30 days???

[more2life]

30 days???

Hey there girlies,

Cowgal- You already sound better and stronger and you haven't even left yet. I will be happy when you have all of this behind you. Divorce is ugly, but in my case it was worth all of the ugly to get rid of the jerk. My divorce was 20 years ago and I still get a stomach ache when I think about it. I came our wayyyyy ahead though, I got to keep my son. Everything else was just stuff.


Everything is A-OK here. I have finally gotten the back pain under control. I took Greenie's advice and saw a chiropractor last week. He made a couple of adjustments, but the real relief came from using a back magnet. I don't usually buy into that type of the thing, but I was in such a pain I was ready to try anything. Thank goodness I did.

TIT is having a rough time, so if you have her email you should send her a note of cheer. She is having to deal with another freaking death in the family. Her very close friend, as close as a dad to her is dying of cancer. I feel terrible for her and wish there was something I could do to help ease her pain. It really isn't fair...

On a brighter note... my baby sister has been with her husband for 18 years and they had a huge surprise last October... she is having a baby in May. Hubby is thrilled about it, but my sister is and that is all that matters to me. Her husband has three grown kids from a previous marriage, so was adament he didn't want to have anymore. Guess God had other plans for them. She called me last night to tell me she is having a baby girl. I'm so excited... and I will be so broke.

Anyway, thats about all the news I have. My son is here for X-mas break. I love having him home, but am so ready for him to leave at the end of his breaks. But, probably not as much as he is ready to get back to school. I still treat him like he is five. Hard to believe the little monkey is 20.


Love you all.

[cowgal]

30 days???

wow

Thanks for the update More2....................I had no clue, I did email tit, and called her.............she has had such a rough time lately, really wish I could be there for her................she is the BEST!! (so are you btw, loving the books.............thx) I will email her again................now that I am separated, I feel so free and happy, having fun again......but sad, as tit, and another dear dear friend are not well, and there is nothing I can do.............:upset::upset:

the weather here is sucky, it is actually warm, but rainy again.................went to a party at Larry's last evening, the guy who keeps my horses at times.............he is sweet, will come and haul them up to his place in a week or so..............since I won't be asking Mike to do anything else to help me..............I just dished out $500 for rent and owe for utilities............and whatever I can do to save $$ will help, the horses are due for vaccinations and coggins tests, that is about $150 or so...............and the blacksmith will be here tomorrow for their feet................only $50, so the savings of hay ($100/ month) will be a help til I get really on my feet...................

job is going well, tough from 1-4, but I am doing some artwork, and loving that.................:h

lots of love guys, let's keep this awesome thread going, and plan this party, I am in DIRE need of a getaway!!!!

MA:l

[greeneyes]

30 days???

What? What? What? Separated? Does that mean you actually filed?

[cowgal]

30 days???

yep!!

I finally have a life again, call me nice, but I want to be civil, to save me the stress of moving etc I am staying here, just paid my first rent check, went to a wonderful party last night w/ a good friend, at the guy who keeps my horses for me, had such a ball!!!!

Such a shame at 46, I finally have my life back..............all this time on my hands is driving me nuts though, going out to run a few errands, p/u zac from school, back doctor then home for dinner, Tanya(my good friend) is having trouble w/ drinking, want her to start baclofen, which has saved my life, but long story, weather sucks, rainy, warm, getting cold again in a few days......................just gotta get a game plan together, it is weird, Florida law, I have a friend from aa, who is advising me..............so no worries, actually probably don't even legally need to pay rent , but like I said, I want to keep it civil..................love being able to have the kids and what is left of my pets..............think my cat is dying, she has been sick all morning...................:upset::upset::upset:

Anyway, gotta go check the mail, run some errands, etc................call me if you want to chat..........I am DYING to get away and take a trip somewhere, not alot of $$ but can swing something up your way, would love it if TIT would be ok, sorry to hear about her, well, we will still celebrate!!! YAY~~~

Love and hugs,:l

MA

[greeneyes]

30 days???

