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[PhoenixRising]

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brightlite;766870 wrote: Dance...you probably know this...but Jack Russells have always been used in the barns to chase away rats and vermin (they've killed many a cat too). I had one of those mini mini Jacks once. You might say he had that "little Man or Napoleonic complex" In the evenings he used to come and sit by the sofa where I would be watching TV and start groweling at me until I went to bed. He wanted me in bed so he could sleep there too. Poor little thing...he would usually start it around 8:30pm and I would have to keep telling him that it wasn't bed time yet. Bossy little thing, but very smart.

Brightlite, that is funny. My girl, Phoenix (the *real* Phoenix, LOL!) just goes to bed when she's ready. I go to bed early anyway. She is a redbone coonhound (best guess, shelter dog) and is FINALLY a couch potato. My other dog is a border collie/dalmatian mix. He is the best boy in the world.

[dancelot]

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Brightlite - Yes, and they do that well! They definitely need to keep busy! I've watched many comic animal chases where you hear little scurrying feet on the paved driveway at the barn. First a bunny hops furiously by, a few seconds later come the Jacks, panting real fast, their little claws clicking away. A little later, going the other direction, here comes the bunny, then the Jacks, and on and on. They are definitely characters. The first day I was out there, they came running over to meet me and my horse. These ones are good with horses, and my horse was afraid of most dogs before. They also jump up into the troughs to swim in hot weather.

Last week, I was walking in my neighborhood and came across 2 dogs that looked to have gotten out of their yard, a Pekinese type and a Pitbull. The Pitbull decides I look like a good alpha dog, and comes over and starts walking with me. There's a yard where I've seen one before, so I walked over to that street, hoping she would recognize her own house. However, across the alley lives a Jack Russell (caution - white object that jumps straight up 5 feet high - I was startled the first time I saw it through the chain link fence). When we walked by, the Pitbull at first didn't want to at all, though she finally went by, but in the middle of the street, keeping a very wide berth! Even a Pitbull does not want to tangle with a Jack Russell! I had to laugh.

I found an old picture of some type of fox terrier mix we had as kids, where I'm swinging him by a towel he would grip with those terrier jaws. He wasn't afraid of bigger dogs, and used to get out and rule all the dogs in the neighborhood.

That's hysterical that Jack trying to order you to bed! Critters are so much fun, and give some great stories. :H

[PhoenixRising]

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It's been fun reading everyone's intros - but I just wanted to say - if you don't feel like playing, there's no enforcement in this thread, lol. Whatever floats your boat.

It's all good!

Hugs,

-P.

[dancelot]

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Hi, Grateful, nice to meet you too!

Phoenix, is a redbone coonhound the same as a redbone hound? My friend from NC says this other dog that visits our barn is one. She is mellow and wonderful, and my horse is OK with her riding out with us. I'm wasn't familiar with that type or breed.

I agree, Phoenix (on your second post). It's nice we can all hang out, and be whoever and share however much or as little as we want. It's just great to visit with others and have a nice comfy (and funny!) place to come to. :h

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Hi all,

Well that's day 1 done for me as I head to bed. I hope it's worked out for you too NC and you tawny.

It's lovely to read about people and their animals. I have two daughter's aged 17 and 20, three Standard Poodles one is a six month old puppy, a pug and a bichon frise. Plus a horse and my daughter's pony. I don't know what else to say about myself really except perhaps that my younger daughter starts University next year and I plan to create a new life for myself.

Thank you for telling us about your little boy in heaven NC, it sounds as though he was a true blessing to you.

Rubes thank you for commenting on my journal, greeneyes too, and thanks for visiting it dancelot. I'll keep updating how things go with Archie.

Isn't it amazing how many of us there seem to be in this age group, there must be so many others who silently suffer and have no support. Not that we have a monopoly on this of course!

[ladyjan]

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Hi Ladies,

Seems some of you may have taken what I said about it being a private place and that I am not really into introduction info, but that I would rather let things come out as we get to know eachother.

Sorry if some of you took it the wrong way, no offence was intended and I do not asume my story to be any worse or better than anyone else's, I have been in hell for the last ten years and have paid a very heavy price, social services have taken my son into care and I had shut myself off from the outside world untill I found MWO.

It has been hard to open up, but have done so bit by bit on another thread, I saw some of my friends in here and as I am 50 and a post menopause female!! (dunno if it is all over yet) ! so I joined in.

We all have our own reasons of how we ended up looking for help like MWO, I know for me it was to find friendly souls that understood the hell of addiction without critisism coz the "normal" people just really cannot understand what hell it is and what a struggle it is.

