Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

[Cinders]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace,

Do not even think for one second you will give that SOB what he wants. You must overcome this and show that piece of scum that you are way above him.

He probably already knows this and can't stand it.

Please take some deep breaths and know you are special, you deserve better and you will get it.

Cindi

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Sheri

Thank you all so much, how embarassing is it to be 59 years old and going through this. I was married for 28 years to a man who beat me and kept me a prisoner. I managed to be the best mother, raise 3 very productive kids who are married. I tried a few times to talk with them about the times their father beat me when they were in there teens. THEY have a total mental block to it. I've have had my nose broken three times, leg broken, thrown from a moving truck once, burned sexually, every abuse besides death I have suffered. I had a baby at home alone when I was 19 because he left and would not take me to the doctor, no telephone. The next one was born in the waiting room at the hospital, because he made me bake him cookies before I could go to the hospital.I also worked in the field all day hoing weeds out of the bean field. I've lived my live in such abuse in everyway. It doesn't take them long to know, you'll do anything(almost for love), NO I've never done anything immoral. I'm so proud of all my kids. I cannot do this anymore, I just can't. No money, my self esteem is gone. I know now I was a very pretty woman.
I just want to die now.

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace - listen to what we all are saying - it is him that is worthless not you. You obviously are attracted to a**holes (I'm not trying to be funny) there has been a lot of research done regarding why women keep ending up in abusive relationships.

He is nothing more than a bully - and if he's photoshoping his pictures he musn't think much of himself either.

Do you have a friend nearby that you could move in with for a while, you need to get away from this idiot - he sounds as if he is as damaging to your soul as alcohol was.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Wrote a huge reply, checked on spelling of one word and lost it all.
I have no reason what so ever to live anymore. I can be completely honest here. I keep seeing him look me in the eye and saying, I do not love you. I have no life here. Oh yes a business that may be succesful, but it goes partly on his name and also my address. I move back to boo hunk midwest , no one cares. Still no money.
Last week he was all, hey I love you honey. Me finding out about all his girlfriends took us somewhere else. He told me he is going out and buying a new car, there will be no money left, of course I never knew what he had or made.
He said he wants me dead.
I've never had anyone tell me that before. Dead.
I have no contact with family, they are living their own lives.
Dead seems like such a releif now. I'm totoally broke. I just make enough each month to pay my bills, I think he makes quite a bit of money, but I seriously think he'd kill me if I tried to find out.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

No friends, moved 1,000 miles away. I'm islolated. I just want out of this misery.

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Is there a womens refuge near you?

You are worth so much more than what he's telling you, he is just trying to bring you down and it is working. You obviously are a successful woman if you run your own business and you can continue to be one but not while he's putting you down all the time and you believing every word he is saying. Tell him to go back to his ex (it sounds like they deserve each other)

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I am so embarassed. I know how to spell, I am not illerate. I am a perfectionist, which is why my business does so well. I hate to be remembered as an idiot.

Darn it, I know mispellings here. Just not something I can handle but if I leave this page , I lose it.
He came home tonight and threw a whiskey bottle in my lap and said I want you out. I said why. Oh , Beverely. Well I guess she has wrecked my life for 4 years, but why," I love her and not you." This is the woman he said, wrecked every relationship he had for 20 years, he knew she was making every attempt to screw me up, but out of the blue, he loves her.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Some of us have too much pain, this is my third marriage. I thought he loved me. To look in my face, I was sober, and say to me, I do not love you and I want you dead.
I just can't get over the pain.

[Cinders]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace,

Do not try to analyze someone who is being such a hateful person. He obviously has his own issues. Let him go.

Get a life you have never had. A good one. 59 is not the end of the road. It really isn't.

There are options and you can figure them out. You seem very intelligent. I know you can think of a way to get what you want and need out of life.

Get even with the SOB, leave him in your dust.

Do not let him win. That would be a sin.

Love,
Cindi

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace - he is trying to hurt you and is succeeding. Don't let him. If he is throwing alcohol in your lap he is trying to make you fail. Don't let him. I know that it hurts when someone you love doesn't love you back, but you can not change him. Don't let him destroy you.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Oh he and his ex are just screwing with each other. . They basically hate each other also, just a life habit.
I read between the lines.
It was the look on his face when he said, I do not love you anymore, he took a shower, I had him repeat it, that is when he said I want you dead and out of my life. This comes from my finding, on family cell phone plan all his girlfriends and ex wife.
Oh well.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I'm completely alone in this life. I'm thinking I am going to hang on because I am drinking this darn whiskey he threw in my lap, but I know, no where to go, no money. I really thought I loved him. I really did. How could he do this to me. Why the lies? WHY?

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

He will continue to cheat Grace - if he hasn't changed in 20 years he never will. Just know that you deserve a better life than the one he is giving you.

[Zeppie2]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

He probably has cheated and lied his way through life and has always got away with it. Please don't drink any more whiskey, it won't help the situation.

[ilovejafa]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Gold;693617 wrote: Tulipe,

Well done for not drinking it must be so much harder under these circumstances. You certainly are strong and will become even stronger, your husband clearly is weak since he needs to resort to accusations of control on your part and hiding things from you.

I have the mental image (in relation to your husband) of a child in a school class leaning over their exercise book and using their arm to stop the child next to them copying their work

The truth here is that you are the strong one, not your husband.

I just read this, and then went away. And then came back and read it again.

That is profound, and really touched me. You have an art to say what people think, but cannot express it.