THE NEXT DAY THREAD - DECEMBER

[fickle]

THE NEXT DAY THREAD - DECEMBER

Good morning Tawny!
Ahh at last time to post over a morning cuppa!
Monday I just got up and realised 'I can't do it any more'. It was a whiny 'poor me' kinda day but my first determined AF day in a wee while. Thank dawg my supps arrived in the post on Tuesday! (Amino complete) I took a handfull straight away and hit the happy zone. I started making fresh juices & applying for jobs.. by Wed I had interviews racked up & had resigned... I start my new job on Monday!!
Am determined to go 90 days this time.. especially over Christmas.. and hopefully onwards forever!
It was such a sense of joyous release leaving my job, like I'd escaped the Grinch's cave or summat! Wierdly enough I got a lovely send off (even with the 48hrs notice) and a HUGE bunch of flowers to decorate my house with... so it can't have been all bad.
Can't help but think the circle of my feeling crap.. looking crap.. working crap... feeling crap... might have been all about me. Anyhow, I'm fired up and ready to go now into a REAL job which I care about and which MEANS something! It is a big step up so I'll need to be super sharp!

Guitarista;773039 wrote: Morning Bridge, and all to come,
Great stuff on day 3, day 4 today, Fick's! This is exciting!
Thanks G'ster, I think this time is it.. I'm feeling mighty determined this time and not scared to count how many days like last time.

Aunty Mame;773102 wrote: I'm going overboard on fresh vegies at the moment .....

So am I Mame... last night we had mountains of nectarines, cherries, grapes, dolmades, salads and a cold chook was thrown in as an afterthought! Thanks for the kiwi fruit tip!
Waving_not_drowning;773182 wrote: Anyway, hello everyone and hope you are all doing well and are happy... Have a good Christmas all

And you too Davo, you sound good!

[fickle]

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X-posted G'ster... Mwah! Have a great one!

[Guitarista]

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You too Fick's! xx

[Guitarista]

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Sorry Fick's. I just read your post re new job on monday. Bravo! You sound really pleased. That last job seemed to depress you no end. I bet you're lookin' sharp girl!........;-)

Have a great day, and don't overdose on the fruit juice!

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Mornin,
Bloody HELL Fickle. You don't muck around once you've decided it's 'go' time, do you love ?
All this talk of fresh produce has me hankering after a drive to a market this AM.
PM'd you Wavester.....
Go hard or go home, folk.
Bridge

[Miss Behaving]

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Ficks ...... wow, you're rocking!!

Tell me, did you get everything off this site and did you have any grief with customs?? Because I've been in Auckland so much I haven't been able to get to my GP for the anti-d's and then when I rang to make an appointment during the week discovered that she is on leave from the beginning of next week until the end of January!! So as a plan B I thought I might order off here ....... which I've been really reluctant to do up until now because customs here are so finickity. I just didn't want to spend a whole lot of money only to have it all confiscated at the border.

But I figure if it gets through Australian customs the chances of it getting through in NZ are petty good.

Got woken up this morning by people playing Samoan cricket in the park next to where I am staying .... around 60 people, ranging in age from toddlers to old people, lots of singing, drums, BBQ and general whooping around to accompany the cricket. Was a very joy-filled and holiday like start to the day!!!!

[ronnie]

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Morning all
I was hopping for a sleep in but hubbie was up early to play golf, so here im am.
Well done ficks on your new job.
not quite sure what today has in store for me, so I think I will have another cuppa then decide
Hope you all have a great weekend

[aspman]

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your thoughts please.

Hello all hope youse are well. I aint posted in a few days, been kinda busy.(still AF btw... yay )
I sure hope none of you guys are my neighbour in the real word because this fella needs some serious help. He has a wife and two kids, 3&8 yr old boys.5 days ago he was drunk and off his valium or whatever for his depression, so after a fight with his misses maybe about how much he drinks now he?s lost his chief?s job, he takes his 8 inch chief knife (not sure if it was a dick, but would not surprise me TF) and slowly pushes it in bellow his bottom rib, parallel to the surface but about 1.5 cm under said surface. Pushes it all the way to hilt! Ambos? arrive cart him away, we are unaware what transpired until the next day. He signed his self out of hospital and is on his hands and knees at our fence line when we come out to go for a drive. He calls us over, shows his wound, tells the story and asks us to keep an eye out for the wedding ring his misses threw of their highset veranda. Ok , fast forward 5 days and the police arrive in a squeal of tyres, shouting at him to drop the knife as he descends the stairs, pissed again, clutching the handle of the same bloody(no pun) knife in the same bloody wound as last time. They convince him they will draw guns and shoot him if he doesn?t remove hand from knife and get on knees. My misses was returning the wheelie bin from our driveway as they pulled up, not 10M from this action. They handcuffed him and the ambos put him in the ambulance. His wife returned from a walk with the 3yr old in a stroller at this point to see ambos? and police in her yard again. She stopped at out drive way were the two woman consoled each other. The 8 yr old was saying ?im gunna stab myself like daddy? which upset all in attendance and caused my girl to stay down there and try to help with the kids. At this time she made an observation, one which was both accurate and better kept to herself (she is quite young and needs to put brain in gear before taking mouth on the road). ?You need to leave him whilst you can, he is a danger to your kids and he needs to fix this for himself first?. When she finally came upstairs and told me all this I had a sinking feeling.

