Hw to live with a drinker

[Guest]

This is the hard thing. I can stay sober for months, but in the frig is beer all the time, always huge bottles of whiskey sitting around. i can do it months at a time........then just can't.
Why do people in our life who hate our drinking demand that they can keep doing it. Just too hard to quit with it availble. I realize my husband is my enabler. He can't quit, but we both hate that I do.

I've tried to edit the title here, it is how to live with a drinker.

[hillsidetime]

Hw to live with a drinker

Hi there SG, you sure do face a tough battle here. It must be very difficult and confusing. I wish I could help give you a good answer to your question, but I don't think I can. Any time that we are sober is good, the more the better. It certainly is hard with booze all around, and drinking happening in front of you all the time. Hang in there,
Hill

[Guest]

Hw to live with a drinker

SG,
I have been in a similiar situation, not with AL and I wont give out the specifics but I was like ur husband in that he probably thinks he is not doing anything wrong so he needs to see it in a different view. If ur husband doesnt like snakes (or something else) and u brought some into your house, you would not being respectful of his issue. Technically u are not doing anything wrong but it's a matter of respect. Try to come up with a scenario that would apply to your situation that he will understand. Hope this helps and isnt just gibberish!

[Doggygirl]

Hw to live with a drinker

Saving Grace, I hope you will reach out to others here at MWO who have successfully quit drinking despite living with drinkers. LVT is one who comes to mind. Maybe you could reach out to her via PM and ask for some advice / support? I'm sure there are others too who can offer some wisdom. IT CAN BE DONE. I know it's more difficult. But there IS a way and I hope you find it!

DG

[LVT25]

Hw to live with a drinker

Hi saving grace. Your title caught my eye.

I think I know how you feel. My hubby and I have been drinking buddies as long as we've been together, which is 23 years now. We have 2 sons and both pregnancies were extremely difficult, because of all the partying when I could not.

I will say, that it can be done. You can quit even if he doesn't. I will never ask my hubby to quit, even though I think he has a problem. He knows. My nagging him or pushing him won't help, in fact it would probably make it worse. Fortunately (or not) he does the majority of his drinking out in his shop or out and about, not around me. This was particularly hard at first, because that is when we spent our time together, drinking and talking. I can say now after this much time, it doesn't really bother me when he drinks around me, at least he wants to be around.

I could probably write a book about the subject, but won't take up space here. You most certainly can pm me if you'd like to visit more about this. I will say, be patient and do your own thing. As long as I am busy and not focused on him and his drinking I am a lot happier. I have been totally AF for a year and a half now, and we are still learning how to deal with this new lifestyle. I realized that I drank a lot of the time so I could be on the same level as the drinkers. Now I understand that really isn't necessary.

Take care and keep trying, it is so worth it!