Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

[sosad61]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace,
I beg you to watch this. The woman in this video has been through many of the same things that you have been through; I think you will identify with it very much. Bear with me and watch the whole thing. Hon, you are worth a thousand times what he is worth.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMj2K2-K8wo&eurl=http%3A%2F%2F[/video]]YouTube - Animal miracles

[sosad61]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace,
I don't know exactly what kind of business you are in, but if there is any type of work that I can do to help you fulfill those orders (you needn't give me any sensitive/confidential material), I will be happy to help. My day is spent in boredom looking for a job and I may as well be helping someone out. You can get through this Grace, and keeping your business that you have worked so hard for alive is important so that you can be financially stable when you free yourself from the bastard.

[beautifulred]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace

Believe me, I have been in your situation. I finally decided to stop worrying about what the son of a bitch thought and started loving myself and looking at what was good for me for once. It hurts like hell for awhile but it will pass and once you start loving yourself and training your brain to stop craving what is really distroying you,( AL and people who bring you down) you will start to feel really good about yourself. You will start to depend on yourself and that feels wonderful. I believe that people who take their own lives (a gift from God) go to hell..jmo. Imagine, if you will, how much pain you are in now......hell is probably worse and it is for eternity. Turn your life around now....you are the only one who can do this. IT IS POSSIBLE! Leave the asshole in the dust and get a good attorney and take everything that you are entitled to.....even if that isn't much monitarily, your self respect is worth more than any amount of worldly goods. Please take it from someone that has been there and survived.....I should say, thrived! STOP drinking and start planning for your future hon......you will survive!!!

[ChickenNumber3]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace!
I want to say something helpful and inspiring to you...but I don't seem to know the right words!
So instead I will say...you have more friends here than you could count..we are all here to listen,to share,commiserate and to cherish you unconditionally! My faith in humanity has been much restored by MWO..and.even in your sadness and pain I can see what a wonderful person you are. I stand your friend..imagine all of us here like a sheild of wellbeing around you..keeping you safe, holding you up when you feel tired and weak and lonely, and warding off the 'evil' things that trouble you. We are far stronger than alcohol or that husband of yours could ever be! You are not alone..
Chicken

[sosad61]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

You're NOT alone Grace. We're all your friends and are here for you, as the other fine people before me have said. You can come through this and be better, stronger, smarter, and wiser than you have ever been in your entire life. Life is waiting for you Grace, with open arms. I've not been through quite the hell you have been through, but I have felt just about as low at times. I thought the pain would never end, but now I'm looking at life entirely differently.

I'm unemployed (been so for 9 months), about to lose our home of ten years, there is a stack of bills a mile high that we're behind on, I haven't seen my wife and daughter in two months (we're not separated or anything, it's just a situation we opted to go through that is complex to explain), we're down to the last several hundred dollars in our bank account, and a host of other nasties that are nipping at my heels.

But you know what? Since I stopped drinking I'm happy; far happier than I was when I was gainfully employed making close to 6 figures (and drinking). I smile and laugh now. I wake up in the morning and thank God that He has given me this day.

That will be you too Grace, if you give yourself the chance. Only you can do that. You are a truly worthwhile person and deserve to give yourself the opportunity to be happy. One day you will look back on this time and be so grateful that you survived. You have a LOT of good, happy, productive, and enjoyable years ahead of you, even if you don't know it yet. It can happen and it will. You just need to give yourself the chance.

Look how intelligent you are? You started a profitable business! I am an independent business development consultant and I've yet to be able to succeed in that area. What you've done takes a lot of savvy and grit. Use that innate intelligence and business savvy in your personal life to turn things around. Take your strengths and use those strengths to beat down your weaknesses. Get angry if you need to. In fact, I would suggest that you DO get angry and channel that anger toward turning things around. That's what did it for me. I said "NO MORE!" You can do the same Grace; I know you can.

God Bless.

[beautifulred]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

By the way

Grace....it really sounds as though your shit of a husband and his trollope of an ex wife were made for eachother.....let them have eachother....sounds like niether one of them knows the meaning of love and they are sucking the lifeblood out of you. They will get what they deserve.....

[Cinders]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace,

Please check in and let us know you are okay.

You have a host of friends who want to help in anyway we can.