OK, so when she doesn?t leave him, as we know she likely won?t.
She will tell him of this advice, do you think?
Then next time he is down and feeling sorry for himself, could we be the target?
I am about 40kg heaver than him (not all fat ) & even after several years or martial arts training I am not happy contemplating a knife in the back (or anywhere else).
Not to mention I am not home 24/7 like he is?
I don?t want to move, we have 7 months left on this lease, any thoughts???

P.s. sorry for the monster post, rest asured, wont happen again...

[Miss Behaving]

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Aspman,

This is way outside my realm of experience, but my immediate question was whether a mental health crisis team is involved as well as the cops???? (You say he signed himself out of a hospital - was that a mental health unit or just for the wound????). But the hospital needs to know what is going on ..... it may well be that he needs a period of involuntary hospitalisation in a mental health unit at this time - he is obviously a huge danger to both himself and others.

(with heart sinking .... ) but I know how much mental health is completely underfunded and they may not have the resources to be able to deal with it.

My heart goes out to you. But I also think that your partner was great in staying with his wife and kids. It shows what a big heart she has.

When I was involved in child protection services a few years ago, there was a public health message about how "It takes a whole community to raise a child". I always really liked that.

Here's trusting that you all get the help and support and protection you need

[Miss Behaving]

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and congrats on staying AF through it all!!

[aspman]

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thanx mame, Af is not a choice any more, there are no if buts or maybes, the above would never have happened without AL. He is gone from me forever...he has no chance.

was just a hospital for the wound, surly "they" will comit him to somewhere for a stay... dont you think?

on the child protection front, i have my onw issues with them. my mom is a kin ship carer, has had my sis since 3 weeks old. her bio mother has 5 kids now all in care. when my mum and sis moved in with me we didnt think about a blue card for me, mum has one, my girl has one my 23yrold (also lived with me at the time)sis had one. the dept came down on mom saying" if aspy dont get the application in for a blue card by the end of buisnes this week., we are removing the child. ok, thats a bit harsh i thought but i complied. we have chased them up, resighned the application cause they lost it, moved house and given up on it and still no blue card 2 yrs later...
but the case workers have been wonredfull, like family, except you are a bit scared when they visit, also like family...lol

[aspman]

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oh, btw, mum now has the original charge who is 8yrs and her baby brother who is 8mths.
mum was at the birth of the baby,and took him home from the hospital @two days old.

[Miss Behaving]

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aspy, my friend

I work in the periphery of this area, but it sounds like you really need some professional advice (from health professionals, maybe police? neighbourhood watch?? School social workers?). I'm not qualified to do that and my comments were just as one human being to another. And it is really hard to know what infrastructural supports are available - I know that it varies quite considerably in NZ and also that our system is very different from yours.

But part of my experience is seeing people who have mental health problems not getting the help they need (or not being referred to appropriate services).

Child protection services vary from state to state/territory to territory in Oz ... good that your case workers are on side. Stick with them.

I hope this really frightening situation for you gets sorted.
:l

[Guitarista]

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Arvo all,
Sorry to hear of the situation next door, Aspy. I would imagine this bloke would have to be retained in a psych ward for a little while at least, as he is clearly a danger to himself and all around him, not to mention the devastating effect these scenes have on kid's. I've got no idea what the law say's in this situation, but i'm guessing that a psych hospital can detain him till they consider him to have stabilised, which would probably mean him sticking to a medication regime of sort's? Other folk here might have a better idea.
When you say your girl, you mean your partner? Anyway, she did the right thing in saying what she did, i think, even though it now may seem to put you in an awkward situation.
It's a bloody tough one. Only you folk's can make the call really mate.
But you guy's have done nothing wrong, and in that alone, to me, gives lot's of strength, if that makes any sense?

[fickle]

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Evening all,
Aspy, I'd be ringing the local police to just 'ask some advice' and they will most likely refer you to an appropriate service if you are clearly worried and have every right to be. It is technically self-harm now but it is obviously impacting the children and those around.. so I'm thinking you are within your rights to speak confidentially to children's services or even your GP.. depending on how much sense he has. Registering your concern and seeking advice are all reasonable things to do and you can stress that it is confidential because you obviously do not want an enemy with a knife!
I've been in some tricky situations and asking advice is always calming and gives me direction. Most hospitals have a "child at risk assessment unit" that are always available to speak to confidentially and can usually give realistic advice.
Good luck matie and... thanks for all the cheering on everyone!

Mame, I get my Amino complete from this site because it's quick (less than 2 weeks) and although the postage is expensive it's worth it because I can't find anything quite the same on the market here.

A friend ticked me off for 'playing' with neurotransmitters today but I took it with a pinch of salt (he has been choofing pot for the last 35 years and I'd consider that might have a bit of an impact on the brain). The amino/mood cure thread explains that the intention is to replace the supps with diet eventually with a bit of practice & perserverence. I believe it's true, as the only time in my life I felt this good and without cravings was when I was on the Atkins diet years ago.. which is mostly very high in the amino acids. So am working on that. In the short term though, can't beat Amino complete!!

Everyone have a great night!