You're welcome anytime! I have a spare bedroom. don't worry about the 46 part. Just having your life again is the important thing!

[cowgal]

30 days???

so excited!!!

I just bought 3 tickets to see Muse in Feb in Duluth GA, how far is that from you, the kids (after the last debaucle..............did i tell you all about that, the U2 Muse concert, thought it started at 8, well U2 did, we mostly wanted to see Muse, and they started at 7!!!) the boys (and I) were so upset............and mike's drunk ass got us there late to boot.................I am sooooooo looking forward to this, February the divorce should be done w/, if not, oh well, early celebration!!!???

love ya, gonna go p/u Zac from school................he is going to be so thrilled, I just got off the phone w/ him, we have killer seats too..............cannot wait!!!!!!

MA:l:h

[greeneyes]

30 days???

I remember that happening. I think Duluth is about 4 hours from me I think. I have to look. I haven't lived in GA for some time. It's north of Atlanta, right?

[cowgal]

30 days???

Yeah!

Maybe we can hook up, if not some time we need to plan this better than my Aug trip, my poor boys, aauuurrghh?!?! Cannot wait!! MA

[cowgal]

30 days???

hey all!!

I am meeting w/ a lawyer tomorrow at 4!!! I am changing my name back to my maiden name, living here w/ Mike until I can get a place...................finding a place for the horses, but have Larry, friend in Havana who I love dearly.................has offered me to stay w/ him, but too far, maybe temporarily?? Who knows?? This is definitely going to an emotional time, but positive, I thank you all for the friendship and support you had given me, I cannot believer I feel strong enough to actually do it!!!! YAY!!!!

love you all dearly, still need that party!!! Let's plan it, maybe when I go up to Muse???!!?!

XOXOXOXO MA:l:h:l:h

[more2life]

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MA- I'm so happy for you. You sound better and stronger than you have in a long time.

I lived with my ex for a year, before our divorce was final. I have to tell you it was pure hell. I'm not sure I could do it again. I know for certain I wouldn't be able to live with my current husband if we ever got a divorce. I care about him too much. It would be too painful to see him dating someone else. I didn't give a crap about my ex, so seeing him date other people was a blessing for me.

[brittzak]

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More2..I dont think you and hubby will ever divorce. He loves you just as much as you do him. I am very happy for you MA. FINALLY gonna be free. I bet the drinking issue gets better as you feel more confident.

[cowgal]

30 days???

Free!!!

I feel born again at 46, amazing!!! The next few months will most likely be challenging, but w/ all my support here and my friends here in Tally etc, I am sure I will be fine!!!

Lots of love you guys, meeting w/ a lawyer tomorrow so will find out more of my options, scared but excited....... Keep you all posted!!

XOXO

MA

[cowgal]

30 days???

need a hug!!!

Guys, you have always been here for me, good and bad.......:thanks::thanks:..............I really truly need you right now..................things (everything) are not going well..........................job is rough, thought it was a blessing,but it is killing me mentally i think,just staying up all night it is so rough right now...:upset::upset:.............wish I could just go away and disappear for a while...................no hope of that miracle right now.....................or ever..................not until I inherit that $million$$ HAHA!! At least I am easy to keep happy, just my horses, friends, a bed, don't even eat much................THANK GOD for all those things I do have................and you...................divorce is alot more trying than I thought liberating at this point.........................rough............... .....but thanks for whatever support you can be.....................

love you guys!!!!!!:h

XOXOXO

MA

[more2life]

30 days???

MA-

Make a lislt of everything you can't stand about Mike and read it daily to remind yourself of why you're getting a divorce in the first place. Divorce is ugly, especially when you're trying to live together. Mike was an ass on his best days, I can't imganie how horrible he is now

Can you sleep during the day while the kids and Mke are out of the house?

You will get through this.

M2

[greeneyes]

30 days???

MA at least things are GOING! They may not seem like they are going right from a moment-to-moment level, but in the big picture, things are going very right. Hang on tight because it can be an emotional roller coaster.