Temptress

[Gearhead]

So I get a bizzare IM on Facebook from a cute single girl from work late Friday night asking me to come over and watch a move.. So I agree and head on my way. She asks me what type of beer, I say "would rather have coke" but she is insistent and sure enough puts it in my hand when I arrive. I set it down, we talk. I becomes obvious that she likes me, and secondly, shes pretty sauced. I took a sip of the beer as I did not want to be rude, but left it at that and she stopped asking. Barely even a swalllow. I continued to ignore it. Frankly, I didn't even want it even though it would have helped with the neverousness. Anyway, I need to have the medication excuse ready to go quick next time to avoid the situation. Its like, you don't want to advertise this addiction to the world, so it requires some careful tactlful handling of sitations.

[sick of being sick]

Temptress

You can't drink for health reasons.

[Guest]

Temptress

I'll leave other people to give you excuses....I just want the gossip!

Did you ask her on a date? :H (Whoops! You probably didn't. I read "sauced" as "scared" the first time around.)

I have a few friends who don't drink and they simply say that they don't like it.

Spam
xx

[JimBeam911]

Temptress

That's a tricky situation Gearhead. I know what you mean about not wanting to advertise things. Last weekend a few people were attempting to joke at my expense (I say attempting, because they had alcohol-fueled delusions of being witty) about my polite decline to drink. They actually used the argument that people who don't drink are bowing to social pressure!!? As opposed to all the rampant individualists who can't think of anything better to do for fun than get drunk to fit in with the crowd! As you can guess, my retort was not appreciated, but it was actually quite fun putting these drunken imbeciles in their proper place. Watching drunk people argue from a sober standpoint is reason enough never to touch the stuff again.

But I digress. I suspect that if this girl was, as you report "sauced", this likely explains why she was aggressive in offering you a beer. She very well might just have been nervous, which led her to drink, and impaired her thinking. Overall I haven't met much resistance in declining drinks, even among people who have known me as a drinker, so I would just chalk this up to a random fluke. But you're right, it's imperative to have a strategy.

[startingover]

Temptress

Spam;814167 wrote: I'll leave other people to give you excuses....I just want the gossip!

Did you ask her on a date? :H (Whoops! You probably didn't. I read "sauced" as "scared" the first time around.)

I have a few friends who don't drink and they simply say that they don't like it.

Spam
xx

LMAO! I am with Spam re the gossip :H

I just say I am driving or on meds.

[Gearhead]

Temptress

No she IM'd me and asked me over. THe fact that she works close by kinda creeps me out. Lotta awkward elevator moments. But on the bright side, girls are taking an interest in me a again!

[Doggygirl]

Temptress

I'm loving the gossip too!

I have found that people don't really give a rats behind if I drink or not. The heavy drinkers are concerned about their own drinking, and the normal drinkers don't always drink, and don't really expect it of others. I worried a lot more about "what people would think" than was necessary. "No thanks" is plenty. "I don't drink" is more than enough. My reasons are nobody's business, period.

There will come a time when you will probably laugh about how worried you were about what people would think. And realize that they think about what *we* are doing...not very much.

DG

[rubywillow]

Temptress

I like what DG said; those with a drinking problem look for validation by surrounding themselves with others who drink. YOU know it's their problem, and when they're alone, at night or in the morning when they're fighting that hangover, they know it too. Misery loves company. But YES! give us the details. Is she someone you'll see again socially? Had you noticed her before that way? Probably she drank for courage.
Anyway, you got to see another whole side of living sober recently. Great, ain't it?? :H

[Cinders]

Temptress

Yes. Those that live on a vicarious level, ME, want to know the details.

However, I do want to say that someone who pushes a drink in your hand should be avoided.

Truly.

Love,
Cindi

[Gearhead]

Temptress

I got a slew of apologetic texts the following day about her tipsiness. I SO have been the one shoving drinks on people when I was on the other side. Funny thing is, that beer tasted repulsive. I would NEVER have thrown away a full beer before. Embarassingly I was usually stealing sips and or finishing those of others. Being sober to drive home at 3am to get out of a weird situation is a good thing.