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    #1

    Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

    Ok good news been told that i have been taken on permanently at my job. But going to the office i thought to myself if i dont get the job i will get pissed, but when they said they wanted me permanently i was so happy all i could think about is i wanted to reward myself.. Yes not just one bottle but i thought why not 3bottles of wine for the price of 10 pounds plus i can use my privilege card and get 10%percent off....
    Just wanted to be honest with you folks and share my good news......
    Rigth now im feeling very very angry with myself and with AL.
    Anyway today is a New Day!
    Formerly known as Teardrop:l
    sober dry since 11th Jan '2010' relapse/slip on 23/7/13 working in progress ! Sober date 25/7/13 ( True learning has often followed an eclipse, a time of darkness, but with each cycle of my recovery, the light grows stronger and my vision is clearer. (AA)
    my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !
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    #2
    Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

    Hi Catch 22.
    Perfect name.
    It may well be that we were seperated at birth.
    That is EXACTLY what I would do.
    And what a bargain at a tenner. Can't be bad for you at that rate.
    Look love, all you can do is take another run at it.
    Beating the crap out of yourself won't help.
    I am feng shui-ing myself this month if you'd like to join me.
    Bridge.
    If your 8 year old self met you, would they be proud?
    Rejoined life 20/5/19

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      #3
      Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

      well get back on the wagon and lets do it again girl you did it once you can and will do it again ...
      but next time do you hair ,nail ,get a message ,buy a dress , go out to eat with the family .. live life and know that you dont have to drink to have a great time
      :beach: life does change as long as you are willing to change yourself ..
      best thing about the future it comes one day at a time..

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        #4
        Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

        Congrats on being made permanent at your job catch22, as bridget says wonderful name!

        A bargain 3 for ?10 especially as I noticed it's gone up, wish there was a bargain deal on petrol now that would be something

        As you say, today is a new day, every slip has a lesson and reinforces the desire to stop.

        Good luck on your journey.
        I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you.

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          #5
          Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

          Catch!! I guess I could pat you on the back with one hand and smack you upside the head with the other :H:H:H So.... good luck and good luck. :H:H
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          Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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            #6
            Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

            o well,life goes on,you no the old saying get knocked down and pik yourself rt back up and start all over again ,ive been feeling a pinch latel but i remember how sik i got the last time was not fun,good luck gyco

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              #7
              Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

              Congrats on the job!

              Here's something from the toolbox thread about how we can move away from the idea of alcohol as a "reward":



              I don't think we can begin to truly grow into a successful, lifetime, AF plan until we have managed to make the shift in our thinking from the "Deprivation Mode" to the "Gratitude Mode."

              In Deprivation Mode, we think alcohol is a good thing that we are being deprived of. We are sad, and grieve the loss of what had felt like a friend to us. We consider it a treat that we never get to give ourselves again. We are envious of others who "get to drink."

              In Gratitude Mode, we recognize that alcohol is (for us, because of our brain structure, genetics, physiology, etc.) a toxin, a poison, something that nearly destroyed us. Mentally, physically, and spiritually. We recognize that we have the most amazing opportunity to rid ourselves of something that makes us very sick in all those ways. We recognize the craziness of voluntarily damaging our brains, minds, bodies, families, jobs, futures. We are really, really grateful for that opportunity, and we guard it and cultivate it carefully.

              Most of us start a recovery program in deprivation mode. Some people stay there forever. Those people tend not to be able to create a consistently successful program, or life, of freedom from alcohol and its devastation. Some of us transition into gratitude mode.

              For most of us, Gratitude Mode does not just happen all by itself. We have to make it happen. If we want to shift into gratitude mode, we learn to cultivate it. We cultivate it by being careful about our thoughts, and about what we notice. If we find ourselves thinking about how wonderful it would be to have a drink, we deliberately shift attention away from this train of thought, and we deliberately choose to think about how good it is to know we will never humiliate ourselves with alcohol again, never again have another horrible hangover, never disappoint our children again with the way we are when we get drunk. We notice alcohol advertising, pay attention to how it makes us feel, and detach from the message by noticing how distorted the message is.

              That kind of thing is crucial. We literally can BUILD a new way of thinking and feeling about things. And I think that's something to be grateful for, in itself!
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              Real change is difficult, and slow, and messy - Oliver Burkeman

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                #8
                Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

                Big congrat's on your job situation, Catch 22! Great news, indeed. Now, do you want to keep it? Good that you're back on the wagon. You've obviously got lot's to offer all around you, so c'mon and take yourself more seriously. Best wishes..........

                Thanks for the reminder, Marshy. Great reading, and very true, in my experience. Our thinking!

                'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'

                Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-

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                  #9
                  Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

                  Marshy, that was a great post. I was on the pity pot just last week about not being able to "reward"myself and drink on vacation like everyone else. I did maintain my sobriety, but wasn't really happy about it. i truly was in the deprivation mode when I should be looking at the gratitude mode which makes so much more sense at this point. I will give that thought a whirl for future and change my attitude to gratitude that I am ridding this poison from my body.

                  Winefree

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                    #10
                    Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

                    Winefree - It's easy to slip into deprivation mode, isn't it? I didn't write the post, it was written by A Work in Progress who used to be a regular here. There's lots of good stuff to read in the toolbox thread in monthly abs.

                    Catch22 - how are things today?
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                    Real change is difficult, and slow, and messy - Oliver Burkeman

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                      #11
                      Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

                      Thanks for ALL your replies and advice..:l

                      Im picking myself up gyco and taking a run bridge and jumping back on that wagon Mr T..... normally it would take weeks but not this time.....MR T it will have to be my nails they are in a mess cant stop biting! Greenie you make me laught girl....
                      Mashy thanks for posting that toolbox thread on here, it was only last week on the odat threat that i said i will read the toolbox and print it out (all talk and no actions me but not today) SO that what i will do today. need to get some tea bags first, ran out of tea....
                      Formerly known as Teardrop:l
                      sober dry since 11th Jan '2010' relapse/slip on 23/7/13 working in progress ! Sober date 25/7/13 ( True learning has often followed an eclipse, a time of darkness, but with each cycle of my recovery, the light grows stronger and my vision is clearer. (AA)
                      my desire to avoid hitting bottom again was more powerful then my desire to drink !

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                        #12
                        Good New's,felt good so i reward myself!

                        Catch22-been there done that. You are right...just start over on this recovery journey. The support here is so great.

                        Marshy, Thanks for reprinting the Gratitude Mode piece. It was exactly what I needed to read as I am again having thoughts of drinking this weekend as it is a holiday and I don't want to be deprived. Instead, I will work on thinking what a great holiday it will be when I have my self-respect and stay AF. Thank you so much.
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