MA, I would listen to your friend. A restraining order would be a wonderful thing. Sooooo you need to call 911 the first time he threatens you. Get a restraining order against him, but remember if you threaten him he can get one on you too. If you have a restraining order he can't come anywhere near you, your work, or the house.His dad doesn't live very far, Mike can move in with him.
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MA, I would listen to your friend. A restraining order would be a wonderful thing. Sooooo you need to call 911 the first time he threatens you. Get a restraining order against him, but remember if you threaten him he can get one on you too. If you have a restraining order he can't come anywhere near you, your work, or the house.His dad doesn't live very far, Mike can move in with him.
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Thanks!!
Greenie, great site will read up on it during all my down time tonight between drawing, great help!!! Yeah, today WAS harrassment, I just wanted to sleep & he would not stop bothering me!!??? Then I finally nodded off & the leg cramps were just never ending.... Our dog is gone too...... He went out w/ us riding as usual yesterday, and left(he is old & has hip dysplasia, so cannot last for more than an hour... Mike & the kids thinks he died & it is my fault! Mike actually threatened to kill my cat & the horses, I know that is an idle threat, but still not very nice!!!
Larry, friend from Havana(28 miles away) hauled some hay to my horses fior me(wouldn't accept any$$ for gas) well his truck got stuck in the mud & it took about 1 1/2. Hours to get it out, & I was desparately in need of a nap. ........ Caught 1 hr. But not enough for a 12 hr shift?! Oh man,done venting, then, thanks guys. I love you dearly!!!! Cannot ait til this is over!!!!!!!
MA:rays:My happiness is my greatest gift to others:rays:eace:
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SHITTY DAY!!!
had a wonderful morning, then got home to a horribly insensitive letter from David(I am sure spurred on by mike) we went riding on Sat, and Fudge, our choc lab, always goes out w/ us, tail wagging like crazy, he loves it!!!.....well, he is about 13 yrs old, has hip dysplasia and usually cannot keep up w/ our long rides, didn't notice he was not home when we got done and relaxed after our ride, WELL.....................he has been gone for 2 days and David wrote me this heartbreaking letter and had it up on my pc when I got home from work today...saying I am selfish, uncaring, didn't care about anything but me end the horses and having fun etc.................he turned up being picked up by someone on the side of the road...................cried, drank, had a horrible day...............thank god for friends helping me through it, but w/ this and the fear of change/divorce, I feel like I am losing it!!??:upset::upset:
I just wanted to keep this much loved thread alive, thanks More2 for reviving it...........thanks greeneyes, for the info on the leg cramps, finally getting a chance to read now...........as they have been horrible again today..................starting to wonder if it has something to do w/ PAD, my dad had that, and died at 65.....................oh well, went in his sleep, way I want to go....................
lots of love,:l:h
MA:rays:My happiness is my greatest gift to others:rays:eace:
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MA, you've got to stop judging yourself based on toxic input like that. I know he's you son and all that but writing you a note like that and putting it on your PC reflects only HIS OWN selfish, uncaring, selfcentered traits. (and I am holding my tongue here). Remember what your friend said... These guys are scared shitless that you have the balls to leave them and live your own happy life and no longer do, do, do, do for them and OMG!!! They will have to do for themselves and will turn on each other when they have nobody to blame for circumstances they find themselves in. Fudge was NOT your fault. It is unfortunate that rather than being grateful for his safe return, David chose to be ugly.
Keep your big girl pants on!!!sigpic
Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT
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MA,
Greeneyes is right. I have been following your posts recently and you are on the verge of a wonderfully positive transformation in your life. It is common when things such as this happen, that families are frightened and want to pull you back to old ways.
Plus, I'm sure David has learned some very dysfunctional behaviors from your husband. Children learn by what others do. Show them that you can find your way out with courage, dignity, and strength. Your children will benefit from this. You will break the cycle.
Stay strong. Don't drink. Keep connected with all who love you and support you.
M3AF Since April 20, 2008
4 Years!!! :lilheart:
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forgot
the dog is fine, was picked up by a woman, taken care of the entire time, no apology from anyone......................I AM OVER IT!!! Divorce cannot happen soon enough...............I want out of this shit!!!! thank you guys for drilling this into my brain, it has FINALLY sunk in...............and I wish I did it a while ago, but hindsight is 20/20, right???
love and hugs...........thanks for being here greeneyes................xooxoo:l:h
MA:h:rays:My happiness is my greatest gift to others:rays:eace:
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MA,
I meant it to mean that you deserve to be happy. And, some day your children will realize that your happiness is the greatest gift that you can give to them.
Hope you are feeling better.
M3AF Since April 20, 2008
4 Years!!! :lilheart:
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MA
I remember that you were the first person that I connected with when I first came to MWO. It seemed we had so much in common. The drinking, unhappy marriage, addicted husbands, living in FL, kids around the same age and wanting to be happy so badly. I know that it seems like a lifetime ago to me. I have had to live through the divorce stage and no matter how much you want it ,it is not easy. The kids will not make it any easier, because no matter what they see they still want their parents to be together. Financially things will not be easy. But as we both know we only were putting off the inevitable. I have read your posts and you feel you are finally getting your life back. Keep that in mind while you go through the hard times. I will tell you that it will be easy, but I will say that someday you will be able to say that it was worth it. Just getting your life back will be the best gift you could ever give yourself. This was honestly the worst year of my life but the divorce was not the reason. That was a positive in an otherwise tramatic year. I am still proud of myself for finally doing what I needed to, but was never brave enough until now. I am here for you and hope you know that you can contact me if you need support.
Pm me anytime!!
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Christmas is almost here......
My baby sister is coming in tomorrow. This will be the first time I've seen her since finding out she is pregnant. Not sure if posted, or not, but they are having a little girl. Lord help my checkbook. This is going to be one spoiled baby.
Last year we started a new tradition of building gingerbread houses out of graham crackers. We each get $10 to spend at the dollar store for decorations, in addtion to being able to use things we have around the house as long as there is enough to share with everyone. Last year I bought gold and green tinsel and made a palapa bar on the beach with x-mas lights. Hubby was a little more creative and made an indian village (he bought a package of cowboys and indians at the dollar store) and then wired x-mas lights to it. Our son is really into cars, so he made a garage with hydro lifts. This year will be my sister's first year to make one with us. OMG..... all of us have been making plans for weeks. My son even built a mach up out of cardboard to make sure his design would work. I have been racking my brain for ideas.... so far, I'm either going to make a church with stain glass windows out of melted jolly ranchers, or I'm going to go a funny route and make a redneck trailer with x-mas lights and maybe couch on the front porch, or something. Regardless of what I make it will be fun.
Hope everyone is doing well.
M2
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YAY!!
hoping you have a wonderful Christmas...........................mine is non existent this year but its all good........................Time2 change, great to see you here, remember our song, well it is still mine...........................
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdvbD3vyMdA[/video]]YouTube - Shinedown - Second Chance (w/ lyrics)
love you guys, seein my lawyer finally in 4 hours...............will try to work out first now that my leg crams seem to have resolved??!!
xoxoxo MA:l:h:l:h:rays:My happiness is my greatest gift to others:rays:eace:
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