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[spuddleduck]

just found out that my dad has been rushed into hospital this morning... background, he is very ill, on oxygen at home and basically just waiting to die.. he's a tough old bugger and hanging on in there. they think its his kidneys packing in. just waiting to see what happens. this is a time i would rush to the booze to ease stuff but i WILL NOT DO THAT. please any words and positives as to WHY I WILL NOT DRINK NOW. gonna go get busy in garden and take dogs out...NOT PASSED A BAR OR BOOZE SELLING PLACE. sorry for not being too jolly. today started brill... sober sunday wehey, but im feeling a bit twitchy now x

[greeneyes]

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Excellent job for coming here and asking for help!! I'm terribly sorry for you dad and will keep him and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I think it goes without saying that drinking will, with utmost certatiny, make things worse. It is fortunate that you started out brill and have that as a basis. You can keep on that level by controlling your thoughts and actions. Stay busy with your projects. But do take time to eat well, stay hydrated and breathe deeply. Spend some time with your thoughts and feelings about your dad and DO feel them. Acknowledge them, even if they are uncomfortable. Stay strong and true to your goals. Right? You can get through this on your own. You really can!

[mario]

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Sending you lots of positive thoughts spuddleduck,As you well no drinking will certainally not help anyone,share your thoughts & feelings here and try and keep to your goals,

[JackieClaire]

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Well done for reaching out here first instead of reaching out for the bottle.
Will be thinking of you,spuddles.
J x
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[pompeyman]

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sorry about your dad . . . . stick in there ive only just returned to this site and someone above is right .... a drink will only make things worse pompeyman

[startingover]

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Hiya Spuddy, lots of strength coming to you.
I promise you, drinking will make it so much worse. x

[mollyka]

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Hey Spud
So sorry about your Dad, hang on in there.
Its a very tough time when a parent is very ill, I know, my Mum being ill accelerated my drinking two years ago, however as everyone previously has said the drinking will make everything so much worse. Run through in your head how you see the next 24/48 hours likely to play out, then place yourself into that place/time sober and drunk, you will see how a drinking you will be horrendous for you and your Dad

[ladyjan]

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hey spuddlduck..it's very,very hard hitting when it's one of our parents..
just gotta hold on in there..
a drink truly is the last thing you need right now, can you be with your dad?? do you live close enough??
if not can you get there?? you need your emotions clear right now, not drunken haze you will regret it forever.. stay sober Spuddles.. the bottle is zero comfort..
sending warm feelings to you..
Jan..:h

[spuddleduck]

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thanks all. it really helps to have you guys confirm what i allready know that drinking wont help. its a toughie but i know its true. he was in intensive care last year very ill. i went in pissed and sat with my bottle of lemonade (and vodka). i really upset people especially my mum, she doesnt drink and hates to see me drunk. i felt so ashamed and awful after. cant believe im wanting to drink again. thanks ive just had the 24/48 thoughts and the drinking one is an awful one. ive got to be there for my mum. thanks again so much.. im keeping busy with the garden and dogs. I WILL NOT SINK INTO THE BOOZE xx :l :thanks:

[mario]

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Good for you puddleduck and your ma and family will be proud of you as yourself should be,keep keeping busy and later if bored come here.

[Anotherday]

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spuddleduck;817821 wrote: thanks all. it really helps to have you guys confirm what i allready know that drinking wont help. its a toughie but i know its true. he was in intensive care last year very ill. i went in pissed and sat with my bottle of lemonade (and vodka). i really upset people especially my mum, she doesnt drink and hates to see me drunk. i felt so ashamed and awful after. cant believe im wanting to drink again. thanks ive just had the 24/48 thoughts and the drinking one is an awful one. ive got to be there for my mum. thanks again so much.. im keeping busy with the garden and dogs. I WILL NOT SINK INTO THE BOOZE xx :l :thanks:

Please don't beat yourself up. For people like us, it's NORMAL to want to drink. Unfortunately, the outcomes for us when we do are not very good. Please for your own sake and your dad's sake, get rid of the vodka altogether. That may seem too hard, but if these are the last memories you are going to have of him, and have to relive them, you want them to be AF and clear-headed. I am so sorry for what you and your mom and dad are going through. Take care of you hon, love AD

[Sheepish]

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I am sorry Spuddle. Sounds like you are headed down the right path. Keep reminding yourself how awful and ashamed you felt last year with your mom- you DON'T want to go there again and better still you DON'T HAVE TO! You can do it-your mum (and you) will have one less thing to worry about.
take care
-Sheep

[mama bear]

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Hang in there SPuds.....sending love and strength

[Funny Girl]

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Spuddle - just try to visualize how proud you'll be that you could be fully there for your mom while all of this plays out. It's hard I know, but the last thing you need on top of worry is guilt. We're thinking of you.

[dancelot]

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Spuddleduck - Sending love and prayers to your father, you, and your family. We can only be fully present in a situation like this when sober. Know you can do it, that you are not the person you were a year ago. You will get through this sober and I know your father and mother will be grateful. We are all here for you. Much love! :l :h