My mum though I felt extremely close to. I can still remember when I used to phone home from London on the scrounge for a few bob. If my dad ever answered the phone I would immediately ask if my mum was there. I couldn't hold a conversation with my dad, but I could talk for hours on the phone with my mum! She probably knew in her heart what I needed money for as soon as I said "hello". Mum's have a sixth sense I believe! (well my mum does) Yet we still played out the scenario over the phone and I promised I would pay her back when I got my giro. Swore down things were going great and I was eating properly and looking after myself etc. She knew the kind of scene I was getting into involved a lot of drug taking, drinking and parties but she never knew just how deep into the drugs I was. I was good at hiding that from her.
I guess it's never easy returning to the family home after leaving at such an early age and gaining one's independence. There is a big part of me that is projecting to the 'what if's' and I somewhat feel guilty for feeling quietly confident about the umbilical cord being finally cut. It should of happened a long time ago but being so needy and sensitive as a child that was not gonna happen. I loved my mum too much to let go. So even my independence and self discovery as a late teenager had me still relying on my mum's emotional support to give me stability (I use that word loosely!!).
I feel I am ready to move on and gain my independence back, but at what cost? I love my mum with all my heart and she is the closest person I have left in my life right now. I am still building up relationships with my 2 brothers at the moment which due to my mum's stroke brought us a bit closer. I often think God has plans for my mum that will enable this bond between my brothers to continue through her passing. Or am I just being selfish and self centered here?
I think I just needed to put this down on 'paper' so as to speak. I am not able to go to the hospital just yet because of my own flu symptoms. I have chose to stay away from the meetings too, rather than pass this horrid infection on; choosing to phone my sponsor daily and have a chat with him instead. So feeling a little bit isolated and lonely I guess today. It will pass I know and I am asking for guidance and trying to let go.
Have a great day everyone
Love and Light
Phil
xx
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