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    #61
    Why is this so hard...continued.

    Good job FT. You have a good instinct for priorities. Happy to see you are still working your plan. xo beth
    vegan zombies want your grains

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      #62
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      Frequent Traveler;1045998 wrote: Another Chapter in relationships, now I have been accused of being selfish and self centered because I have chosen a path in life that suits me. Because I have chosen to put myself first and let the pieces fall where they may when it comes to relationships I am now being criticized, well to that I say tough.
      I have tried to be open minded and understanding but the time has come to sever ties completely and move on, I have deleted these people from my social web site access and will continue to remain focused on my well being as being there for my child and taking care of myself is ultimately what matter.
      There that feels good to say and sorry for being absent for a few days, just had to finally figure out what I had to do and do it.

      Thank you all
      FT
      Thats a good move FT. If you are happy in your choices, everything else tends to fall into place.
      Good to see you
      Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
      Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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        #63
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        "fluff" I am actually right now reading G Bush's book and there are some interesting things in it specifically about making choices - Not that I am a fan of his but interesting insights in the book.
        Thanks everyone.
        FT
        AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
        As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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          #64
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          Good morning all,
          Well today is Jan 27th and in 2009 I made a choice, this choice was to better myself and rid myself of the vise that was controlling my life. This decision was not an easy one but a wise one and at the same time a difficult one, and during the first year I stayed focused and didn't touch a drop. During 2010 as noted in previous writings it was difficult to remain focused and I allowed outside influences to affect my decision and thus did not have the success of 2009. My goal now for 2011 is to get back to where I was in 2009 and remain healthy and continue to stay in control, not feel sorry for myself and allow what happened in 2010 control my decision.
          So with out making this any longer than it has to be today starts year 3 of staying focused and getting healthy, and when I have made day 30 from today I will be also concentrating on becoming nicotine free.
          With all you offering the great support this site gives I can't see how I can fail.
          Thank you all
          FT
          AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
          As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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            #65
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            Good for you FT! I wish you the very best of luck!
            February 27th, 2013. A New , Successful Start. :h

            When everything seems like an uphill struggle, just think of the view from the top!!

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              #66
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              I have a hunch that you are a winner!!
              Change your thoughts, and you change your world. - Norman Vincent Peale

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                #67
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                Good morning all,
                This weekend was the hardest of them all, Friday I got the news that a very close friend of mine at the same age as me had a massive heart attack and passed away after shoveling snow at his house. His passing has given me a new vigor in fighting my issues as I know he was a heavy drinker and smoker and I am sure that all that contributed to his health issues. I will dedicate my well being and fight to him for this year and remember him every time that I have the urge to pop the cork.
                Rest in peace my friend, we will miss you.
                FT
                AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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                  #68
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                  Hi gang,

                  I know long time since posting but 2011 has been the pits. Full of ups and downs and at times I passed the test and at other times I did not. Since the posting of my friend passing, within a week another close family friend passed, in late Feb my father passed at the age of 84 and did that ever tear into my heart as we were VERY close. I still think of him and the memories and times we shared and I know that he would not want me to wallow in sorrow. Not only that but in end of April my brother in-law passed away suffering a stroke and never recovering, this was quite a blow for my sister and the family that was still reeling in the loss of our father and the 2 other close friends. Not only that but in June my sister's dog "Darby" a 15 year old died and WOW what else can happen.
                  So needless to say emotions sorrow and all that kicked in and I allowed myself to feel sorry and of course used that as an excuse, yes did some drinking, yes did some smoking (cigarettes that is) at times to the point that black out's did occur. I have now been sober for 10 days and smoke free for 7 days, I have decided to pull up my pants and get going again with life. On Aug XXth (which would have been my dad's 85th birthday) I reaffirmed this goal and had a chat with my dad and told him that I was going to continue this path and be as strong as I possibly could and the next toast would be on his 86th Birthday (not with alcohol) and I will celebrate one year sobriety in my honor and his.

                  Two weeks ago my niece got married and me and sis both decided to make this a point in turning 2011 around and start thinking positive things for the rest of 2011.

                  I will be a more active writer here again as I find this to be very helpful in getting things off my chest and I appreciate the comments both positive and negative as they offer a wide variety of experiences that people have gone thru and are willing to share of which we can possibly learn from and apply to ourselves.

                  Thank you all again
                  FT
                  AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                  As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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                    #69
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                    Good morning,

                    Woke up feeling awesome, went to the gym and it felt good.

                    Hope everyone has a great day.

                    FT
                    AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                    As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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                      #70
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                      Good morning,

                      Friday and it's time to go to work tomorrow, long trip to Middle East for a week - good thing is where I am going it's a dry country so wish me luck.
                      FT
                      AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                      As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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                        #71
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                        FT,

                        Glad to see you posting again. :-)

                        Traveling is hard for me. It seems I learned a lot of bad habits in airports and hotel bars.

                        As you said, the ME is dry (or supposed to be) and that will make things easier.

                        I hope to be celebrating my one year anni in Aug of next year, too.

                        I feel great and am grateful for each and every sober day, even the hard ones.

                        Keep us posted.

                        Cindi
                        AF April 9, 2016

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                          #72
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                          Good morning all,
                          Made it safely to the M/E country where there is no alcohol so that makes my choices easier, its hot and humid here so water is the choice of fluids.
                          Hope everyone has a great day.
                          FT
                          AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                          As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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                            #73
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                            Another beautiful day,
                            It's amazing when you are in a place that there is no alcohol and you know you can't get it that I find that I don't crave it.
                            So far having a good time and feeling very well, yes it's hot here and lots of water being consumed but that a good thing.
                            Hope everyone has a good day.
                            FT
                            AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                            As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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                              #74
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                              Frequent Traveler;1174483 wrote: It's amazing when you are in a place that there is no alcohol and you know you can't get it that I find that I don't crave it.
                              How interesting! And how fortunate. I admit to not knowing the technical aspects of addiction - I find that really interesting. Having that off the table will make your trip that much more enjoyable!
                              sigpic
                              Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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                                #75
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                                It's a beautiful day.
                                FT
                                AF with a few speed bumps during 2014 & 2015 but will succeed.
                                As of 4/12/2014 I have not smoked at all and feel great.

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