Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

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Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

OK, new day. Yes very weird to get this warning , someone hacked my account.
I'm having a very hard time.
I so thank all of you for helping me through this. I have no idea why now, when I have basically lived with nothing from him, just kind of been his slave for 4 years, he now out of the blue says. It's over. I think it is the fact we have to do something with my life being in storage in another state, moving from this horrible apt he has been in for 30 years. It is change he won't do.
Yes his ex, wow, I know he does not love her, but she has great things to offer him, her kids hate him. Who knows, he may move there and be with her awhile, just for the free meal ticket. I know he does not love her.
I am drinking again. I have not called any of my kids. I can't now.
I am lost.
My husband always warns me , people hack your accounts, I got a huge warning my account was hacked. I'm too embarrassed and too tired to look through my posts to see which are mine. It may be him.
Quitting drinking will be the first , most important move for me to make. I will never understand why he keeps throwing alcohol at me, but maybe he knows how hurt I am and he is trying to help me get through it?

[Guest]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

or maybe hes trying to keep you wasted so he can do whatever he wants while leaving you powerless to do anthing about it? Claim back your power.

[beautifulred]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

HELP YOU??????!!!!

Grace,
Do not think for a minute that he may be trying to help you get thru this by throwing AL at you.....he knows exactly what he is doing and helping you IS NOT IT!
It is time to put that damn bottle down and clear your head. Stop letting him use you as a doormat.

I know this sounds harsh but you MUST do something beside holding out hope that this man....(and I use that term loosely) will come back to you. Kick him OUT of your life.

[InnerStrength]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

I agree Grace. He is not trying to help you - its easier for HIM to ply you with alcohol so you don't see what he is doing. What a complete asshole. He clearly does not care that alcohol could kill you. Get away from the selfish, abusive piece of shit.
Don't defend him or try to see him in a positive light. There is nothing positive about what he is doing. I think you must know that. And I love what limers said - claim back your power.
Sorry, it's true.

[bloggy]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Grace, my friends husband used to bring her alcohol home everynight- he just wanted her drunk so he could go off with other women- and it worked.


I would pour it over his sorry head- I know you are hurting right now, but you will get through this and come out the other side and your life will be so much better without him in it.

Dump the booze and make a plan- once you do that things will be brighter.

[irish eyes]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hi Grace
I just want to say that I am so sorry that you are going through so much pain right now. I know what that is like, I lived in an abusive relationship for eleven years and it is very difficult to get out of it. But you have choices! If you dont want to be a doormat get up off the floor! You are responsible for your own life you have no control over what people do say or think. It is very empowering to take responsibility for your choices and act in your own best interests. He doesnt deserve you and neither were you born into to this world to accept this unacceptable behaviour from him or his former wife, you DESERVE THE BEST! So go girl put yourself first and say 'I will act in my own best interest today' You can do it and you must do it for YOU. PM anytime :l:l

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Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Made a log post, said I did not have permission.
I am looking inside , not out for the answers.
Thank you all.

[gyco]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

hi tulip i hope it works out 4 u.u are a very special person sometimes relationships are like candy,some of the stuff u just thro away

[Tulipe]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

like candy?

Gyco - could you please expand on that? How are relationships like candy? You throw out the wrapper? Keep the sweet stuff?
I guess that's something to think about.
Grace how are you today?
I am so behind on everything today!

[Beaches]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

limers;696531 wrote: or maybe hes trying to keep you wasted so he can do whatever he wants while leaving you powerless to do anthing about it? Claim back your power.

Grace, I love this quote by Limers, it is so very true. He is not helping you at all. Please be well

[InnerStrength]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hi Beaches !

[Beaches]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hey ...missed you glad to see you here
Glad you kept most bouncy...that is how I will always think of you

[sosad61]

Husband having affair??? - facebook blues

Hiyay! So good to see such happy faces!