Cindi

[JackieClaire]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace,
There's an old saying 'What comes around,goes around.' They'll get their just deserts.
Hang in there, honey, you're worth a million more than him.
Hold your head up high.
Jackie xxx

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I sincerely thank you all.

I am not a 'sick woman' seeking men to abuse me.

My second husband was just a cheater. We had so much 'good fun' the first few years we were married.My daughter and husband, family loved him. He was also a musician, but had a construction company that I physically ran, 16 employees. I had a class A CDL. This came from a lifetime of working on farms and ranches.
In the state I'm in I let my CDL go, just getting to old to do that hard physical , everyday labor.

I learned to be a Graphic Designer here and work for 2? years at that. Hey, Mac computers, so unreal. Programs such as Photoshop, InDesign, Illustration, very high learning curve, and while my husband put me down every step of the way. I'm good at art, good at advertisements. I got high reviews every step of the way.

My Father and Mother had their problems and never wanted to see us 7 kids rise above what they had accomplished. My Dad died a very wealthy man. We of course never got a penny. But my kids are all college graduates, doing so well.

My father and mother beat me my whole life and put me down. I had a sister blond/fair skinned who died when I was two in a traffic accident. My parents hated me because I had dark hair. They shaved my hair and dressed me in boys clothes. I have pictures from my youth to prove it. They hated that the perfect blond died and the dark girl lived in the accident.I always heard how ugly I was, my whole life I was the ugly one. I would come home once a year to see them, trying to hide broken bones , black eyes. Dad would always say to me , no one beats a woman if she not deserve it. I never had a phone, I was trapped on ranches and farms, working 16-18 hours a day in the fields, Then would sew all the families clothes, even underwear. I saved money for our future. I would wear clothes till they fell apart. I was denied myself my whole life.I was not allowed to have friends or an outside job.

I had to realize at some point love is not having a wrench beaten across your face as a child. My 5 brothers all remember Dad taking a crescent wrench and beating me repeatedly across the face, I asked him if he would fix the flat tire on my bike. I don't think I went through sexual abuse as child, but I can remember my Dad, who I so loved, coming into my room at who knows what hour, telling me all these fantacys about our new life, in my room drunk, after playing with the band , and my Mom screaming at him, Leann, don't you do anything for him. Dad always brought me home the glass cigar tubes. And the paper rings from cigars. I would wear them all week, thinking Dad loves me. Then he would turn around and beat the crap out of me for nothing.
I don't know what I am going to do. I would put up with almost anything, NO not beatings, No not other women, where I am at now. But I do earn my keep here believe me. I do treat him as if he was a king. And he shows absolutely no appreciation.
When your husbands girlfriend and HE, tells you, we want you dead. I know they really mean it.
Thanks all for your help. I am sorry to say , yes I am drinking the whiskey he threw in my lap. I'm so lost and hurt. NO I can't do my orders for my business. YES I want to die. But I have no way to do that. So I am here looking for my friends to help me.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I just logged out of this forum and a message came up, someone has hacked into my account is posting under my name. Sorry, is it my husband or his girlfriend? I don't know, just really strange.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I so wish I could tell you all who I am, I'm not a loser. I wish you could see how I have overcame my life situation, but of course I can't do that.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Tulipe ,
I so hope things are looking up for you! I seem to have taking over you post. I'm so sorry for that. I feel your pain. Please take care.

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Is anyone there?

[sosad61]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hi Grace,
I'm here. I got your DM. I'll be glad to help out any way I can. You said someone hacked into your account. Was it the previous long post that you say wasn't yours?

[brightlite]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace, for the love of God! Get out of there! Make a Plan! NOONE deserves that kind of abuse. I've been abused in two past relationships. Never again! Now the only abuse is with AL, which I'm working on that.

Let's face it, the relationship with never return to anything that resembles "LOVE". Please don't think that he will change! He will just continue to beat you down! You say he has cheated, can you get proof? Phone bills? Get yourself together! Please get your head on straight! You will need to think clearly! Don't focus on "The Poor Me" aspect, focus on getting out and regaining your self-respect and dignity! DON'T DO ONE MORE THING FOR THAT BAS****! Also, keep your thoughts to yourself! I'm sure your silence will make him crazy, but SO WHAT! Seriously, You can do this! IT WON'T GET BETTER IF YOU STAY!!!! It will be hard to leave, but if there is anyway we can help you...let us know. Keep us posted. aargh....makes me want to scream!