Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

[Tulipe]

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[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hi Tulipe - don't let your suspicions lead you to have a drink, getting drunk won't change anything.

I don't really know whatelse to say - it could be honest
Let us know how you are getting on okay

[Gold]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

HI Tulipe, well done for not drinking.

I don't know what to say, but things like facebook, texting, forums (with the exception of this one) are confusing because we only see one side of things all the other communication clues and pointers are lacking.

If he's on facebook at every waking moment then something is wrong for him. I don't know enough about facebook to be able to comment about the wall.

The important thing is for you to be strong for yourself, otherwise your husband is dictating how you are feeling day to day through his behaviour.

Perhaps you'll get comments from people who've have experienced a similar situation. Keep talking.

[Tulipe]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I will not drink. Maybe that's what he wants me to do so that he can feel ok with pursuing other interests. Maybe he just wants me to go away.

[Blue Sky]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hi Tulipe

Do you think it could be a response to you being on MWO and he is jealous that he doesn't know what you are doing on here? Just a thought.

[Tulipe]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Thanks for the question Blue. At one point I thought he might have been interested. But actually he's not. Since I have attempted to stop/control drinking since June 15, he has not pursued one source of insight into me or help for himself. He's really into his own thing. I blocked him from my FB wall, but I doubt he will ever notice. Maybe I should have an affair. But he wouldn't care, actually. It would just make him feel righteous.

[ronnie]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hi Tulipe
Well done on not drinking......that will just make the situation worse
does he text alot on his mobile phone as well?......if so have a look on the bill to see what numbers keep appearing on it.
I hope it all works out for you

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

maybe he blocked you because you blocked him?

[Tulipe]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

no he blocked me first, Zep.
I will never see his phone bill, nor do I have access to his computer or his blackberry because they are password protected. His bill goes to his company. I have very little insight into his private life.

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Can you talk to him about it and see if he's lying to you?

[sosad61]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Good for you not drinking to compensate. As for his reasons, I do not know. One thing I DO know is I stay away from facebook like the plague. The site is filled with links from people that are full of viruses disguised as messages from your "friends."

I hope things get better for you Tulipe. Talk to him about this.

[Mstall]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I dont think it's a good idea for a spouse to be secretive....i've known a few marriages that were lost due to meeting people online.

Online you can be whoever, whatever you want. If it's any consolation, most online relationships end in distaster.

Stay strong and true to yourself. I guess thats all you can do.

my thoughts and prayers are with you!

[greeneyes]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Tulipe, it is a very, very difficult situation you are in. Hold on to your sobriety no matter what. Easy to say, I know. We're behind you. Try not to engage in a power struggle. It will only make resolution more difficult. :l

[Savannah]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

My husband use to watch pornography online..:badboy: Then I started playing the needy wife role. When I knew he was at home watching it, I would think of a question really quick and interrupt him.. If he becomes upset, then you have the right to ask what he's really doing and let him dig his own grave!! Good Luck!!

[MissMerlot]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hiya,
One clue for me is if he clicks out of something as soon as you come near his computer he's def hiding something.
I know because i click as soon as my kids come near me on the pc.

Don't drink,he'l only accuse you of being paranoid and drunk.

Could be he's playing poker or something???

Anyway bestest wishes and hugs to you pet,
You're in my thoughts
Annie
xx