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[tlrgs]

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goodmorning everyone well just a quiky to say .. life is what you make it . so lets make today count and be a happy one .. love and big big hugs enjoy

[rubywillow]

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Wow, it's so quiet around here lately. I've been off on other pursuits during the day; getting my house in order, ironing ever shirt Hubs owns, researching geneology, crocheting, office work, talking to Hubs; you know, same ole same ole! Hope everyone is up and at 'em today and on the right path!

[tlrgs]

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yep yep ruby i have been staying busy working on the boat and its almost time to start the fiberglass paint and trim .. but all and all im doing great and just staying busy .. well hope everyone is doing the same .. stay on the right drection and keep shifting along singing your song side bye side

[cowgal]

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hey all

I totally missed today, slept to catch up for work tonight, had a busy AM, then napped in the pm.............good to see everyone, doing ok, last night was rough, trying to keep spirits up, still waiting on baclofen rx, gf gave me some of hers, doc said he called in yesterday but when I went to pharmacy it still was not filled................???

Will hang in there tho................one breath, day, hour min at a time, at work now so safe.........

lots of love,:l

thanks as usual for all the support!!:thanks:

xoxoxo MA:l :h

[Guest]

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I so wish I could have done Baclofen. I had placed so many hopes on it. I am one of those who can't.
I ran across the sugar free thread and realized, I haven't been drinking over a few days a week, a few beers......more if I left the house and bought some, but I don't. Now I realize how most of my life I avoided food! Sugar, I just never allowed myself. Since I don't drink very much now, I have such a craving for sugar! Now I understand why!

Love this home I can come to when I feel so alone! I've feel I know so many of you just from reading your posts. I would so love it if it was possible for us to meet, but of course it is not. Take care all my dear 'friends' . My hope always in my later years of life has been, can anyone understand? I now see maybe, some can.

[cowgal]

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we can and will

I think that at some point in time, we will be able to meet, u r not too far from me, I am seeing Ruby next weekend, sooooooooo looking forward to it, next time to south Fl.,plan to drop by and see T, just don't know when that will be, planned to meet a few others, have met about 4 people from MWO over the past few years.............will happen girlie, know it!

hey everyone else, WAKE UP!!!!!!

I will be going to gym, going home and getting online for a tiny bit, then crashing for tonight's shift.................then on here all night again..............

lots of love,:l :h

MA

[rubywillow]

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Stop Shouting MA!! You woke me up :H!!!!! Grace, you never know what the future holds when you free yourself of the bonds of AL. A whole new world opens up. I believe MA is beginning to embrace hers, I pray for it.
T, get your bum busy, we have a boat to finish!
The weather is so much better here. Jonquils are pushing their little leaves tentatively up, and in a few weeks, the land will be blooming with their bright yellow heads. My FAVORITE thing!! Reminds me of my childhood, my mother, my grandmother. I probably planted, transplanted a thousand of them. I'm getting dirt fever!!! LOL
Later, Buds. I have to make my quarterly trek to Walmart today. Pray for me.

[catch22]

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Hi ALL.
Went to the launderette yeterday had a great laugh there......... that was my highlight of the day......But really my best highlight of the day is being sober at night and going to bed without a blackout..... just come home from my group sessions and wanted to share with you today that i made people really laugh really laugh.........i never thought i was funny, only if i had AL inside my body.........There is a lot i have to learn about myself and who i really im, without AL inside me, i suppose life is just beginning.......
Im grateful that i have you guys that i can share this with.
Cant believe the weekend here again, so lets all be safe, L:hve 2u ALL and big :l toyou all.

[rubywillow]

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Good going, Catch!!!

[Guest]

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I don't want to make a post that sounds desperate.
I am finding my life is hitting a place I never thought at this age it would.

I always felt in my younger years when I put up with all I did, it would some how pay off in later years. Simply put, it is not!

I can honestly say this is the worst part of my life, the reward never was realized.

I am a late comer to this problem. that does not make me better or worse than anyone, it makes it, I think harder on my children. How could you Mom end up this way?

OK, won't go over that whole story.

