I am posting this thread mostly for cowgal (it would have been a pm) but realise there are so many that are dealing with divorce and AL or drug abuse. A little over a year ago I had no idea how I was going to be able to financially, emotionally, physically or happily live my life. I was in the process of buying my house from my Ex and learning how to live on one income in a house that we struggled to keep with two of us. All I knew was that there was no explaination as to why we could not comfortably afford this small house except the drugs and alcohol the ex was using. And at some point I was drinking too which did not help. What I can say is that he used a debit card like there was a never ending stream of money on the other side and I juggled to try to pay it all. No wonder I was stressed and depressed. I drove a 10 year old car and never bought myself anything and still felt like I was drowning.
This week I bought myself (OK leased and it is a Toyota) my very first ever new car. I have never driven a new car in my life. I payed by older sons tuition at college, helped him with rent, payed his cell phone and did this in the same house on one salary.I had to buy him out so I owe more on the house than I did when we were married. I do not share my personal info for any reason but to let people like Cowgal know that things get better. And it can happen quickly. Things improve financially, emotionally, physically and in spirit. Oh did I mention at first me and the boys were doing the lawn and now I have a lawn guy. I am not saying any of this is easy. I am saying I am working harder for the things I want. I am focusing on today and not as concerned about what people think. I would like it to be easier but I am really doing what I need to to help me. I will need to sell this house at some point but I am ready to do that and move on.
I have not been around at MWO as much because I have had alot going on in my life but I honestly want to send the message that while life is not easy it is better and with work it will get better everyday. Divorce does not need to be the end but you have to decide to not let it. Focus on your future and look ahead. Hope this helps Cowgal and anyone else who is struggling through divorce. I was that person 1 year ago.
Today I am so happy that I went through it all and thankful for my friends at MWO especially the Darrens ( you know who you are). My freinds here made all the difference and they can for all of you too.
This week I bought myself (OK leased and it is a Toyota) my very first ever new car. I have never driven a new car in my life. I payed by older sons tuition at college, helped him with rent, payed his cell phone and did this in the same house on one salary.I had to buy him out so I owe more on the house than I did when we were married. I do not share my personal info for any reason but to let people like Cowgal know that things get better. And it can happen quickly. Things improve financially, emotionally, physically and in spirit. Oh did I mention at first me and the boys were doing the lawn and now I have a lawn guy. I am not saying any of this is easy. I am saying I am working harder for the things I want. I am focusing on today and not as concerned about what people think. I would like it to be easier but I am really doing what I need to to help me. I will need to sell this house at some point but I am ready to do that and move on.
I have not been around at MWO as much because I have had alot going on in my life but I honestly want to send the message that while life is not easy it is better and with work it will get better everyday. Divorce does not need to be the end but you have to decide to not let it. Focus on your future and look ahead. Hope this helps Cowgal and anyone else who is struggling through divorce. I was that person 1 year ago.
Today I am so happy that I went through it all and thankful for my friends at MWO especially the Darrens ( you know who you are). My freinds here made all the difference and they can for all of you too.
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