THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

[Angelcakes]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

Thanks Beags...it means a lot. Unfortunately mental illness is in my family - my sister is also very sick but neither will get diagnosed & help...it gets really confusing trying to work out the best thing to do, so I just avoid them mostly.
Off to see my Mum & my well brother now...my dad has gone to his work today - he's a volunteer social worker...he's 79yrs old and really doesn't deserve this but I guess you don't get to choose the illness. God I hope my boys are OK. It's a wonder I fecking drink...but can deal with it a whole lot better with a clearhead. And I've never been one to do things by halves...if I'm gonna go AF I may as well do it at the hardest possible time!!
Later.

xo

[byebyebridgetjones]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

Morning All,
Jeez Angel, that's terrible.
My brother is one of those problem children as well.I grew up waiting for the next plague of locusts to occur. And we never waited long.
It also conditions you to put everyone else first, to be reactionary instead of pro active. This, I've found, becomes a lifetime habit. I've also established it's one of the basic reasons I find myself in this predicament as a boozehound.
It's hard enough to straighten up and fly right without the omnipresent drama, let alone with.
I've had to get my head round putting myself first lately. Hard habit to break, but I'm starting to realise if I don't, that he might actually be coming to MY funeral instead. Failing MISERABLY at the moment, but hopefully heading in the right direction.
Just a thought.
ANd my thoughts are with YOU.
Bridge x

[Sweaty Betty]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

Hi all

Angel - what a trauma! make my MIL dramas look extremely minor. Sending supportive thoughts/vibes/karma for you and Bridge.

Bets
x

[startingover]

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Angel, Bridge, good vibes coming your way....what a trauma to have to live through.
Strength and prayers for you both....huge hugs too.:l

[tawnyfrog]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

Yup. What they said.

[Miss Behaving]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

Far out - what's in the air??

Angel that is awful. As Tawny said - what they said.

I cant remember when I last posted. Was it after my mother had been hospitalised??? Yes, it was as I remember the support I got here when I lost the plot on Friday - thanks!! Anyway, she is still there, and some days it seems like she'll be able to go home, and some days it seems like she wont ever again. Basically her heart is failing quite badly, and we knew that her lungs were giving up, but now it is her kidneys and liver as well. She really wants to go home, and I totally support her in that, but she doesn't want any home support .... which again I could live with if it didn't mean that all the needs for her care and support wouldn't fall onto me!!

In the mean time my alkie brother (in another city) who came out of hospital the day before my mother went in, got put back in on the weekend with severe intestinal bleeding. I'm pretty sure he went straight from the hospital to the bottle store .......

so I haven't been round much either ........ but Angel, I still want to do the October challenge. Good on you with your 3 days in such trying circumstances. I haven't been so successful, but on the other hand I haven't been going over the top either. But I dont want to use current events as an excuse. I want to deal with alll this stuff sober. Lets hang on in there.

and lots of hugs for you angel, and you tooo beagle, and everyone else. Sometimes I dont know what I would do without MWO

mame

[Cinders]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

I just wanted to send some support to my friends here.

Bridge, Angel, Mame, may solace and peace come your way. You are all dealing with difficult circumstances and I hope they ease for you.

Cindi

[ronnie]

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Hi All
Just a very quick check in as I have'nt been around lately, ive been so busy what with office work & tee-ball, but its all good here, im off to watch hubby train at baseball tonight so that should be a laugh.
I really hope things get better for you girls, im thinking of ya
Love
ronnie
xx

[byebyebridgetjones]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD, September

Evening All,
I 'm feeling a bit guilty here, that I may have received falsely acquired sympathy.:H:H
Thankyou all for your kind thoughts, but I should explain that my brother's behaviour rarely effects me these days as Angel's does.I won't let it.

Can I just give one more bit of unsolicited advice Angel ? DON'T wait too late to involve the police and set other boundaries such as AVO's (apprehended violence orders) if necessary.
Set those boundaries good and hard. Mental health illness or not.
If you want to PM me AT ANY TIME don't hesitate. I have, unfortunately, a wealth of experience
While I'm on my soap box Mame :H......it may well be possible to care for your poor Mum at home. It's understandable that she might be resistant to professional care, but you will need it and you should (kindly) insist. Hopefully she will have a good experience with it, good professional home nursing service is a life saver. But either way you can't do it by yourself ...it's not fair. Just my big mouthed opinion, but I've seen nasty injuries happen when people home care without help.

Anyway, enough. What good stuff happened today ?
Bridgex

[Cinders]

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Bridge,

I want to set boundaries. I really do.

Hubby does love one grandchild above all others. NOT a sexual thing. But, she is above all others. I do not do that. I love them all.

I am adrift here, friends.

Totally.

I am searching for help.

Love,
Cindi

[tawnyfrog]

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Cindi ... what's going on? You've been sad for days. Do you want to tell us more? How can we help you?

[rubywillow]

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Cindy, I feel for you completely. It's not my husband but his parents who showed favoritism (still do) and my daughter is 35, son 38. Their preference toward my son is extremely obvioius, even though my daughter is very educated, wonderful job and husband, beautiful kids, involved in the community, etc. They BOUGHT my son and his psychotic wife a house, car, and tried to hide it from everyone. This has gone on since they were babies, and I feel has affected my son the worst, as he expects things to be handed to him, and he isn't usually very appreciative. How old are your grandchildren? If I could go back, I would DEMAND they at least keep their choice to themselves! I wish you the best.

[Cinders]

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I really want to tell you more but it is so private.

I am more than sad and I hate to be here.

I would tell all of you the whole story if I felt comfortable with it, but I am not.

However, I am reaching out and you are grabbing those hands.

Thank you.
Cindi

[rubywillow]

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Hugs right back, Cinders. PM if you want.

[Cinders]

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Hugs taken and accepted.

OMG. I never wanted a thread to focus on me. I am not worthy.

But today, I need it.

Cindi