The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

[Miss Behaving]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

morning .... a bit late today as I came into work early.

Fell like I put a big dampener on the thread yesterday!! Just came back from Auckland very upset about the state of my brother's health, the standard of care in the rest home that he is now in, and the fact that my mother's visit to him has completely disoriented her so that she is pretty much in state of permanent confusion. It left me feeling all very overwhelmed and distressed.

anyway, there is nothing I can do about any of this that I haven't already done, and no point in me worrying about it incessantly as I have been doing. TF - you said something to me last year about it probably getting worse before it got better, and that has been a good thought to have with me over the last couple of months. I need to pace myself a bit better and get back into the good eating and exercising stuff .... and on that note I am off to the gym!

[byebyebridgetjones]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Morning Hipsters.
Yeah Angel.where are youz all ?
Perfect time for a break Spam. Get yourself in order without the arsehole-dom which goes on so often.
Myself, I've been out of regular work for a long time now. It has actually served to enable my drinking, though. So it's time to get back out there for a number of reasons.
How's it going with George Clooney hair ?
That is all.

[byebyebridgetjones]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

That is not all.
Did anyone get bad back aches when they were drinking a lot ? Particularly under your right shoulder blade ?
Just realised the other day that must have been what it was .....
Googling as we speak.
THAT is all...........

[aspman]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

ok, for those obsessed with counting days.... as i am ATM.I found this.

Date Duration Calculator: Days between two dates

for me so far, counting only full days(lets not be silly here people) thats 9,763,200 seconds...lol

[ronnie]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Morning all
Just checking in, Hubbie and I had a chat yesterday and it looks like we might go our separate ways.....
He said that although I am doing good now the last two & half years have been shit for him....(his problem) I did'nt even go there about how it has been for me!!!!!
Think he got a shock though, as I think he expected me to crumble and pleed with him to give it another go but I did'nt I tottaly agreed with him on everything that he said.
It Funny though.....since the chat he has been really nice towards me he is now talking...bizzare....I dont think I will ever manage to work men out.....lol
Well I am going to Centrelink today to find out some info ect. as we have a small mortage and I really dont want to lose this house and there is still no luck on the job front yet!!!!
But apart from all that is happening I am very chirpy today.....I am soooo gratefull that I am sober....
Hope you all have a great day
xxxxc

[Miss Behaving]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Oh Ronnie, I am sooooo sorry. More upheavals on their way. However, it is great that you feel chirpy, and hopefully it sounds like it will be an amicable separation. hugs

[Guest]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Hi Starty,

I really want to be an interpreter for the deaf. I can sign informally but I need to learn more at college.

What are you doing?

Spam xx

[Guest]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

byebyebridgetjones;806803 wrote: Morning Hipsters.
Yeah Angel.where are youz all ?
Perfect time for a break Spam. Get yourself in order without the arsehole-dom which goes on so often.
Myself, I've been out of regular work for a long time now. It has actually served to enable my drinking, though. So it's time to get back out there for a number of reasons.
How's it going with George Clooney hair ?
That is all.

Hi Bridge,

All good here. I am getting the house in order with my time off. We will be moving again in the next year or so and I am determined not to take rubbish with me.

GCH is good. We've been married for 15 years so used to the usual ups and downs. Unfortunately, we are both very stubborn so small comments can explode! Most of the time we avoid fighting but sometimes he can drive me mad. And no doubt I do the same to him. I suppose I should also admit that maybe the AF life is making me a bit tetchy at times.

Hope your having a good day.

