Found the pictures

[Guest]

OK, I knew even before but I found the pictures in his vehicle tonight. I know, I shouldn't be checking, but he was gone all weekend.(In a perfect world, no cheating husbands, yes)
It's like a month of pictures of him and her, and she is old, what's up with that? Cougar at our age? She is maybe our age but looks so much older, she has been buying him gifts for years. Finally found the pictures....oh well. Yes I will be OK. Yes I will get past this, just so amazing to finally find these, oh well. Life goes on. Just hard, also found a bunch of gifts to him from her he had hidden in his pickup.. He forgot to hide his keys tonight. He actually had locks on his old junker pickup changed like 10 months ago and left the keys in his coat tonight. Wow could have saved all that money! I'm devious. I will find out. Oh well, who wins?
I am OK. I have to scan these and save to my computer and put back. But why, no I think I will just keep them.Hide them. He will know there are gone. I did not take the gifts out. Left them there. Hey have her.....believe me, she looks like she could be our mother, but I have know about this for two years, he kept saying no, believe me these pictures say yes.
He has been photo shopping her kids and grand kids pictures, there are pictures of them on line, none of my kids, me , or grand kids.
Again, I am OK, just strange to finally find the pictures of them together.
Things happen when they should, I've been killing myself lately with alcohol over him, I thought. Now I see, I was just kidding myself. I was just killing myself, he and her have been together for at least 3 years and I knew, but could not admit. I was just opting out on life. How stupid of me. But I knew. Now I have proof. It doesn't help me at all. Just shows me how I wasted 3 years of my life.
Believe me, I am OK!

[Zeppie2]

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sorry to hear that Grace
keep your chin up and don't let him turn you to drink anymore okay.
Success is the best revenge

[mario]

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hope you get ok grace,you have been given very good advice in your previous posts, now is the time to take that advice. remember you have good friends and support here anytime . take care joe

[Guest]

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Zeppie
What is amazing is , I've been drinking more than ever in my life, until today, he came home late. Yes I drank, actually I was looking for his bottle when I came upon these pictures. I think, after all I've been through lately, knowing something was so wrong........gee I've know for years. But just lately it rea;;y took me under. Now I somehow know I will make it. I told him when he got home, I need to quit drinking, hey, he could care less. I am OK now. I know now. I have the answers, sometimes that is all we need.

[Guest]

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Mario,
Yes knowledge is sometimes all we need.

[Zeppie2]

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That is so great to hear Grace, you sound much more positive than your last thread. Good for you. PM anytime you need to talk.

[Guest]

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Yes, I am. I realize I just lost this marriage.I've hated drinking again. I hate being drunk and blacked out.
In a way this set me free. If anyone would have told me, just find the pictures, I would have cried my eyes out. Now I feel free. I can do nothing more. He chose an old ugly woman to have an affair with......hey have her. I don't care anymore. I just don't care anymore, no that is a lie. It will hurt, but no all these pictures of them together. Hey, I got the last laugh. he has also been a drunk though this, now he is stuck with her. I get to go home.

[Guest]

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I am the lucky one. Now he has to find a way to get rid of her. Gee they have been together for at least 3 years that I know of. Good luck Honey!

[rubywillow]

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Grace, continue to have what your name says, grace. And honey, your not really OK with this yet. Its alright to be mad, sad, hurt, pissed as hell! This is a big part of your life, so acknowledge that, then move on. Many women here can give you council on that very thing. Put aside the bad things in your life and look forward. You deserve happiness.

[rubywillow]

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And Grace, keep the pictures. Dump the subjects! LOL

[Guest]

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Yes, I am going to scan the pictures to my computer , then email them to myself. I know he will get them from me. She is so stupid, she gets these pictures printed. I have no access to his 6 computers, but she printed these out and I found them in his pickup from yesterday. Dumb!
He wants out anyway...I just know he does not want this old woman. His problem , not mine. Makes me happy he did it with her, but I know him well enough to know, she is not his main thing, she just thinks she is.
I just want to go home now, I am done.

[KateH1]

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Where is home Grace?

OK, so, you have found the pictures......what is your next step?

[Guest]

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Home is the Midwest

I hope I can go home. Home has never really been here.
My next step. Quit drinking.
Just get through this. Just have this done somehow.

[KateH1]

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Quitting drinking is a must, Grace. Quitting drinking gives us a clear head.
Obsessing over your husbands affairs and photos really and truly will do nothing to help you. What does it matter, what this other woman looks like? Nothing!

You were given a lot of sound advice on your other thread. Make a plan, find a job and work on yourself. You can do nothing about him and what he is doing. But you can work to create an independent life for yourself and give yourself back your power! Independence is powerful!

Good Luck!

[brittzak]

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I agree with Kate! who cares if this woman is young, old, ugly, or beautiful....she is what she is. What she is to you is NOTHING! Onward and upward!!!!!