I am on day 46 AF. When i decided to quit (again) I asked my husband to help me by getting rid of all the AL in the house. He was very nice & supportive & i thought he did this for me. Friday night he pulled out a big bottle of our fav wine from where we used to keep it and poured himself a glass right in front of me. I was shocked etc. The next day when i was calmer i asked him why he did that. He went on a macho rant about is he not allowed to have 1 glass of wine or 1 beer after 6 days of work? I said I know you do not have the problem I have with AL but I am getting mixed messages from you about me & my drinking. Then he said he doesnt care what i do or dont do (AL) that is my decision. I said well when i drank you did complain a lot about it. He was like yes because i would come home after a long week and all the AL was gone (that he said he bought) i had drank it all so it all came down to $$$$$$$$$$$$ he spent for AL, then he had none to drink. He also told me in so many words that I am not as much fun since i quit drinking we dont go anywhere. (i no longer want to go to bars or the wineries). I said well i do have a stressful job, i come home TIRED and you are working 2 jobs that might have something to do with it also but he does not see that as a reason at all. I feel him drinking our old fav wine in front of me (as well as having it where we used to keep it after I thought he got rid of it for me) was a very insensitive, rude , mean thing for him to do. I am hurt by his comments and lack of sensitivity/understanding. I fear we want different things in life this is my second marriage (his first) and without the mask of AL my depression is so much worse..In a few months i will be 50 and i really feel as if there is nothing left to look forward to in life other than getting old and dying. So i did ask him to put the wine somewhere anywhere where i dont know where it is,. It is still in the old place. I asked him if i was addicted to heroin would he leave that laying around the house where I could see it and he acted like that was a stupid statement and that is when he started his rant about him after a long week of working 2 jobs, is he not allowed 1 drink in his house etc.
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