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[irish eyes]

When we think of giving gifts, we usually think of buying things for people. While they are important at this time of year, if you think back on gifts you have been given, it might not be the material gifts you received that are foremost in your mind. It might be the kind of gifts that deeply touched your heart and soul. It might be various ways, other than material things, that people expressed their love for you. For me the greatest gift that someone can give me is lightness of being, fun, joy, laughter and playfulness. Lightness of being is infectious, our laughter and playfulness can help others take life less seriously and lighten up. I believe that when we give these gifts, we feel a wonderful lightness within, the lightness that is the result of fully giving from the heart. Our own lightness of being can bring lightness into our whole family. Children love it when their parents are playful, fun-loving and joyful. Laughing together as a family is one of the most precious experiences in life. I believe that these gifts are far more important than any material thing we can buy for someone.

[rubywillow]

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As always, you are so right. I hope you receive wonderful gifts during the holiday season.

[LVT25]

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Dear Irish--
You are so right! I am in the process of finding my lost inner child. The one that could laugh and play and be silly--without alcohol! I really want to lighten up and be less tense and irritable regardless of others around me. The other night my sons and I laughed so hard I was crying--that was a first in a very long time!

As usual, thanks so much for sharing your insight! :h

[Guest]

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well this is going to be the best thing about the recession I think, I will be pulling out the cluedo and monopoly and things cos we aint going to the panto or anything like that, moneys tight and presents will be smaller but I for one cant wait!!I am going to play loads of games , cozy up, read books and really enjoy a quiet family christmas. Hope you all have a great one too dong what you love the best.

[startingover]

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What a wonderful post Irish.
LV I think you summed up where I am at just now.
Limers, your family are so damn lucky to have you!

[mario]

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Our own lightness of being can bring lightness into our whole family. Children love it when their parents are playful, fun-loving and joyful. Laughing together as a family is one of the most precious experiences in life. I believe that these gifts are far more important than any material thing we can buy for someone.



thanks for this Irish as i think this will be my best christmas ever

[Chillgirl]

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Limers I love your comment about the recession!

I feel exactly the same, instead of us all paying for a good time we are using our imaginations again and creating our own fun.... and appreciating what we have so much more!

[clare]

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What a lovely post, I hope to have a great xmas this year.

[irish eyes]

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LVT25;775343 wrote: Dear Irish--
You are so right! I am in the process of finding my lost inner child. The one that could laugh and play and be silly--without alcohol! I really want to lighten up and be less tense and irritable regardless of others around me. The other night my sons and I laughed so hard I was crying--that was a first in a very long time!

As usual, thanks so much for sharing your insight! :h

LV, When I was looking at 'my inner child' I was asked to look at a child that I knew at an appropriate age and see myself at that age and look at the world through her eyes. It brought so much wonder, joy and yes sadness to my being and it made it so much easier to embrace that child within. The body holds the memories that you repressed at the time, and now the body is releasing these memories. Many images may come up as you open to learning with your Inner Child. Be sure you have guidance with you, holding you, surrounding you with love and comfort as you open to learning about this deep pain. Tell the person helping you what your Child is telling you about what happened to you when you were little. It may take awhile, but gradually you will calm down. At that point, tune into what false beliefs you may have embraced as a child that are affecting you now, and what else your Child needs right now to feel loved and safe. Being there for your wounded child this way will gradually heal the abandonment wounds. Ignoring your feelings, trying to make them go away, or trying to get someone else to take them away will only serve to re-wound you. It is only when you no longer abandon yourself that the old wounds begin to heal. Eventually, another's behavior that previously triggered your intense reaction will no longer do so. You may feel sad or lonely when a loved one gets angry or withdraws in some way, but as long as you continue to show up for yourself, the intense pain will not be there. Inner Child work is very painful but very rewarding:l

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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What a thoughtful post Irish and oh so true. Some great comments back, thanks to everyone for sharing.

In relation to the material aspect here is a saying I once heard which I think fits, 'he knows the price of everything and the value of nothing'.

[LVT25]

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Irish, thank you so much for your thoughts and advice. I just started seeing a counselor--I only wish she were you!
:h:thanks:

[startingover]

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Ditto LV!
Irish can you travel???? We need you!! :-)

[irish eyes]

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startingover;775716 wrote: Ditto LV!
Irish can you travel???? We need you!! :-)

Cool, I will travel!! Starty, LV, It is very therapeutic for me to put my thoughts together like this as I tend to forget my inner child too. Wishing you both and anyone else travelling this journey transformation in your lives and I hope you find a new joy and energy in living:l