The finest experienced doctors, psychologist etc, etc do not know how it FEELS....

we do.. :l:l:l

[Miss Behaving]

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Oh, this thread is just the ticket!! Glad the honorary members include those on the cusp!!

I'd been seeing the "Gals in their 50s" thread all of the last week, but just not enough time to read it. But I'm taking a mental health day today and catching up on a few things and it was really nice reading it and the start of this one. And lots of familiar names on here, so I have no hesitation in jumping in!

Me - for those of you who I haven't already met: 47, run my own business, shacked up with a bloke who lots of my friends want to clone and who I treasure very dearly, 2 adopted cats and a constant supply of kittens as we foster them for the SPCA. No kkids of my own, but lots in my life. Menopausal as hell, and currently going through the "now we see it, now we dont" phase. My hormonal variations have not been like this since I was about 13 or 14 and my self-image as a relatively calm and rational person has taken a big hit!! This is also complicated by the fact that I am having a somewhat emotional time family-wise (mother 85 who lives close and fiercely independent/stubbourn but who doesn't always make good decisions; and a brother with terminal cancer) and I'm never quite sure just what is genuine upset and grief and just what is hormones.

I try to manage all of that by being AF, eating well, and lots of exercise. I have varying degrees of success and of course they are all closely related.

I look forward to being here on a daily basis!!

[RedThread12]

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Well, ladies, isn't this just the perfect thread for me!?! I'm 53, 20 lbs. overweight, and convinced that the onset of my alcoholism coincided dramatically and perfectly with the onset of peri-menopause. I didn't (at least, not yet!) wind up the mental institution, as have a host of my female predecessors during this "special" time. I would be honored and delighted to join this group of awesome women supporting each other to be liberated from AL!!

I have no kids, no husband, no pets . . . hmmm . . . what have I been doing all my life?

Actually, I have an awesome life! I study and travel and share what I learn with students and friends. And for sure, all that works MUCH better when I'm not in the bottom of a wine bottle! Looking forward to what is to come . . .

[drylifeahead]

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We all have our own reasons of how we ended up looking for help like MWO,
I know for me it was to find friendly souls that understood the hell of addiction without critisism coz the "normal" people
just really cannot understand what hell it is and what a struggle it is.



ladyjan, for me, I didn't come here to find friends, but it was a huge added bonus I've gotten since asking for help, and sharing my struggle.
I just came here to read about what others were doing to beat this damn addiction. I know others have done it, and knew if they
could I could. I mean that in the best way. And you're right, 'normal people' do not understand.
Reading about the different stages you experience when stopping certainly helped me breath through them, and understand them,
and most of all, to expect them. And different strategies of coping.
I honestly think if I had not found MWO, had not read through the threads as much as I did in the early days, that
I would be drinking as I type this. I've tried sooo many times to quit, and failing that, moderate...always failing.
Something had to give.

Welcome Aunty Mame...shhh, you're 57!

Raining raining raining...cancelled plans again! Going to get a blanket and pillow then and read my current book on murder and mayhem. Ann Rules rules!!!

DLA :l

[rubywillow]

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What a great day! I've been on a mission to get Hubs into a healthier lifestyle. He's never been a problem drinker, but usually had a couple every day. He went all last week AL free, after I dragged his butt to the doc and gave doc a LIST of things that needed to be addressed and Hubs would never mention. Now he's having a whole battery of tests done. Today, however, he walked in and with 1 sniff I KNEW he'd had a beer. Just 1, but it made me wonder how I must have reeked in the past. Then, we did our daily Wii workout, and found our 'body ages', and he's 7 years older than me on it! WOW! Poor old crippled me, always sick, and big strong Hubs who is NEVER sick! It shocked him. Then I kicked his butt AGAIN on the balance, etc. I reminded him it's because I HAVE to know how not to fall (I've broken 2 dozen bones in the last 3 years), but it really shocked him. Anyway, rented one our houses to a nice guy, and granddaughters came for a visit, so a great day all around! So great to see you all here to hold each other (and my!) hands. We're going to be a wonderful group!!!!
"The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk."
"Dreams say what they mean, but they don't say it in daytime language."
"Be polite. Perhaps your family won't mind if you practice on them."

