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[Tulipe]

Hi. I'm doing ok with AL. Keeping with goals. Just really stressed. Cut back on campral, maybe that has something to do with it. Just really stressed. Can't stop crying. Husband wants to know what is wrong, I dont' want to talk to him. He has hurt me so much. I am focussing on old things that really hurt. This is bad. What can I do?
SOOO thankful for any advice.

[akgirl]

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I take L-Theanine for anxiety and stress. It's natural and helped me fairly quickly. You can get it at most health stores. The other thing I did was try to stay busy, focus on a task.

Wish I could be more help.

Sending you :l and support
Ak

[rubywillow]

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Tulipe, our body goes through so much when we quit. Our chemicals are out of whack, and being women, that's doubled. Plus, you mentioned past hurts that are becoming real again to you without the AL. We have to learn to face real life again, and it hurts, sometimes a lot. It may be the campral. I would suggest you check out the holistic page, and the meds page. I have a script for antidepressant and antianxiety, which you may need, but others may be able to give you more help with natural, herbal treatments that can help you. And counselling is a very good possibility. This will pass, but there are things that will help you. It's just a matter of finding the one for you.

[Grateful]

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Tulipe: I'm not familiar with campral but maybe cutting back is making you stressed. These days, it doesn't take much to stress us, does it? I like to go to my bedroom and shut the door and be alone - to cry or read something positive and uplifting. I also love reading others posts here - they really help me! I'm sending hugs to you and hoping that you will feel better soon. As I try to tell myself often, this too shall pass!

Love,
Kelly

[RedThread12]

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Here are some things that help me:
1. L-Glutamine - lots of it.
2. www.thework.com.
3. Breathing - it should be a required course in every kindergarten and university. Make exhalation longer than inhalation - it activates the parasympathetic (letting down) nervous system.
4. Realizing I am not in control. Damn.
:l Hang in. It will change.

[ronnie]

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Have you tried Vit B, that helps me with stress
Hope you are ok
Love Ronnie
xx

[cowgal]

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Agree!

I agree w/ alot of the advice, breathing deep and concentrating on it(meditating), crying, letting it all out, reading some spiritual uplifting book, keeping busy, try to keep your focus off him, I am doing alot of that right now w/ what I am going thru, read other posts too...... All great advice,

hope u r ok, lots of big hugs!!!:l:l

MA:h

[startingover]

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Hi Tulipe,
How are you feeling today?
I so know that feeling of being so stressed and low that you dont know where to turn.
Try this, write a letter to your husband, put down everything in it that hurt or upset you, the reasons and how you felt. Just write everything you think. Read it back a few times, and then burn it. It may help you to let go of old hurts.
I really hope this helps sweetie.

[Sky]

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Hi Tulipe

I have been feeling more uplifted since taking 400mg SAMe a day. It's a natural mood enhancer. Also helps with aching joints.

I buy it from a pharmacy, but it is available in the Health Store here as well.

[Popeye]

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Hi Tulipe,
Lot's of good advice here. One of the main things that I found when I stopped drinking was how unstable my emotions became. The first few months were very difficult. I would be high as a kite one moment, then I'd catch myself with tears rolling down my face and wondering what the hell was going on the next. It has been put down to the brain re-wiring itself and I would agree.
Now, I would have laughed if someone had told me a couple of years ago that I would be sitting cross-legged contemplating life, the Universe and everything, but I allowed my mind to be opened and I find dedicating a small part of my day to a calming meditation and changing the focus of my attention away from the past and onto the present moment such a useful tool. It helps me stop wondering about 'what ifs' and allows my calmer, creative side a lot more freedom. I don't want to forget the past, rather learn about myself and other people without wanting to score any points or having anyone else decide how I should feel or live my life. I had so many false preconceptions about so many things and I needed to start again and find my truth; my own path. It took me a while to settle down but these feelings of helplessness and inadequacy that sometimes occur along with the euphoric, crazy highs have mostly passed and there is a place of quiet contentment to be found somewhere in the middle.

[mario]

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Popeye;790212 wrote: Hi Tulipe,
Lot's of good advice here. One of the main things that I found when I stopped drinking was how unstable my emotions became. The first few months were very difficult. I would be high as a kite one moment, then I'd catch myself with tears rolling down my face and wondering what the hell was going on the next. It has been put down to the brain re-wiring itself and I would agree.
Now, I would have laughed if someone had told me a couple of years ago that I would be sitting cross-legged contemplating life, the Universe and everything, but I allowed my mind to be opened and I find dedicating a small part of my day to a calming meditation and changing the focus of my attention away from the past and onto the present moment such a useful tool. It helps me stop wondering about 'what ifs' and allows my calmer, creative side a lot more freedom. I don't want to forget the past, rather learn about myself and other people without wanting to score any points or having anyone else decide how I should feel or live my life. I had so many false preconceptions about so many things and I needed to start again and find my truth; my own path. It took me a while to settle down but these feelings of helplessness and inadequacy that sometimes occur along with the ecstatic, crazy highs have mostly passed and there is a place of quiet contentment to be found somewhere in the middle.

cant add any more to this tulipe its part of our journey we go through,sending you lots of positive hugs & thoughts.

[stirly-girly]

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startingover;790173 wrote: Hi Tulipe,
How are you feeling today?
I so know that feeling of being so stressed and low that you dont know where to turn.
Try this, write a letter to your husband, put down everything in it that hurt or upset you, the reasons and how you felt. Just write everything you think. Read it back a few times, and then burn it. It may help you to let go of old hurts.
I really hope this helps sweetie.

Good morning all.
Tulipe dear, after talking to you in chat last night I think that Starts has a good idea here. I'm sure the other advice about the supps and such are good, too. I don't know about them but I am sure that Sky, Red and Akgirl wouldn't have advised you about something if they weren't absolutely sure about it. I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time. Perhaps if you followed Starts advice about the letter it would help you realise what is bothering you the most. And perhaps after you could find the courage and the way to talk to your husband about some of these things that are upsetting you. Surely keeping it bottled up inside will do you no good. I do hope you are feeling better today and less stressed. All of the advice the others have given you sound so good. Especially the breathing and meditation parts. Find a quiet calm place for yourself and try to think positive thoughts. I hope you can find your way through this.:l:l
Stirly