I am stuck with a man who doesn't love me. He does not know how to love, he just knows how to use women. He was raised in a very wealthy family. Spoiled rotten, used women his whole life to his benefit, thinks he should be treated like a child at 60 years old, never had any children of his own, hates them.
I have three children, married and 7 grandchildren.
OK, trying to make this short as I can. (he has no money , by the way)

No sex in the 3 out of 4 years of marriage. His ex wife from 20 years ago made my and our life miserable, thanks to him. Now an older woman has been in our life for years. He accepts gifts from her, confides in her. She bought a club here just for him. She has no business skills so know both he and her are going to lose everything connected with it.
He is on every social forum know to man, connecting with women everyday. I'm tired of it.
I know I should leave. I have a business connected with what he does.

I used to be attractive( 3 years ago). After what I have been through with him, I gave up. Put on 60#.

He told me I could not be seen in public, it would wreck 'our' public image. Of course he is always on stage.....but I haven't been seen in years.
It is killing me, not the being seen thing, just the fact he rejects me.
I am starting a diet. I was always the size 0 woman. ,yes hard to believe now.

I gave up when I lost the kids and grandkids moving here and found he didn't give a damn.

My business is mine, but it is successful with the help of his name, but not to the point I could support myself.

I have no money........we do everything separate, according to his rules. I am not allowed to speak. I cook, clean , run my business, while he is on-line with these other women. I hate me for putting up with it.

But I remember not being able to make rent. I am a very hard worker, never got welfare. But I know I will be homeless if I leave him.

I started drinking again, haven't seen my kids or grandkids in 3 years. My granddaughter I was so close to just turned 13. I called her on her B-day....she cried....I was sober....just we miss each other so much.
My kids are having their own struggles with the economy. No help.

I just take it. But when I drink, it gives me courage to say.....this is not right, these women are not right. Sober I can't say that. I almost think, my only way out is to have courage from drink. Crazy I know, but sober, I let him walk all over me.

How can I ever get the courage sober to say, this is enough? I am so afraid sober. If I drink a 12 pack of beer (which he buys on my bank card) I then can say something. Of course he pays no attention to me.

I have been up all night. Gee sober I go two nights without sleep. I want to say, stop this.

[rubywillow]

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Grace, first, I'm sending you a hug. That's me, giving you a big ole' tight one. We become comfortable in our misery sometimes. It's what we know, and we find security in it, even though we know we are wrong. I can't imagine what you're going through, but you can see it has to change or you will lose yourself entirely. First, find someone there in your life who will advocate for you; a friend, a doctor, a counselor. I recommend a counselor. You don't have to tell husband anything. If you can leave the AL out of it, begin to build your OWN separate life, while you are married, while you have a home and connections. Your weight is something you worry about more than the rest of the world, and stopping a case of beer will begin to drop weight of miraculously. You don't have to confront him, doesn't sound like he will notice your getting stronger and better, until you are strong and confident enough to break it all off and get out of there. This is ONLY an option; its not easy to give advice on such complicated life problems to someone. But if nothing else, stop the AL. It is digging you in deeper. I'm here for you to talk to when you need me.
Rubes

[Guest]

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I know, I wrote too much and did it in the wrong place.
I'm sorry.
Gee, I think it is better if I just read everyone what others have posted.
I so admire the friendships I seen formed here.
I wish you all the best. Please forgive me for my long......post.

I have no choice. I know I will live with this till I die or they kicked me out of this horrible one room apt.

[rubywillow]

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Grace, this is THE place to tell it all. Never apologize for pouring out your heart. Sometimes just doing that makes us feel better. And the door is always open. I have only my experiences to draw on, and can't relate to how you've stood for this so long, but I've known many women (and men) who have, and its so sad to me. We each should be celebrated for our unique personalities, not condemned.

[Guest]

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Not a case of beer, a 12 pack which is bad enough, and just last night, not usually. I can go days without, but uncomfortable. If I drink hard alcohol....I go crazy....so I try very hard to avoid. He is a heavy drinker and does beer, whiskey and Xanax.
We have no health insurance, I have high blood pressure with no medication for 6 months, he is unemployed, officially, so I can't get any health care. He pays a huge amount on Cobra just for himself , his last job he did not put me on his health insurance, but he needs his Xanax.

[rubywillow]

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OK, another good reason to stay away from AL! When I first went to the doc sev years ago my BP was 200/160. They wouldn't even let me leave the office! I've been on a prescription for that and BP is good as long as I don't drink. We're at an age where we don't bounce back, and I have some health issues that I have to be very careful about. I hope you will make your own plan, something you can work with, with a goal of happiness and self-respect. Be good to yourself today.