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    How to explain our addiction

    How does one explain to a significant person in one’s life why we drink?

    I’ve tried to explain this to a person who has one beer at most. Why do we feel the need and why do we feel the need for more and more until we are legless?

    No matter how much I try and explain, he just does not understand.

    I know, but I need some input here, to try and explain to him. He just sees it as - "well, you just don’t drink".

    How do I explain the stupidity and the reasoning behind that stupidity?

    How do I explain the addiction when I can’t explain it to myself?

    I am trying really hard to stop. I did 10 days this recent time and failed because of many things. I know, an excuse again. At least I recognise it as such.

    I really need some advice here. Some serious advice from people who have been there. How does one educate a non drinker to understand?

    His input to me is “You should be able to stop at one.”
    Feb 04 2009 80 days AF.
    AF May 23 09 to July 09
    AF December 16, 09 FORWARD.
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    #2
    How to explain our addiction

    I can take a good stab at it. I couldn't explain it to myself and had no idea how to explain it to my SO until I came up with this analogy...but I've got to run to the gym real quick I'll be back in an hour or so.
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      #3
      How to explain our addiction

      In my own experience only another person wwith the same issue will understand. So, I dont try to explain it. I just say " I don't drink" and leave it at that.
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        #4
        How to explain our addiction

        You can't.

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          #5
          How to explain our addiction

          I seriously need to try. Please someone, help me in some way to TRY to explain this.
          Love Pan.
          Feb 04 2009 80 days AF.
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            #6
            How to explain our addiction

            Dr No. Yes, that would be my response too. But I must TRY. My family and all others deserve that from me at least.
            Feb 04 2009 80 days AF.
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              #7
              How to explain our addiction

              Unless they have an addiction themselves....no they can not understand.

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                #8
                How to explain our addiction

                You can try and try, and explain it a million different ways. Unless someone knows they won't understand. But there is love and compassion and patience.

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                  #9
                  How to explain our addiction

                  Pan, do you mind if I ask what effort they are making or has made to try to understand? You can't "make" someone understand, you know. I really don't think this is something that someone without an addiction or compulsion problem can relate to. Can you be OK with that? I know that is not the answer to your question, but there simply may not be one. I hope you can sort it out to some degree that is beneficial.
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                    #10
                    How to explain our addiction

                    This is what I did with Jane:

                    I sat her down across the table from me and said: "Can you please do this for me? Can you please try as hard as you can? I'll do it with you."

                    She looked me in the eyes and nodded.

                    "Take a big deep breath and hold it as hard and as long as you can." I held her hand, and we started. She understood already, but knew that what I was asking her to do was important. She desperately wanted to understand and this was the closest thing I could think of that she could experience.

                    We sat there, staring into each others eyes, for only a couple of minutes and then I saw it. That all too familiar feeling, I could see it creep into her eyes. She tried really hard and for this I give her credit because it wouldn't have worked if she didn't.

                    It might not be the best way to explain it, but I swear I saw in her eyes what I felt every day. I didn't even have to ask her. As soon as she caught her breath she said: "Okay...I get it...I understand."

                    Hope this helps. -E
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                      #11
                      How to explain our addiction

                      Utter crap LoOP
                      Feb 04 2009 80 days AF.
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                        How to explain our addiction

                        NOTICE TO RJ. TO EVERYONE. CUT THIS PERSON OUT. DANGER!
                        Feb 04 2009 80 days AF.
                        AF May 23 09 to July 09
                        AF December 16, 09 FORWARD.

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                          #13
                          How to explain our addiction

                          Umm...Your welcome...?
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                            #14
                            How to explain our addiction

                            Pan
                            You are out of line
                            Loop's story was meant to help and you have taken it out of context.
                            This is not the first time you have made an inappropriate accusation.
                            Check yourself. It is not appreciated nor keeping in line with the spirit of why we are all here and I for one am growing tired of your tirades.
                            -Sheep

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                              #15
                              How to explain our addiction

                              Pan, it seems that you get angry when people try to help you like Loop did.
                              I think like the others have said, no one can really know how we feel when we are in the grip of addiction. I suggest that you put your energy into trying to control it rather than to trying to justify it.
                              Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
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