Day 3, and I already see...

[MatildaGray]

It's Day 3 for me, and I already see so many common patterns I share with other members here..For example...., yesterday, did not drink, wasn't even tempted, and husband was out of town, so I could very easily have done so. So today, I want to reward myself for not drinking yesterday!!! A thought I read here yesterday immediately popped into my mind... IT'S NOT A REWARD!! I wouldn't have framed that thought myself. Because of what I read yesterday in the tool box, I thought instead of all that would happen if I did go buy a bottle... I'd have to hide it.... (we have tons of wine, liquor, etc, but I always hide a bottle from my husband). I would feel ashamed that I had to hide it, would feel ashamed that I was so weak, inumerable negatives.... no positives... If not for ya'll, I would probably have gone and gotten a bottle of vodka today, and hidden it somewhere, and had 4 drinks before my husband got home tonight. Thanks everyone, for all the good you're doing!

[fluff]

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Hi Matilda- Keep going! My husband was a big trigger for me for caving in-Reading through the tools section is very helpful, so keep refering back to that-I am rooting for you!
Luv, Fluff

[JackieClaire]

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Hi Matilda,

:yougo:

Was that just the best cup of coffee you had yesterday? Grab another and sit back and relax.

J x

:l

[clare]

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hi matilda keep to your goal,post often, when boared go into chat,it all works wonders,goodluck

[MatildaGray]

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husband being a trigger

I have come to think my husband is a trigger, as well.. but I can't figure out why... He's a great guy, treats me like a queen , we've been married 25 years, no financial worries... I really cannot figure it out. For example.. a few hours ago, he called from the airport to tell me when he was going to be home, and I automatically thought... "OK, he's going to be home at 5, I'll have two drinks starting at 4" I didn't do it, and he should be home any minute.... but I need to figure it out. We drink wine together several times a week. He's not a big drinker... he can open a bottle of wine, have a glass, then put the cork back in. (Something I've never done in my entire LIFE!) Thanks again, everyone....for sharing and listening....See ya'll tomorrow!

[Gearhead]

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Never reward your sobriety with drinking. As simple as it sounds, it kept me in an endless cycle when I wanted to quit for months. I guess thats just me. And identifying triggers is huge too. Learn those triggers and find a non-destructive venting exercise. Like exercise!

[nibbles]

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Hi everyone I'm new!
Day 15 for me and last nite was REALLY hard! Am taking kudzu to calm the cravings!
Keep at it guys, it's great not to feel alone!!!