Spam xx

[startingover]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

ronnie;806821 wrote: Morning all
Just checking in, Hubbie and I had a chat yesterday and it looks like we might go our separate ways.....
He said that although I am doing good now the last two & half years have been shit for him....(his problem) I did'nt even go there about how it has been for me!!!!!
Think he got a shock though, as I think he expected me to crumble and pleed with him to give it another go but I did'nt I tottaly agreed with him on everything that he said.
It Funny though.....since the chat he has been really nice towards me he is now talking...bizzare....I dont think I will ever manage to work men out.....lol
Well I am going to Centrelink today to find out some info ect. as we have a small mortage and I really dont want to lose this house and there is still no luck on the job front yet!!!!
But apart from all that is happening I am very chirpy today.....I am soooo gratefull that I am sober....
Hope you all have a great day
xxxxc

Ronnie, your attitude is absolutely amazing. And being sober seems to be giving you all the confidence, and drive to face something incredibly painful.
My heart goes out to you, it really does :l

[startingover]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Spam;806868 wrote: Hi Starty,

I really want to be an interpreter for the deaf. I can sign informally but I need to learn more at college.

What are you doing?

Spam xx

How wonderful!
I am working in the addiction field as a volunteer. I got made redundant from my job last year and have been volunteering and studying counselling at Uni ever since. I am now looking for a more formal job as I am finding this work incredibly rewarding (plus I feel I have something to offer here )
Really good luck to you girl. Its never too late to change tack and start something new.

[startingover]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Miss Behaving;806788 wrote: morning .... a bit late today as I came into work early.

Fell like I put a big dampener on the thread yesterday!! Just came back from Auckland very upset about the state of my brother's health, the standard of care in the rest home that he is now in, and the fact that my mother's visit to him has completely disoriented her so that she is pretty much in state of permanent confusion. It left me feeling all very overwhelmed and distressed.

anyway, there is nothing I can do about any of this that I haven't already done, and no point in me worrying about it incessantly as I have been doing. TF - you said something to me last year about it probably getting worse before it got better, and that has been a good thought to have with me over the last couple of months. I need to pace myself a bit better and get back into the good eating and exercising stuff .... and on that note I am off to the gym!

Missy B :l to you. I went through a horrendous long term illness with my mother, its awful I know....

[aspman]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

hi Ronnie, i feel for you. :l When my exwife and I had that same chat, we just couldnt get along and needed to split, we stood holding eachother crying and sobbing. we agreed there was somthing fundamentaly wrong with our realationship and we couldnt fix it.the next few weeks were amazing,we talked, really talked for the first time in years.its hard but it is sometimes for the best.
I only wish I had sought fianacial advice, i may have kept the house i had worked on for so long.
Good luck at centerlink...

[byebyebridgetjones]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Bloody Hell Ronnie I'm sorry for you. But I also know from experience that it's better to have one functional parent that two dysfunctional ones.
I also know that life is too fecking short to waste time in a bad relationship.
Your attitude is great.
Imagine coping with this on a hangover

[ronnie]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Hi all
Thanks for all your support, its wonderful and just what I need right now.
Well I feel like my brain is going to explode...lol I went down to Centrelink just for them to tell me to ring a number.....great!!!!
Anyway I phoned this number and I am going to get something called single parent payment which surprised me as hubbie is still living here at the mo. and they know this!!!! but I must say that the bloke on the other end of the phone was really nice and helpful.
Anyway I now have the nice job of discussing with hubbie about how much he is going to give me for the support of my boys as I have to tell the Child Support Agency. I am all over the place at the moment as this is all new to me and being in a new country and not knowing the system is very confusing so if anyone from Australia has any knowledge of the system please feel free to PM me anytime.
I am still holding it together...just.....I am a strong person....I can get through this....
Hope you have a great arvo
xx

[Angelcakes]

The Next day Thread, February, 2010.

Hi peeps, I'm here - was kinda thinking I was OK & was very busy & stuff...then I went to an old friends 40th on the weekend & saw lots of other old friends from the the bad ole' days and hey, I was right back there. No sleep on Sat night & dreadful come downs etc. Thanks goodness that's not my life anymore. Ended with a massive argument with my sister - I'm totally unfunctional around my siblings. Miss B I don't know what I'd do in your situation - you're a trouper. I think I need to see a councillor about it.
Ronnie, babe, I'm so sorry about your relationship. You're being amazingly calm about it...funny your hubby seemed to blame you by saying the last 2 yrs have been hell for him...I'm guessing it wasn't all a box of fluffies for you either!!

Gotta do kids. Back lata.