed there is always hesitant thoughts.
                      I know enough to know that I don't know enough.

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                        #26
                        How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                        Haven't seen this for a while, so thought I'd bump it in case anyone needs it right now - a lot of people seem to be haviung 'blah' days about now! :bump:
                        Recovery Coaching website

                        "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." - Carl Bard wl:

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                          #27
                          How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                          My attitude has slowly changed from fear of alcohol to joy of life. I have been AF on baclofen for 8 months and no longer fear a relapse. i have begun to trust that the nightmare is over and I can count on myself again. What a relief. It is wonderful to not have to live with the fear any more. Great thread

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                            #28
                            How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                            Sheri, the toll on my body and life was almost identical to yours, plus I have a chronic medical condition. I was ashamed for my family to see me, had isolated myself from everyone, so I could drink in peace. The real turning point was coming here, and tormenting everyone with my posts, but reading everything I could, for over 2 years now. I originally wanted to mod, as so many do, but found it just TOO much trouble, after I'd had some sober time and really loved it. I found my joy again, and too, no longer went to sleep (when I didn't pass out) with a racing heart, wondering if I'd wake the next morning.
                            Three people I loved died this year because of alcohol. 2 more are hanging on, but will never be well again. That's enough fear for me, because I love my life, and never want my family to have to go through what theirs have.
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                              #29
                              How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                              Thanks for bumping this Kimberely. Hadn't seen it before. I have no health issues but do not want to go down that road either. Al consumption is a contributor to bone loss. At my age I need to remember this. I despise not being in control and still entertain thoughts of mastering al. I know who am I kidding.

                              Start by doing what's necessary, then what's possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.


                              St. Francis of Assisi

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                                #30
                                How do you stay Fearful of alcohol?

                                I simply remember how bad I felt when I decided that was it, enough was enough and I remind myself of that every single day. This includes a mental image I've saved in my mind of how terrible I felt lying in bed in my spare room scared out of my wits. Works for me.

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