I can completely relate to how you are feeling. I guess its different to feed someone rather than give money to feed a habit. Also, if no one cared for him then what chance does he have to care for himself? I would feel just like you Greenie and I think would do the same. Listen to your gut instinct, if you are not risking your own wellbeing and you are simply giving him a hand during a rough patch then I agree, there is nothing wrong with that. And the chance that he might take hold of himself and start to help himself is always there I guess? I think I would say enough is enough if your own stability was being rocked or your own emotions were taking a bashing. But if that isnt happening to any great degree, then you must do what you feel comfortable doing and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
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I can completely relate to how you are feeling. I guess its different to feed someone rather than give money to feed a habit. Also, if no one cared for him then what chance does he have to care for himself? I would feel just like you Greenie and I think would do the same. Listen to your gut instinct, if you are not risking your own wellbeing and you are simply giving him a hand during a rough patch then I agree, there is nothing wrong with that. And the chance that he might take hold of himself and start to help himself is always there I guess? I think I would say enough is enough if your own stability was being rocked or your own emotions were taking a bashing. But if that isnt happening to any great degree, then you must do what you feel comfortable doing and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
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Army Thread 17th September???
It isn't happening to any **small degree. I worry about being in his energy field because he tends to be a leach of sorts, not intentionally, it's just natural when one is grasping I suppose. But I hope I am aware enough (most certainly wary :H) that I keep myself protected from that. I have a guided grounding and protective meditation CD tht I got from Colin Tipping that I use. I feel like I have to hide what I do for him from others because they are so judgemental. Remember when we talked about that a long time ago?
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Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT
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Yes I remember, but the good thing is you are very aware of that. Plus you dont need reassurance from others to do what you think is right. Fighting both battles, his and others judgements is too hard. So its best to avoid it whenever you can. I tend to hide stuff if I feel I will be judged. Sometimes I am wrong to do it, but hey, its better than feeling overwhelmed with uncertainty.
Do you think he will ever find it within himself to turn his life around?Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
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Hey Greenie...
I say...help with the small things if you can...I do believe that the only time you should look down on a man is when you are helping him up...I don't think you are enabling.....you are merely helping another human being who needs it.
BUT..if you find that helping him is in anyway infringing on your sense of well being, upsetting your natural balance or in any way depleting you of the wonderful energy you have....you will know what to do."It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"
AF 10th May 2010
NF 12th May 2010
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I honestly don't know starty. He is a gifted healer. Seems a shame to go to waste. But his soul's challenges are his own as are his karmic issues. I am undoubtedly in his soul group but that sure doesn't give me any insiders info. :H He's scared and I feel OK just standing on the sidelines reminding him that he does have the strength to do this. Whether he does or not remains to be seen, but if I can help him believe it, I think that is a nice thing to do for another person.sigpic
Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT
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one2many;716967 wrote: Hey there Zenners...I never knew you were so tall either..I am TINY beside Starty..so can only imagine what i am like beside you!sigpic
Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT
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