[ladyjan]

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*ladyjan, for me, I didn't come here to find friends, but it was a huge added bonus I've gotten since asking for help, and sharing my struggle.
I just came here to read about what others were doing to beat this damn addiction. I know others have done it, and knew if they
could I could. I mean that in the best way. And you're right, 'normal people' do not understand.
Reading about the different stages you experience when stopping certainly helped me breath through them, and understand them,
and most of all, to expect them. And different strategies of coping.
I honestly think if I had not found MWO, had not read through the threads as much as I did in the early days, that
I would be drinking as I type this. I've tried sooo many times to quit, and failing that, moderate...always failing.
Something had to give.*

Hi DLA,

Yes, that is also why I was searching for help to a way out of this vicious circle of drinking.
I had been in detox 3 x's but it never lasted, on a thursday I was told that as of monday they would be doing weekly random breath & sometimes blood test, coz I had lied (suprise,suprise!) that I wasn't drinking anymore..yeh much..!!! intake had gone down from a litre of vodka a day to half a litre, also topped up with beer and wine..!

so I had one weekend to get totally dry.. sure you know the shit, once the body is not getting the AL, so I was being sick, but nothing coming up just bile, then the violent shakes, heart racing...the only thing to stop it was to have a drink.
I also had been reading the posts and I bought some Baclofen, but wasn't sure how much to take, when could I take it, can I take it with AL still in my body, how long would it take to have effect, coz I felt like I was gonna die..I really needed medical help but could not ask for it, coz then they would know I WAS still drinking
I finaly got up the courage to post my plea for help, they jumped straight in with comfort and advice and so much kindness and love I did not feel alone.
spent the next 48 hrs on the sofa, bathroom, PC & taking my dogs out when it was dark for pooh's & wee's, they were housebound as well..I could barely stand let alone walk..!

Got to monday alive, thx to my now friends on MWO. was still no were near 100% but was able to make the test when they called me, at least for the breath test, coz the blood test I would fail, AL is detectable for about a month.. !

I login daily, these guys are my friends and to me they are my family, I am now able to help others who come new or old looking for help and support, I am still not 100% to go it alone & to be honest don't think I ever will be, but I am getting stronger.

Hi Rubes, have you put the big egg away now ?? :l:l

[rubywillow]

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Awwh, LJ, my BGE will always be close at hand!! Big Green Egg, World's Best Smoker and Grill LOL Hubs and I have a bet on to lose 10 pounds each over the next 2 weeks. I've done it several times, all I have to do is give up the ton of diet coke I drink each day and go vegan. He nagged me about getting into a fitness program, yada yada yada, and then got the sh#t shocked out of him to find his fitness levels were so bad. Thinks he's wishing he'd never opened his mouth now! :boohoo: But his :moon: is mine now, and I'm not letting him wriggle out. I'm going to get him healthy if it kills us.

[Tulipe]

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Hi there ladies!
What a great idea. I definitely think that women, and mothers, have their own way of being needed, which can cause so much stress!
Ruby good luck on the diet. Sounds like you and hubs have some fun together.
Well I'm 46 with two kids under 10. Married to a wonderful man who nonetheless is sometimes hard to deal with. If MWO is my carrot, he is my stick. Man I know he is going to be mad tonight - the shoe always drops the 2nd or 3rd day after an incident.
LJ I didn't know your detox story - I'm glad you made it and passed the test!
Well must go out now. Have a great day.

[PhoenixRising]

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Dancelot: Yeah, a redbone hound is the same as a redbone coonhound. Hands down the most affectionate dog I have ever had. She sleeps in bed with me, has to be touching at all times. What a character.

LadyJan, have you thought about taking Baclofen? I know I decided to take it after reading about it here, and the studies show it can lessen alcohol withdrawal. It's made a huge difference in a lot of lives. Sounds like you're making progress, anyway, though and congrats on that. Hang in there and keep coming back for unconditional support.

Rubes, 10 pounds in 2 weeks? Holy moley! I don't know if I could do that even with a liquid fast, that's ambitious.

Hope y'all have a wonderful day!

[burnt toast]

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Hello Ladies
I just joined the other day after I went to visit my mom and had a relapse after a few few months AF. I really need some people to relate to and its hard for me to make it to meetings as I am a single mom with an absolutley hectic schedule. I have been problem drinking for four years and am so sick and tired of doing it and the way it makes me and my family feel after it is over. I am very lucky to have a BF that has stayed with me and remains AF to help make it easier for me. We just bought a house together and I am working on my PhD. I just turned 30 a few months ago and know that if I keep on drinking it will destroy my life. I am not currently on any of the treatment drugs, but I am thinking about getting a Dr and trying it out. On top of it all I already have a genetic kidney disease which you would think would smarten me up. I'd like to join your group and try to post often, I know I can remain AF with some support. When is the hardest time for some of you all? I know that just before or after I menstrate is always a really hard time for me and when I am not home; because I feel like no one will ever know, but that doesn't change the fact that I am passed out at night rather then actually sleep and the crappy quality of my day or days following. Sometimes the thought just consumes me. Well as much as I would love to pour my heart out I have to get moving. Have a great day ladies, keep strong!