I'm sure I'm not alone but I have noone to discuss this with that I can trust. 53. Used to love sex. Couldn't get enough. Now - zilch! Don't care, don't want when it's offered. I oblige my husband but can't get it done fast enough. He blames HRT for my non-interest.
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Wish I had words of wisdom for you but I am in the same boat, although minus the HRT because I am almost 15 years younger. Yikes. It is SAD to say the least. I wish you well with the issue though, and will follow the thread closely in case any one offers ideas that might help me as well. -
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Golly.....I have the opposite problem.Gabby :flower:Comment
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And your secret Gabby?
Say on......Comment
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i am waiting to gabby :HChickenNumber3;737714 wrote: And your secret Gabby?
Say on......
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I'm the same but it isn't HRT that's causing the lack of interest - age might come into it - I'm 50.
Like the rest of you I'm waiting for Gabby's next input with baited breath!!Minnie x
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Afternoon pan-icked!
Although I'm a martian I can somewhat relate to your story.
I went through a similar experience with my ex-partner where although still very much attracted to her I felt my libido was extremely low and I wasn't willing to engage in any kind of sexual activity with her. I think my self worth and self esteem was at an all time low due to my drinking during this period.
I think sometimes though we can delve to deeply into the reasons why. As you suggested, could it be the HRT? and as Minnie suggested, could it be age? I've often thought that the more I worry about something 'not' happening or 'not' going right in my life is due to the fact that I've had expectations of it always going right in the first place. The more I think about it the more I give myself a hard time over it which subsequently leaves me feeling very negative and worried that things will not change in the future.
I'm not Dr. Phil so I may be talking completely out of my arse but I can relate to your situation in many areas of my life today and not just sex. Don't give yourself a hard time over this and maybe re-approach your GP if you have any real concerns that it maybe the HRT. I know this is quite common as it happened with my own mum when she was on the tablets. I think she was quite grateful to be honest as my dad was a bit of a sex-aholic according to her!! (We talk quite openly these days!!)
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im the same, im 52, just cant see the point anymore, still love my hubby, let me know if you find a cure,TwitchComment
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I am 37 and would rather eat my own toenails.."It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"
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ONEY!!! Girl, you just slay me!!!!one2many;737825 wrote: I am 37 and would rather eat my own toenails..
You can get compounded HRT and kick up the testerone part a notch. The ratios of the compounded are for YOU in particular and can be tweaked as needed based on how you feel. Maybe foreplay could be adjusted?sigpic
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I am 22 and I am still waiting to get married. I can be horny, but its not all the time.I quit drinking on March 8, 2020. Taking it One Day At A Time and no more taking my quit for granted.
Also doing it for me. I got to stay sober for me.
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Me too' and i'm 47one2many;737825 wrote: I am 37 and would rather eat my own toenails..
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:H:H:HPopeye;737896 wrote: Me too' and i'm 47
"It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"
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That's why I don't like prescription meds... too many side effects and although I'm not sexually active at this time, when I want sex, I WANT IT, and I don't want no ol' pill gettin' in the way!
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I'm 47 too and since I've not had a BF in a couple years....well I got to tell you, I probably stare way too long at those hunky guys at the gym. Although I would definitely be a cougar if any of them wanted to date me. LOL
Also, the less I drink these days...the more I want it. Drinking does squash the libidio.
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